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capri
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Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, October 4th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't call fwh a sex addict. He swears there was no sex, no kissing, no hand-holding, nothing, with any of these women. Of course, he's lied to me a few times before....

I think with him, it's about the ego strokes.

mommato4, my fwh also labels his daily warm-fuzzy e-mail forwards, his visits to her desk, the lies, etc. with ow3 as merely 'inappropriate.' I want to ask, what does that MEAN?? It wasn't an ea, it wasn't really 'wrong,' it was just... 'inappropriate.' It belittles the pain it caused. I told him this morning I need a NAME, a WORD for what it was, because 'inappropriate' can't possibly hurt this much.

aphrodite, I'm still with him. Sadly, I think it's strictly because of the children at this point.

Hosea, I had to laugh at your post-- in the sense of if I don't laugh, I'll cry. My husband has also written or said things about how he prides himself on his honesty and integrity! Having weekly coffee dates for 2 or more years on end with another woman and lying to me about it... and he actually believes he's a man of honesty and integrity? Which dictionary is he using, because I want to sleep with the ten best looking and richest guys in this country, steal their wallets when I'm through, and still be a woman of virtue!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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wantmore
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Suspicious  Posted: 2:08 PM, October 10th (Wednesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband has also written or said things about how he prides himself on his honesty and integrity!

Mine too! He really thinks that lies of ommission aren't really lies. So, he's honest, right?

He didn't want to hurt me, so he's virtuous, right?

And, he couldn't hurt OW#2's feelings by "putting her aside like a potted plant", then he wouldn't be the good guy, ya know?

And when I had my d-day it was all about OW#2, he swore to himself I'd never find out about OW#1, the one he was in loooove with. I found out about #3 and #4 (attempted affairs, didn't get to follow through on them) by reading his old emails from OW#2.

He is an unreformed, functioning alcoholic, and that has its own field of landmines.

Those of you who remember me from last year know I kind of set him up, baited him, and he bit the bait. Then I bailed without even letting him know it was a setup.

As I said in another thread last week, the nicest thing I ever did for him is let him belive our breakup was mutal.

As I said last week, mutual my big white ass.


Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Of course it helps to know you *have* enemies.

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1SadDude
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, October 11th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My W had 2 year EA and PA for the last 5 months until 5/2007. Hit me so hard I can't believe it. I know what depression is now... We were in MC for weeks trying to figure things out...

I started feeling really funny about her and this construction worker, working on our new house!!! Her and the MC really started working me over about my lack of trust and paranoia...

Turns out she fell in with this guy (never met until 1 month after dday 1), the whole sole mate thing, rewriting our relationship etc.

We have a new MC and are trying to work through it but as you can imagine it is really hard for me. The first one I could understand on some level, the second one has me thinking some sort of *other* issue. Very sad times for me weighing divorce, kids, etc...


Me BH 40+
Her WW 40+
Kids 4/6/8

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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, October 11th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1sad....

Welcome. Sorry to hear your ciscumstances. Post here. It helps.


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, October 18th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does anyone have info / advice on "serail cheaters". I see them referenced ion books and article, but am having difficulty actually finding specific info on the "disorder".

How many of you have successfully recovered your marriage with a serial cheater?

For those of you that have had numerous affairs, did you WANT TO stop but couldn't.......have you been able to?

I would greatly appreciate you info / advice

Thanks in advance!!


Wounded Spouse
ME - 41 BS
HIM 51 WS
Married 2/93 3 beautiful children
DDay #1 8-26-07 DDay #2 11-8-07 DDAy #3 12-23-07 DDay #?! 7-2-07
"If you ask me what I came into this world to do, I will tell you: "I came to live out loud."

Posts: 1381 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: midwest,
capri
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, October 18th (Thursday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wantmore, yep that all sounds like my husband. The day I told him he can d*mn well STOP visiting ow3 at her desk (which she thought was his 'favorite thing' ) he WAIIILLLLED, "What am I supposed to tell ow3???" Gosh-- what a nice guy to be so concerned about her well-being. I think maybe I told him to tell her the truth, that since she doesn't know proper boundaries with married men, you're not the last married man who's going to be ordered to stay away from her like she's got leprosy.

As to ow1, he pretty much made me the bad guy, saying I gave him an ultimatum and he hopes she and her husband never have to go through what he's going through.

the MC really started working me over about my lack of trust and paranoia...

Do we have the same counselor?? According to mc2, there was no need to talk about anything 'in the past.' We really just had to start fresh, I had to just 'make a choice to trust,' and in the end, the real problem according to him was my anger. Isn't it tempting to set his wife up with a few secret friends and see if he develops an anger problem himself!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, October 21st (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can so relate to all the posts here. My FWH has admitted to 12 affairs in the last 15 years of a 30 year marriage. He confessed because he wanted to end that life style. My D-day was 3 months ago and i have learned so much about this awful topic that i never wanted to know.

