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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BT
I don't know exactly what is going on with me, but I have a very unsettled feeling. Kind of a feeling of impending doom. Don't know where it's coming from or why.

Because:
the biopsy was normal Ö.. I got to attend orientation at the university with no glitches Ö..

Youíre just waiting to get hit. Canít work out why things are turning out ok, so the response is ďwhereís the catch?Ē. Know what? There isnít one! Itís just life as you used to know it!

And as to having lived before, I did. Before DDay!!! That was one life, this is another and I am a completely diff person! Donít think I like the idea of the possibility of coming back again.
*****
LostH. How are you going on with telling the kids? I canít imagine them not knowing, but I suppose it just never got mentioned, time goes on and it becomes something you carry by yourself. Iíve thought about you often this week. Iím simply amazed at how strong you are.
*****
Weepy

I never ask for anything from him.. the Q is then, what do I do if he says no?

To get the positive answer, you have to find a way of suggesting it so that he wonít say ďnoĒ Let him think heís doing you a favour, if thatís the sort of thing that works. He sounds a bit mule-ish, digging his heels in if he thinks youíre pushing.
*****
No mor Ė good quote. Erinlc posts some sage advice again. As to your previous life Ö.
*****
What do you guys think of traumatic birth experiences sort of setting you along a certain path?

IC got hooked into that one! I am a twin. Thatís traumatic enough. But a twin brother?! We were both good weights and full term, although I was the bigger and stronger one for the first 6mths or so. We are #s 3&4 in the family. For the whole of our infancy and early years, my Dad was sick with kidney stones and wasnít really expected to live beyond mid-30ís. My Mum would have been left with 4kids and a large house with a big mortgage. Apparently thatís ďfear of abandonmentĒ issues. And, of course, my Mum had NO time to spend doing motherly things with us, playing, reading, etc. I think Iím one of those people who just ďgets on with itĒ. Itís how it had to be. It is now. If my m was to end, I would get on with it b/c there are other people to think about as well as myself and in that case scenario, I would probably be managing better than I am now. If that makes sense.
*****
Weepy. Again. Please. Stop rising to the bait. Heís just an idiot who says all the wrong things. Tell him that he can get an allotment for when you canít afford provisions. Itís fresh air, exercise and organic nutritious food. Or grow some in the garden. Heck, turn it all over to fruit and veg, including the pots and baskets. Oh, and he can have a pig too, for when things get really bad.
*****
And finally, no, things have not been brilliant. I slept in the spare room last night. I fucking hate that he planned, organised and did all those nice things with her and he canít be bothered to try for me. It seems our local restaurant (where DS3 works so we get discount Ö..) is the best he can muster. Along with a box of hand made chocolates from our local (but v nice) chocolatier when Iíve been away for a few days. I want him to take me somewhere!!!!! And NOT to rugby league. If heís not careful, boredom and resentment will drive me away.

[This message edited by UKgirl at 12:39 PM, June 7th (Saturday)]


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, actually H did come and join me at 4am, wrapping his arms around me and we slipped back to our bed at 6am. But Iím just sick of feeling my whole m has been a lie and sick of not having a reason to live anymore. Apart from telling DS1 what to do about his conjunctivitis long distance. Know what he said? ďgonna try ur idea, b/c ur idea always works, miss you xxxĒ OMG. Cry? You bet.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
weepy
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or grow some in the garden. Heck, turn it all over to fruit and veg, including the pots and baskets. Oh, and he can have a pig too, for when things get really bad.

I did ask him when he was going to clean out the garden bed (he told me specifically NOT to do it) so that we could put our veggies in. his reaction again was "like a few tomatoe and bean plants are going to keep us from starving". I just get so tired...


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. When I was a kid, we had a 150ft garden. Well, it seemed big to me as a kid. Half of it was to veg. My dad grew enough to keep us in veg all year round by rotating. We had: potatoes (11mths of the yr feeding 6), onions, cauliflower, broccoli, turnips, lettuce, spring onions, strawberries, raspberries, kohl rabi, all the herbs, gooseberries, rhubarb, blackberries, black currants, red currants, pears, apples, cooking apples, peas, mange toutn (sugar peas), runner beans. Canít think of any more, but there would have been. Sweetcorn. Asparagus and asparagus peas. Tomatoes. My Grandad grew toms too, and cucumbers, melons, and a load of stuff in his greenhouse and ďlean toĒ which was broken glass stuck in some sort of make shift frame. You have to remember we had rationing until I was about 3 or 4. We could have oranges b/c children needed the vitC. And then some stuff there just wasnít enough of.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and some neighbour of my Granddad kept a pig in his Anderson bomb shelter ...... There was a sydicate to whom the pig belonged. I guess it got slaughtered and eaten at some stage. Or maybe they kept it as a pet if times didn't get that bad!


