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User Topic: When A WS Leaves For Their OP
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS moved the stupid ass in with him after about two months of having what was mostly an online affair with a couple playing house visits thrown in. It lasted about a week after he shacked up with the sleaze. He found out he didn't even actually like the piece of crap and packed her junk in a moving van and sent her to stay with her adult children. She moved the thing forward as quickly as she possibly could. As soon as he got her out, he realized he'd made a big mistake. We are now reconciling. He's a changed person. I'm not glad it happened. It was devastating. But he's better now than he ever was before.

Me: BW 46, M: 21 yrs.
Him: 48

Posts: 55 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Washington
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, February 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex married the OW. The OW actually tries to parent my kids. Insult to injury. First she wreaks my home and than tries to act like my kids are hers. Her parents actually sent a card to my son signed step grandpa and grandma. Really???? Are you proud your daughter became a whore?

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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, February 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband left almost 2 years ago and moved in with the OW.

He's been fence-sitting the entire time. He's the one who filed for divorce. During that time he almost came home a few times. Divorce was final late last spring.

I think he married the OW--and on the sly (our child told me). His family told me they didn't know anything about it. I might add that they still consider me a part of the family and do not approve of what he's doing.

I don't think he went into it with both feet so to speak. Yes, I WILL take him back when they break up. I married for life. You may think I'm crazy, but there ARE people out there who remarried their X after an interim marriage and their marriage is now a lot stronger.

My husband is someone who's always had to learn things the hard way. Sometimes you have to let them go so they can make their mistakes, crash and burn--and figure it out.

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Default  Posted: 4:47 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I respect your choices and decisions and if you choose to have him back then that's entirely fine. But I do hope he doesn't KNOW that you would? Don't be his plan B.


Me 40
WW 38
Together 19 years
Married for 9
DS(1) 9
DS(2) 7
Dday 10th Feb 2013
She moved in with POS and took kids 23rd Mar 2013. WW now pregnant
Divorced April 2014

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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dunno if this helps anyone here, but my XW left for OM. That was 2.5 years ago.

They didn't move in together, but stumbled along getting in and about my kids and his until this Xmas when it finally went bust. They split - predictably.

I know that here we hear a lot of stories of WS that left for OP and are still together - well, that doesn't always happen.


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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, March 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I kicked WH out and landed on OW. They are not living together (she had to leave her husband cute

But I'm pretty sure they will be living together soon...he's currently living on various friends couches.

WH did say that he's only with her because I kicked him out. I'm sure she'd love to read that message

On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, April 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS is has been married to OW for three years. They married a couple of months after our divorce was final. Incidentally, they celebrated their third anniversary a couple of days ago on April Fool's Day. Yeah, they got married on April Fool's Day. Gotta love that the fools chose April Fool's day for their blessed event.

They have been in Disney World with my daughter and the whore's son since Saturday celebrating their wedded bliss and won't return until Sunday.

Even though its been three years, it still stings. It stings for so many reasons, but the main reason is knowing that whore is spending time with my daughter. I have heard from my daughter that they fight pretty often now. Seems that rainbow happy land isn't as happy as it was in the beginning. That secretly makes me happy. We'll see how long this realtionship based on lies lasts. Maybe forever, maybe not. But if it does last, they have to live with what they did for the rest of their lives. I don't think I could live a worry-free life if I had destroyed two families, messed up my kids and hurt another person that much.

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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH left me the night I found out about OW...he was very angry, very abusive, and he felt protective of her, not me. He was out of town, drove 3 hours to wake me up at midnight with "get the eff out of bed...NOW" to explain how good a person she was for allowing him to reserve a room at a hotel in her name for the discount. There was no discount on the invoice that popped up, in his left-open e-mail (this is how I first found out about her). The next day, I looked on his computer and found the myriad of "love you forever" e-mails, texts, phone messages...

He left me for her (a 2-month affair) that very night, and now they are not together and he lives at my stepdaughter's. I dunno what happened, but he made his choice. That was Feb. 20, and after all the verbal abuse, physical threatening, and all the bills I've since found out he's run up under my credit, I won't take him back. I wish they were together. I think they deserve each other.

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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XWH moved in with OW a 1&1/2 years ago. They just moved last weekend into a BIG 4 bedroom home.

But I just found out from a friend's mom that she was talking to OW and XWH the other day at the grocery store. XH put his arm around OW and she shrugged her shoulders so his hand would be away from her and then she moved away from him so he couldn't touch her.

LOL I loved hearing this because that's what I alway did because he is an infuriating dumbass sort of porn infested guy! At the beginning he told me he was leaving me because I wouldn't let him put his arm around me or hold hands with me in public!!!!! LMAO!!!

Additionally, they both told my friend's mom they got this huge house so my children could move in with them! LOL I spoke to my children seriously and they both said they absolutely do NOT want to move in with their Dad!!!

All is NOT perfect in rainbow land.

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

she detached emotionally from our marriage without ever telling me how she was feeling.

Just reading through this thread after awakening from a dream in which XWW had broken up with AP but did not want to R. Not sure why this was particularly upsetting.

Anyway, the above quote gets to me. It makes me angry: if she had detached (and this is how my ex explained it to me at one point), then why the hell did she not say something--anything--to me?

It is like the ship you are on is sinking. And on this ship are people who love you and whom you profess to love. If you are feeling like you are going to jump off that ship, why not alert the others? Are their lives not worth it? Are they not as important as you?

(Just realized I answered my own question: no, they aren't.)

AND to make it worse, during the time of her affair and in at least a year preceding it, she professed that she was never so happy, how wonderful I was as a husband and father, etc. So there were not only no signs, but signs to the contrary.

It's just very upsetting: if she had just tried--if she had simply said "I am detaching; it's an emergency"--I would have done anything. It was our family, our lives, our future.

I suppose I know all the answers by now, but sometimes I just can't wrap my head around it. (I know, don't even try.)

Our family's future was decided unilaterally; I had no say in it.

Just a vent.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

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