I also forced my H to go to a SA meeting and then we discovered from our therapist that he was not a sex addict. they define a sex addict as someone who has sex with prostitues or on line affairs, who is not looking for the emotional factor. My H had many LTA and i had double betrayal too. He had many women at the same time.

These men are empty and broken inside and whenever they find a woman to tell them how great, handsome, smart. strong, funny and SPECIAL they are, they fuck them! It helps them see themselves as wonderful men, and makes them forget how insecure and empty they really are.

My H flirted with other women from the first time we met, often in front of me. I was broken when i met him, so i accepted this, but i grew up and he didnt.

We are in MC now, and the therapist says that my H never stopped loving me but that he was ANGRY at me, fot not giving him the attention he wanted.

OH YES, my H is a NARCISIST too. H always thought the world revolved around him and i enabled him to function that way.

Now i have learned.

Some days the pain is so great, i dont know how i can survive. Part of me wants to kick him the hell out, and part of me believes that he can actually change into the human being he says he can.

All i know is that this sucks. I regret the day i married my H, and wish that i had been a more confident person so i was not attracted to this kind of man. I wish i had not accepted all of his verbal abuse all of these years. My only crime was loving him and my 3 kids and wanting him to focus on us, instead of making everyone else like him all the time, and little did i know - about all the affairs.

How stupid could i be????


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weepy
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, October 21st (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sunflower... you weren't stupid. You were trusting and true.

Everyone has regrets in their life. Things they wish they could go back and do over again if they had the chance. Knowing what I do now, no, I probably wouldn't have married my H either. But we dont' know that at the beginning.

There were hints, flags even while we dated, but I ignored them like I ignored the A flags. We thought better of them than they did of themselves.

All As are selfish, narcissistic in some form. And SA does not always include pros and escorts or online stuff... I believe my H is a recovering SA. He wasn't when he went into the affair mode, but became that way during it.

My H swears he never stopped loving me either, but in a family kind of way, not a sexual human being kind of way. And sexual anorexia with your love partner is a sign of SA.

My H also had to be the good guy, the go to guy, the be all and end all to everyone outside our family unit. We did without while he did for everyone else because they "appreciated" him more.

It's part of the A mode too. Your H probably moved on the moment the bloom was off the rose of each affair. My H went into each affair with blinders on, telling himself it was just for fun, for sex, meant nothing. Five years out from his last affair, he still believes that.

I know how you struggle. I do too. It's a waiting game if you have the patience.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
LLady8
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sunflower, I am sorry you are here. Listen to Weepy - you are NOT stupid. We all believed and trusted our Wayward spouses - they took advantage of our trust and love for them. The fact that your spouse confessed gives me hope that he truly wants to change. My WH was caught in his last affair and it took him over a year before he confessed to all the others before that. We are still recovering and our counselor gives us much hope that people can change especially in the aftermath of so much pain. I will never totally trust again, but now I see that to my advantage. Because of this experience I am more aware of the signs of cheating and we have very firm boundaries that can not be crossed like I allowed before(when I trusted). My WH continues to show tremendous remourse, and is humbled by my unconditional love. We have both become stronger people and partners.

It is a long, painful road to recovery. You will both be challenged but the bond that grows between you during this crisis can be amazing and unbreakable. Good Luck!


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In R since first dday

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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Add me to the group too. I discovered recently that my WH had muliple affairs within the past 7 years. It hurts like hell, b/c I had no idea. I also get very angry with him for wasting my time. I really didn't want to be with him in the first place, but co-dependancy kicked in and I felt that he and his son needed me.

I am so pissed b/c we do still live in the same house, and part take a a few activities. I really don't want to go anywhere with him. I am trying to withdraw from him emotionally.

Yesterday, his aunts got into a car accident and the family members were at the ER. We dropped by, but after a few minutes I withdraw myself from the crowd b/c I didn't want to maintain his image of the perfect husband, son, uncle, newphrew, cousin, etc. I am not going to their house for the holidays as well.

I really feel that why he wants to keep me around, to uphold his image while living a secret life.

I also realized yesterday, what made the affairs end. Did he stop them or did the OW? I don't know much about the other affairs only one. But she told me that she ended it and he was upset. I can't believe that he would do those things and come home and look me in my face like nothing. It would have torn me apart if it was me. But he is not me.

I am coming to the conclusion that even if he does get help for his actions, I can no longer trust him and do not want to move forward in our relationship together. I want to move out with my son; but have to save some money and wait until my lease ends next year.


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capri
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

what made the affairs end. Did he stop them or did the OW?

