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User Topic: Dealing With Depression
mommy0508
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

itspjw -

Sorry still trying to figure out abbreviations, what does Sab mean?


Wipe your mouth there is still a little bit of bullshit around your lips!
D-Day #1: 5/29/09
D-Day # 2: 7/1/08
D-Day #3: 6/17/10 possible oc on way and
my own little miracle on the way-miscarried!

Posts: 733 | Registered: Jul 2009
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sexual abuse


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
mommy0508
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry to hear that, if you need anyone to talk to PM me anytime!


Wipe your mouth there is still a little bit of bullshit around your lips!
D-Day #1: 5/29/09
D-Day # 2: 7/1/08
D-Day #3: 6/17/10 possible oc on way and
my own little miracle on the way-miscarried!

Posts: 733 | Registered: Jul 2009
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.

I am working on this in IC, in addition to posting on the Sab thread here and posting on another board.

It's not easy to deal with, and the depression doesn't help.

Dealing with all three (Depression, Affair, Sab) all at once really sucks!


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
mommy0508
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yah that is a load nobody should have!


Wipe your mouth there is still a little bit of bullshit around your lips!
D-Day #1: 5/29/09
D-Day # 2: 7/1/08
D-Day #3: 6/17/10 possible oc on way and
my own little miracle on the way-miscarried!

Posts: 733 | Registered: Jul 2009
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, September 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree.

However, that is what I have, and I have learned from experience, it is what it is, and I have to go from here and do what I can starting now.


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
annb
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, September 12th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm finally meeting with my doctor again on Monday. Last meds did not work at all.

I am so, so tired of feeling sad. I am also scared there's not a drug out there that can help me since I've struck out with five medications already. I don't think I can take much more.

I'm feeling desperate for some relief.

[This message edited by annb at 5:30 PM, September 12th (Saturday)]


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annb
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, September 14th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just met with my doctor. She doesn't want to try a different medication and is sending me back to a psychiatrist because now I have to try the third class of drugs.

I have to wait until the end of October for an appointment. I feel so desperate for relief.


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mommy0508
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, September 14th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

annb -

Can you go to another doctor?


Wipe your mouth there is still a little bit of bullshit around your lips!
D-Day #1: 5/29/09
D-Day # 2: 7/1/08
D-Day #3: 6/17/10 possible oc on way and
my own little miracle on the way-miscarried!

Posts: 733 | Registered: Jul 2009
mommy0508
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, September 14th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Something i have been thinking about a lot lately is, two days after i found out (which was the day of our 5 year wedding anniversary) I took a bunch of pills. Anyway, my H told me that, that was a real eye opener for him, because he was denying everything, EVERYTHING and he was caught making out with her in a parking lot. Whatever.

So this thing out of all the things I have done in my life I would take back in a heartbeat if I could do it over, is the one thing that finally opened his eyes. So if I wouldn't have tried to kill myself we wouldn't be married right now and he would be with OW?

Or lets say I succeeded, then they would still be together and nobody would ever know the truth, because nobody believed it until it finally came out of his mouth a month later!

How the hell do I get that horrible feeling and resentment out of my system?


Wipe your mouth there is still a little bit of bullshit around your lips!
D-Day #1: 5/29/09
D-Day # 2: 7/1/08
D-Day #3: 6/17/10 possible oc on way and
my own little miracle on the way-miscarried!

Posts: 733 | Registered: Jul 2009
tanyaread
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Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, September 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm feeling awful today. Truly terrible. I've been sitting at my desk (at home) trying to work for 2 hours but all I do is stare at the screen. So counter-productive because if I don't work then I feel worse.

I just feel like I'm in a dark tunnel. I'm not on medications - I can't even get myself together for the doctor's.


Me (BS): 30
WH: 44
OW: 35
Married: 1 year
D/d: 4 July 2008
Status: Divorcing

Posts: 58 | Registered: Aug 2008
annb
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Default  Posted: 6:11 AM, September 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tanya,

you have to make an appointment with the doctor.

I have been waiting for almost 7 months to find the right medication, sometimes it takes time.

Please pick up the phone and make the call. You will feel so much better.

Positive thoughts coming your way, I can relate so well to not being able to focus and living with a shroud of darkness.

Please keep posting and get meds for yourself.


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jtiger
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, September 25th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My meds are making me very sleepy in the afternoon. I'll be meeting with my dr next week. Anyone else have this issue?


BS(me)-30
WS- 31
OW-23 (Best friend's sister in law)
Married-6 years
Together-14 years
EA/PA D-Day 8/9/09
R Day ?

Posts: 149 | Registered: Aug 2009
wolfen
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, September 28th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

its been 4 weeks since ive found out about the A.im still highly depressed ive been thinking about suicide alot lately.i really feel like i have nothing to live for anymore....

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sportsfan
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, September 28th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PM me anytime wolfen - seriously. I'll do the best I can to help you...anytime!!

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trescasse
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Helpless  Posted: 11:13 AM, September 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've dealt with depression and anxiety on and off for years. It became rally bad when I found out a year into our marriage that my XH hadn't filed taxes in 10 years, owed IRS $690,000.00, found out he owed his XW $26,000.00 in arrears. We discussed finances and bc I had been in business with my first husband I was very specific about debt and tax compliance. My 2nd XH outright lied to me about it before I married him. I was devistated when I learned of this betrayal. And he didn't seem to understand the gravity of what he had done by deceiving me.

I took the matter into my own hands and got an accountant to help mediate with the IRS and took care of the problem. Then later gave up my half of a very large tax return to offer his X a settlement.

I had just started to breathe after 8 years of helping him get his life straight. I was feeling confident and outgoing and contented then BAM! I started suspecting him of A, and soon after, it was confirmed.

We separated after almost 9 years of marriage. He tried to have it all and kept trying to keep me hanging on by coming back to me, and leaving again as soon as I would agree to put the divorce on administrative closing.

I lost 50lbs, was severely depressed and 3-1/2 years later I'm still depressed. During most of that 3 years I was on opiate meds for chronic pain, and I became physically dependent. This became a thorn in my side, so I quit the Opiate meds and have been through horrific protracted withdrawl. The accompanying depression and anxiety of that is what landed me in a psych ward. I have a history of being resistant to SSRI's and am allergic to the only SDRI/SNRI on the market.

But I just couldn't take this deep dark depression so
I started taking Celexa again a few days ago. Now I feel worse. I am still depressed and have a headache and muscle spasm's along with the depression.

I often wish I could just die in my sleep. I am overwhelmed with financial problems due to XH's failure to honor divorce agreement and medical bills. I vascilate between anger and profound sadness and hopelessness.


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trescasse
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, September 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We discussed finances and bc I had been in business with my first husband I was very specific about debt and tax compliance.

What I meant to say is that during courtship we discussed finances. Since I had already experienced tax problems from being in business with my 1st H, I wanted to make sure that I wasn't getting into another marriage with more of the same. My 2nd XH was self employeed too.


Posts: 33 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: USA
annb
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, September 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, trescasse,

Just wanted to let you know you are being heard.

Depression is so debilitating. I also am having a difficult time finding a med that doesn't have major side effects for me.

Keep posting here, it helps a bit.

I am so sorry you are going through this emotional and physical pain.


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trescasse
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, September 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thx Ann...it helps to be "heard".

Posts: 33 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: USA
clralb
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, September 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My meds are making me very sleepy in the afternoon

Take them in the evening, about an hour before you are going to sleep. I had the same problem, so now I take them at night and do not have a problem anymore.


BS Divorced.

They were right about you.


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