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User Topic: Long Term Affaris - X
forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Weepy - I love James Taylor. Never saw him in concert but I love his style.
Since d-day though, I am, as you know, a huge country fan - lots of songs I can relate to unfortunately. BTW, did you listen to my link Whatever You Say? That has so much attitude and that's another thing I like about a lot of these songs, they give me an outlet for my anger. Here's the link again. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LZr98jHW7U

[This message edited by forgivenotforget at 9:10 AM, March 10th (Monday)]


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

Posts: 1901 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: A tunnel where I'm beginning to see the light
weepy
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah I did read that and listen to it.

All that was missing in the video was her actually hitting her head against a brick wall.

We both feel like that. I don't know what's going to bring that down, take that dynamic apart. I know he hears me, I also know he doesn't listen because it's too painful.

And I hear him, but don't listen because I'm already in pain and can't stop it.

I'm sitting here with DS's GF. Who feels like her mother's betrayal is HER fault. Figuring it took me over 2 years to realize the A was not my fault, the destruction of our M was not my fault, even the situation leading up to the A was not my fault. I couldn't control him then and I can't now.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Ukg))))
I am sorry I wasnt around. Still sick.My nose is peeling and I look like I have boogers sticking on it..stupid cold!

Ukg, first off, you are being pretty patient with waiting. I would have hauled him into the car, and told him to spill it, whilst willing my heart to go numb, whilst I sat on my hands to stop from strangling him.

UKg and MIG,I have documented my suicide thoughts often here, and you have all pulled me up everytime I slipped.
Theres something I want to tell you that someone here (mum?) told me in a pm.
With all disrespect to your H: he is a lying, cheating, selfish, pathetic, POS, SOB asshat f**ktard...is that sorry excuse for a man worth YOUR life? Your childrens mother's life? Your parent's daughter?
NO F**KING WAY!

I know how bad it hurts.

But it will get better. You wont always feel like this.
I promise. Just get through this phase, and you will come out with a renewed
sense of purpose and clarity.
Just you wait.

****
Shirley, I also went through the OTT reactions. I would jump up or start whenever there was an unexpected noise or action. In the car, I would sit with my hands wrapped around my legs to stop the shaking.
This too will gradually stop, so dont despair.

****
Oh Ukg, the tapping doesnt stop the thoughts, I think. It helps you deal with a situation that is causing you anxiety, you know, the rapid heart beat, the struggling to breathe etc.
Or so it does for me.

So how are you getting on with finding a new IC??

***
HEy FSA!
It sounds like you have made a very important breakthrough. YAY FSA!!!!
I am so happy for you.
Its stunning how this breakthrough will change your whole outlook on this LTA crap and R.

***
Fnf, I want to thank you for being so caring. You are OUR Mother Goose.


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((LostH))))) Poor you!! New environment, new bugs = one cold!! Take care of yourself.

Itís not about being patient, I just donít care. Iíve heard his placating reassuring crap so many times that I couldnít give a shit. Kwim? And I have not, am not, would not consider suicide!! Alright?? Sometimes, I just want to fade away and simply not exist. Itís all too much effort to even breathe. But that is not the same thing!! Ok, got that straight, I hope.

And instead of trying a tapping technique, perhaps I should be tapping him Ė with a baseball bat!

Nothing yet. Dinnerís on, Iím showered, smooth clean hair, fresh faced (no makeup!) cerise top, pale grey jeans, v high heel flower patterned fancy shoes, big earrings. And I ainít taking no shit from him tonight!

It's sweet being called Mother Goose, dunno where it came from!

Dipping out. Might be back later. Wish me luck with getting The Truth. (((Tribe)))


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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Lost Heart
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Atta girl, UKg!
Thats the spirit!!
Remember the advice given here about when they (WS)say, "I have to talk to you":
* Listen, dont interrupt
* Take notes, if possible
* Go into journalistic mode

I hope you hear what you need to hear, Ukg.

***
O/T
KUDOS to working mums dealing with this stuff. Wow. I really dont know how you all managed and still kept sane. I am barely coping with trying to fill the distance of a 12 year break, and come home to kiddos who want attention, sort out supper and a H who is feeling down and neglected abit.