In our case, the cyber-footsies and visits at the desk with ow3 stopped because I demanded it.

Coffee dates with ow2 stopped because she got a new job and disappeared without leaving a forwarding address, so to speak.

LT 'friendship' with ow1 stopped (if it really did) because I gave him an ultimatum.

It hurts and is telling that in none of these cases did he stop because he realized it was wrong and kind of sleazy to be lying to your wife.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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weepy
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I only know what he "says".

He says he stopped because he couldn't get any lower, he was almost suicidal with guilt.

However, I also found out that LTAP had been arrested for dealing drugs just prior to his "quitting". I'm sure her higher exposure ruined the secret. He couldn't risk getting caught with her, with drugs.

He swears he told her he was done and she said "ok". AFter 7 years, she said "ok" with no fishing afterward, no pleading, no contact, everything just fine. I know he maintained at least a cordial relationship with her because they traveled in the same circles. And he couldn't afford to piss her off.

But the truth.... I'll never know.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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capri
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, October 22nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny, isn't it? Supposedly "OK" was ow1's response, also, to being told a 13 year friendship was over. I find that hard to believe.

We did have weeks of nightly hang-up calls afterward that finally ended when I said, "How are you doing, ow1?" But that, of course, was just a coincidence, and he swears she wouldn't do a thing like that.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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sunflower18
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Default  Posted: 1:22 AM, October 28th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks weepy and llady. Your words are so helpful. My H wants to become a different person and regrets everything. has anyone out there had a husband who feels that he cant believe what he did? like he woke up and sees the terrible things? how is that possible?

my therapist says that anger MASKS guilt but i dont get it. he felt no guilt for many years and now feels so much.


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weepy
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, October 28th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sun, my H said that's why he quit. He woke up one day and felt so awful, so wracked with guilt, realized how much he had missed by not being involved with the family. Saw everything in a different light.

He said even then it wasn't easy. He was so used to that life, that giving up his "easy" lays was tough. He turned to porn and MB for quite a while (years) to avoid going there. He still felt he couldn't be with me... partly because of the guilt, partly because he was still angry with me. And partly because he wanted to make sure he had no STD or anything. He never got tested the whole time... he f'd cheap hookers and never got tested...talk about denial.

While he was active... he was the most miserable, angry, self-righteous, arrogant SOB on the planet. We could do nothing right. My son's almost straight A report cards, well, why was there a B? He would punish the kids for C's. I was stupid and fat and purposely making him mad. If I let his favorite soup brand drop below 3 cans on the shelf, it was a reason to berate me for days.

The sad part is if my H sees his actions, believes he was really like that,he'll never admit it...still in denial.

There used to be a few Waywards on here with multiple affairs, they were very helpful in explaining some of the mindset for me.

I still don't trust him and he says it's been 6 years since he even wanted to be with anther. That he beat his "addiction". I still see him as being in recovery, so I will watch.

It's a horrid life.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, October 28th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey sunflower,

My WH, like yours, feels incredible shame, remorse, guilt...the whole gamut. I have a friend who works with survivors of childhood sexual abuse and, while my WH wasn't sexually abused (not that he "remembers"), he nonetheless had an incredibly oppressive childhood. My friend explained to me that, for him, compartmentalizing was just a way of life for him. He would do something "wrong", then come home and look his father (a judge, no less) in the eye and say nothing. So, by the time he got to me, 15 years later, it was nothing to do something that, when he looked at it, was "disgusting" to him, then come home and be the family man. I can't imagine it, but I'm learning to put myself in his shoes and recognize how great the pain/sense of worthlessness was that he craved the release of a meaningless encounter like it was a drug. And now that he's actually acknowledging the feelings, it's all flooding back.
Now it's me who's the numb one!
Did anyone have any idea how bizarre this world was? I was such a Pollyanna... JavaScript:AddSmily('%20%20')


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, October 29th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Weepy-
My H confessed and gave up the lifestyle when he lost his job of 32 years. his job was his whole identitiy and he had many of his women there. when he realized that no one at his job stood up for him, and i was still standing at his side, he couldnt face me anymore without telling. then it was like he woke up, and discovered all that he had done in the last 12 years.

My H was a bully in my house- intimidating the children and also demanding. he was physiclly abusive with my 2 sons as his father was with him. he never connected himself to other cheaters, when we discussed other people that we knew. how is that possible that he couldnt see that he was one of them???

how could he feel NO guilt and now feels nothing BUT guilt?? he says that he hates the old him and wants to be a whole new person, but i dont know if i can forgive him. he has not done anything sexual since d-day - 3 months ago. he has been depressed and sometimes suicidal.

i feel repulsed at the thought of him touching me. i have the visions of him fucking all the other women. do any of you feel this way?


