My husband left almost 2 years ago and moved in with the OW.
He's been fence-sitting the entire time. He's the one who filed for divorce. During that time he almost came home a few times. Divorce was final late last spring.
I think he married the OW--and on the sly (our child told me). His family told me they didn't know anything about it. I might add that they still consider me a part of the family and do not approve of what he's doing.
I don't think he went into it with both feet so to speak. Yes, I WILL take him back when they break up. I married for life. You may think I'm crazy, but there ARE people out there who remarried their X after an interim marriage and their marriage is now a lot stronger.
My husband is someone who's always had to learn things the hard way. Sometimes you have to let them go so they can make their mistakes, crash and burn--and figure it out.
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