***
Mig, I was thinking about you just now.
Speak to your H when things are calmed down, and try to set up some rules for when things go pearshaped again. For eg, when you were trying to get away from him and needed your space to breathe, he needs to respect that, instead of hounding you. When things start sliding, (and I know I should be one of the last to say this )ONE of you needs to hold out the stop sign, and say, "We need to stop talking now. We are sliding. Lets take some timeout and resume this later when we are both calmer".And then set a time so the other person doesnt feel shut down.

I have had many of those scraping myself off the floor times, and I know how awful you must feel. Who would have thought that we would up like this, huh?

Time out helps both people get a grip on their emotions and the situation before things get so out of control.

(((MIG)))


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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weepy
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When things start sliding, (and I know I should be one of the last to say this )ONE of you needs to hold out the stop sign, and say, "We need to stop talking now. We are sliding. Lets take some timeout and resume this later when we are both calmer".

My H made up a big stop sign on a pad and would hold that up... he was usually only good for about an hour. But most of it was him gaslighting, sidestepping, lying, and me screaming at him for it.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And instead of trying a tapping technique, perhaps I should be tapping him Ė with a baseball bat!


Dinnerís on, Iím showered, smooth clean hair, fresh faced (no makeup!) cerise top, pale grey jeans, v high heel flower patterned fancy shoes, big earrings. And I ainít taking no shit from him tonight!

You go girl!!! You are in my thoughts. I am hoping that it is no new info and that he has decided to start working to keep you. Mother Goose - how cute especially when it comes from the children.


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Going To Make It
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well after going around and around for the past couple of days he finally admitted he had feelings for her - he doesn't think if was love, but he doesn't know.

I'm so tired of it all. How does he expect me to believe that i'm the love of his life when I know he pined away for that fucking bitch 21 of our 25 years. He said he didn't love me fully until about 4 years ago, wow, that was about the same time she called and tried to out him. FUCK!


BW 47
M 1982 4 Adult Children
2 Grandkids - the light & loves of my life.
LTA Started before we were married and lsted until 9/02 DDay 4/4/04, TT till 9/24/2011

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LostH - I am so sorry you aren't feeling better. Have you tried "Ricola" cough drops with Honey, Lemon and Echinacea. I swear they help. Those and "Airborne" at the first sign of a sniffle.

Put on your robe and go shuffle off to the steam room. What's the point of living at a spa if you don't use the steam room.


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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Feeling so alone
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had a long day. Thought I'd take a trip to the spa.

Wish that I could respond to each and every one of you, but I just can't keep up lately, especially since I can't check in during the day. I'll be glad when they get our new offices finished so that I can try and keep up sometimes.

LostH, sorry that you're not feeling well. Vicks 44 alwasy seems to do the trick for me. But, do they have that there?

UK I've just scanned a little bit. Are you still waiting for your "talk". I hate the waiting. And the worst part is so ofter after the wait, I don't learn anything new.

Gotta go

FSA


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I received this today from one of my friends IRL who knows "sort of" what is going on. I found it amazing that women, even outside of our situation, need the support. I was too independent. I never reached out. I hope this helps you all.

Sisters

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day,

drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother. As

they talked about life, about marriage, about the

responsibilities of life and the obligations of

adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her

glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance

upon her daughter

'Don't forget your Sisters,' she advised, swirling

the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. 'They'll

be more important as you get older. No matter how

much you love your husband, no matter how much you

love the children you may have, you are still going

to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now

and then; do things with them.'

'Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women...

your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other

women relatives too. 'You'll need other women. Women

always do.'

What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman

thought. Haven't I just gotten married?

Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a

married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely

my husband and the family we may start will be all I

need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact

with her Sisters and made more women friends each

year. As the years tumbled by, one after another,

she gradually came to understand that her Mom really

knew what she was talking about. As time and nature

work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman,

Sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world,

here is what I've learned:

THIS SAYS IT ALL:

Time passes.

Life happens.

Distance separates.

Children grow up.

Jobs come and go.

Love waxes and wanes.

Men don't do what they're supposed to do.

Hearts break.

Parents die.

Colleagues forget favors.

Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how

many miles are

between you. A girl friend is never farther away

than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you

have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life

will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on,

praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on

your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the

valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk

beside you...Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters,

daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers,

Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended

family, all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and

neither would I. When we began this adventure called

womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or

sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we

would need each other.

Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on

to all the women who help make your life meaningful.

I just did. Short and very sweet:


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 3:24 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did I get the answers I was looking for? I donít know. He keeps on about how my love is rich and nourishing and hers was selfish and grasping. Honestly, I just donít know anymore. Iím just numb with it all. He says there was a realisation on her part (not on his then?) in Feb06 (when he stayed with her for a week that has become 3 nights) that things were not going to change. The affair offered him escape, respite, distraction and diversion. And the poetry was not about her ÖÖ.

This morning he suggested we go for a walk in the botanical gardens. Nope. Thatís what he did with her. Walked in the country park. He canít anyway, he has the dentist at 12.30. So, Iím going out for the day and try to sort my head out. This morning I lay in bed and thought, thatís it, I donít love him anymore. I canít forgive him, I know he loved her, and the only way I can protect myself from sinking into the abyss is to remove myself.

Heíll get over it. Mr indestructible.

I've copied and pasted the "sisters" and sent it to my friend in Australia.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3327 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
weepy
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Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GTMI, someone posted a few days ago about how the "suddenly realize they are in love with their wives and what they're going to lose". How it's a great line. My H did the same thing. I don't know that he "loved" her and definate didn't love the whores, but he did love the life.

I know I didn't change, I didn't lose a single pound, didn't stop being involved with the kids, didn't stop chastising him for his inattention to us, didn't stop complaining about our lack of sex life, love life, didn't change one iota of how angry and resentful I was... and yet, he stopped it all before I knew about it.

He came to that realization without the fireworks and sudden "OMG I'm going to lose everything" moment.

I'm a f'ng mess this morning. Woke up to the news story about the NY governor and the prostitution sting he got caught up in. They were even lovely enough to describe the girl he was caught with.

And because I'm already feeling like old, fat, ugly meat, that put me over the edge. H asks what's wrong and because he made fun of my sharing my vulnerability with him a couple weeks ago, I'm not about to tell him now. I tell him he won't understand. Then he says "it's because you saw "those people" on GMA yesterday. Yeah, that's it. Blame everyone or anything but your own actions. So he goes off to work all pissed that I'm upset.... again!

MY problem is when he gets me upset like this I turn to food which is causing the problem with my self esteem.

Vicious cycle. It's 7 AM and Im already craving chocolate. Can't go to the gym this morning, DS had a dr. appt. FUCK>


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Weepy! Stop beating yourself up. Stop it now. Donít eat that rubbish, it wonít make you feel any better and you know it wonít. Have a hot drink, go for a walk, knit, garden, anything but eat junk. Have some fruit (not the same, I know). Easy for me to say, I get upset and my throat closes off. Book yourself in later at the gym and get yourself down there.

"suddenly realize they are in love with their wives and what they're going to lose"

Pretty common theme. I had the same, but that ďrealisationĒ took five fucking years to hit home. And if it was before then, it didnít stop him carrying on with OW, did it? Bit like the child when you want to give some of their toys to the charity shop, all of a sudden itís ďI play with that all the time, itís my favourite toyĒ even though itís been abandoned in the bottom of the toy box for yonks. And why did he have to have an affair to find out? Like most others who had the bombshell, I wasnít any different. And if I was, itís b/c of what HE was doing to me.

Címon girl. You are better than this.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3327 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
weepy
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, he wanted to know what was wrong so I texted him.

The radio gave a description of the "girl" the governor was with. It reminded me just how far from your ideal woman I am. The 'type' you desire. I'll never be 110 lbs. I'll never be stroking your ego like that, I'll never have that skill set. I feel like a failure for being decent and normal. It's been almost 6 weeks since we've been intimate. You haven't initiated in almost 3 months. It wasn't like that with her, so what other conclusion can I draw?

Sent it half hour ago. Haven't heard from him.

It would be like finding out your H's OW was named "BJ Artist of the Year" and him telling you he doesn't want you to do that to him.