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weepy
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Sun yes, the idea of you knowing the truth about him has him feeling that guilt. While he was compartmentalizing it all, basically denying it happened, he COULD face you. Now that he knows you know, he can't. I guess I understand that. My H also had a very oppressive childhood and started the lying and hiding himself very young. He was out of his house at 16, living with a girl, dropping out of school. The unbelieveable attitude of "what they don't know can't hurt them."

My H NEVER saw the misery at home. Never heard my pleas for help. Never saw the kids disappointment and hurt.

I still have those images when I'm feeling bad about myself. That's why IC is so important for the betrayed as well as the betrayer. Our confidence in ourselves has been shot too. How could we not have known? What was so wrong with us that they felt they had to go elsewhere? Was life so terrible at home? Why didn't they leave then? It's all complicated and horrible.

I will tell you that my H has quit cheating on me. He screwed up 2+ years ago, but nothing sexual, I think. He became a much better father and an affectionate husband. He cares about our home and our family FIRST. I still cringe when I hear someone ask him for a favor and then am startled when he refuses. He needed all that "stroking" before. Now he gets it from his own pride at being a good person. He opens up to me about his fears and axieties -- kind of in a backward way, but he never did before. Before, nothing EVER bothered him, he was perfect and so RIGHT! Seeing him question himself is a stunning thing.

I'm not going to tell you I don't worry, I do. But learning that we can't control what they do, only what we do is a huge benefit. We know NOW if it happens again, we're out. We're done, there's no third chances. That's so empowering. And seeing THEM understand it is comforting.

You're very new at this. I could barely get out of bed at 3 mo. I didn't feel even slightly secure until about 14 mo. And like I said, I still have terrible moments.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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capri
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, October 29th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interesting... sad... reading these posts. I see so many similarities to fwh.

Oppressive childhood and lying young: not sure he'd call it oppressive, but I know he decided long before I met him (when he was 20) that lying was a 'smart' way to live.

Not seeing the misery at home: I told him for years, in the nicest possible terms, that many things were a problem in our marriage. He didn't want to see it. He'd come home hours late, and just never even consider that we'd all been waiting and worrying, what it might have been like for me not knowing where he was, or for the kids having a mother trying to keep the agitation and worry at bay, and constantly asking, themselves, "where's dad?" and "when's dad coming home?"

Bullying: I don't think he saw it as bullying, but when I ask myself why I put up with this crap for so long, I remember how every time I tried to do anything about it, he started taking out his anger on the kids. He'd never hit them, but he'd get very short and angry with them. They'd bear the brunt of it every time I tried to do anything about the situation. So most of the time I tried to tolerate it.

And the not connecting himself with other cheaters: OH YEAH!!! Or is that all a lie, too, being horrified at the cheaters he knows? But if he really didn't have sex with any of these women, then I believe he's genuinely horrified at the men he knows cheating on their wives, and simply doesn't want to see that all his lying and sneaking behind my back is no different. Or maybe he did sleep with them but figures he's different because he 'always came home to me?'

Arrogant? OHHHHH, yeah! Funny, because there's this incredible lack of self worth, and yet arrogance all at once. He could do no wrong. His family could do no wrong.

The berating wasn't as bad as what someone described (at least after the separation was over-- I was called every name in the book during those 9 months) more of a drip, drip, drip combined with virtually no positives or compliments, ever.

And he will not admit that it was really that bad. Well, bit by bit, he's beginning to admit, kindof sortof, that he really acted like this. And I notice that the farther out we are from him having ow1 to run to in the e-mail and get reassurance that he's great, the more likely he is to apologize or admit, just a little, that he really did those things.

Sunflower, although he's only on the edges of admitting it, I do feel like he's waking up and seeing he was different from what he let himself believe at the time. I think it has in part to do with not having ow1 to run to. Of course, when you have other women telling you (through words or actions) that you're wonderful, then of course you can see yourself that way and blame all the problems on your wife. When they finally take themselves off that drug, they start to see reality.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, October 29th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow -- do I ever see myself in some of these posts. Things I haven't even really looked at because I've been so focussed on the cheating. I too can remember the waiting....answering the kids queries about "where's Daddy?"...the building resentment that he had such freedom and that I just didn't. All he had to do was say he had a client meeting and he was free as a bird. If I wanted to find a cure for cancer, I had to first book a sitter, get meals sorted out, fill the fridge with food, etc. etc. I'd forgotten for how many years I just put my own resentment and anger on the back burner because, as I kept telling myself, he loved me and he was a good, principled person and I was lucky to have him working so hard. I can't count the times I defended him to the kids and my parents...even to his own family. What a shmuck I was!!


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

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