[This message edited by weepy at 7:52 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Weepy))) I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time lately. I was worried about you when I read the article about the governor. I couldn't help but feel utter pity and sorrow for his wife too - she looked beyond devastated. Actually, she looked like she was shell-shocked and I wondered how many of us looked like that and didn't know how clearly we wore our devastation after d-day. I can only imagine the triggers for you. If you want to make plans to meet up again, PM me and we'll try to arrange a good day.
(((Weepy)))
I donít love him anymore. I canít forgive him, I know he loved her, and the only way I can protect myself from sinking into the abyss is to remove myself.

UKgirl - I remember those days all too well. I think it took me a full year before I could even consider that I might still love my H. I know it took well over a year before I would even tell him that I did, actually I think it was closer to the 2 year mark. They just don't understand the extent of damage and they think by repeatedly telling us what we NOW mean to them that somehow we will be able to forgive and move on. One other observation from what you wrote is the feeling that your H lives in "lala" land - like his fantasy world is more real to him than reality. Has he always been this way? The whole - lets walk in the garden, seems like some idyllic scene in a book or movie - totally romanticized. I'm not discouraging this idea, I do think it would be quite peaceful and certainly a safe environment for discussion but when I want to talk, we sit face to face, no distractions - tv, music, outside noise, etc., - and work on whatever issue needs to be discussed. Botanical gardens are beautiful and full of distractions and not conducive to intense communication IMHO. That man of yours needs to be brought down to earth - maybe a little whack of that baseball bat might do the trick. (only kidding of course)
Lost Heart - so if I'm Mother Goose does that make you one of my goslings? Now I'll be on the hunt for a cute little bonnet so when we meet up in London you'll easily find me. BTW, I talked to my son last night and he has all the symptoms you mentioned. Must be making the rounds in the UK. Let me know what works for you because he hasn't found anything yet that works.
Take care little gosling.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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weepy
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Dina McGreevey apparently sent her a message telling her how she (obviously) understood standing up there and not knowing if it's right or wrong or what your future is.... this wife is a Harvard graduate for God's sake and she looks like that!

You know this would have just been another minor irritation/trigger if we were having sex. But since we're not and I've been in that "I'm not what he truly desires" mode, it hit hard.

H understood why I kept flipping channels this morning while the news was on, but didn't know about the KYW report until I texted him, I guess.

Still haven't heard from him. But hey, the longer he takes to respond, the angrier and get. And the angrier I get the stronger I get.

Oh, and he told me he couldn't tell any more whether I'm upset or not. I asked him if he thought that maybe, just maybe it was because I WASN'T upset until lately. He had no answer...

I just wrote another text but didn't send it. You know we went car shopping last week. In the text I say to me it feels like I'm the Corolla, the car we know we SHOULD buy, it makes sense, reliable, good in the long run, but what he really WANTS is the Avalon. Impractical but is an amazing ride. Thing is, if I was still working, we'd have walked out of there with the Avalon, proving my point.

I hate being a fucking Corolla.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My god these men are un-fucking-believable. This is a direct quote from his brother Daniel Spitzer who is a neurosurgeon (and a pig in my opinion). This is an actual quote, really, I am not making this up.."If men never succumbed to the attractions of women, then the human species would have died out a long time ago". Are you FUCKING KIDDING ME!!!! Ok, well, then, in that case it makes it perfectly okay to fuck around since the survival of the species is at stake. AAAAARRRRGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!

If I was HIS wife I would serve HIM divorce papers for just saying that.


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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OMG are you fucking KIDDING me? What are we fucking animals? Isn't our BRAIN what sets us apart from them... well obviously he doesn't have one.

ETA: He probably set his brother up with the hooker... Bet you $100 he's WS himself.

[This message edited by weepy at 10:55 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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I couldn't help but feel utter pity and sorrow for his wife too - she looked beyond devastated. Actually, she looked like she was shell-shocked and I wondered how many of us looked like that and didn't know how clearly we wore our devastation after d-day.

Bad enough to have to deal with this kind of devastation, but I felt so very sorry for her having to have to deal with this in the national forum. I couldn't imagine my face being plastered across the TV and newspapers afterward. I just wanted to crawl under the first rock large enough.

"If men never succumbed to the attractions of women, then the human species would have died out a long time ago".

What a dickhead! And yes, weepy, I'd bet he's spent sometime in the supply rooms at the hosptial he doctors at succombing or more like succumming to his attractions with any willing nurses and other hospital staff...Fucker...

[This message edited by Steelergal at 11:45 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]


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