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, June 7th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Raising hand....we have a garden. I love veggie garden. We have squash, cucumbers, pumkins (for carving at halloween!! ), rhubarb, tomatoes, peppers, jalapenos, black raspberries, kale, carrots, peas, green beans and all the herbs. AND we live on a 15,000 sq ft. lot in the suburbs!! When it all comes in, it is great. The biggest issue for us is the growing season is so short so EVERYTHING all comes in at once. I am making myself hungry just thinking about it!!!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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couldntbeme
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How did you survive? He spent three years becoming another man. He now listens to hip hop (he used to listen to Elvis), he stopped wearing my favorite cologne three years ago. She purchased a new one for him b/c he always wore the same scent. After that he started a fucking collection of new colognes. She's a hot barbie. They worked out together. I was home with his girls while they puked on me w/ high fever and washed his fucking toilets. I went back to school while his fuckbuddy was off getting a breast lift. I know that these are not supposed to be important, but they certainly smashed my heart/ego. Please please please reply w/ more than telling me I'm deeper than them. Please please please don't tell me I'm a better person. I just want to know if it will ever hurt less. THREE YEARS??? I've been spending the past 7 weeks (dday was 7 wks ago) unable to absorb THREE YEARS. He says one of the reasons he was pulling away from her was that she "Would never volunteer like you. She's much more self absorbed."

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BorrowTrouble
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, June 8th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Couldn't,

It will not always hurt like this. The first few months after d-day were the worst pain I have ever felt in my life. Nothing else ever has come close and if there is something worse, I hope to God I manage to avoid it.

There isn't a whole lot that I can tell you with certainty about your future except that it will not always hurt this badly. That is a fact. I hope you believe that, or at least keep open the possibility that it is true. Just the possibility may help carry you through the darkest times.

Keep on posting. Use the journal feature here. Get as much exercise as you can. If you are not already in individual counseling, find a good counselor and go. Ditto for marriage counseling. Try not to lean too heavily on alcohol, and try to eat reasonably. And try your best to go something kind for yourself everyday. You have had a major life trauma and you need to do everything you can to help yourself heal.

Welcome to our corner of SI. Nobody wants to have to join here, but if you do qualify, it can be a lifesaver.

BT


D-day 7/29/04.

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BorrowTrouble
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, June 8th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tribe,

Thanks for the thoughts on my weird feeling of doom. It's a good thought on the hurricane season starting Weepy, that hadn't occurred to me. I think UKg is probably right, too, that it is my psyche preparing itself for the bad news that I am certain is coming following the good news. Talk about looking for the shadow behind every silver lining.

Past lives. I've never really felt strongly one way or the other about the possibility of past lives. I know my IC does believe in it, and has incorporated some of it into therapy with other clients. But she has never really mentioned it to me.

But this week, we started talking about how I have always had this feeling that I was born to serve others, and that I see the world as divided between those who serve, and those who are served. She asked if I could figure out what the originating trauma might have been that resulted in that belief, and when I couldn't, she asked if I thought it might have come in a past life. To my surprise, I heard myself saying yes.

Anyway, long story short, we kept going, her asking questions and me in a kind of weird state where these answers just kind of came to me without actually entering my normal thought paths, if that makes any sense at all. So, we kind of mapped out two past lives.

Very interesting experience. I'm not sure what I really think about it.

BT


D-day 7/29/04.

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25wimsey
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couldn't, I can only echo what BT said--the pain after d-day is just so gut-wrenching, it took my breath away for months and months. And when the physical stuff subsided a bit (you know, the sunk feeling in the pit of your stomach, the nausea, all of that), the mental pain was still there--trying to wrap my head around 5 years in my case.

No easy words of advice, just that it does dim a bit with time. But after 3 years, I know it's easy to call up all those feelings, which linger just around the corner of my brain. I think that with time, the rest of your life creeps back into the forefront of your thinking--and the pain and wonder about the fact that this is your life now doesn't exactly go away as take its turn in the life of your mind--not the only thing in your head anymore like it is for so long after d-day.

Make any sense? Lots of hugs--I can feel your pain in your post.


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weepy
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Default  Posted: 5:47 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How did you survive?

I survived because I could. No one was going to take away my right to live. My children needed me, my job needed me, even my FWH needed me.

Sometimes it was a day at a time, sometimes minute by minute. I barely remember anything that happened that first year after finding out other than the pain.

I am still unable to absorb 7 years, others have more, others left, but the pain of it is all the same.

I began to recognize that my husband has terrible issues. They may be the death of our M eventually, but I know that our M now is a lot better than it was during the affair years. We're no where near where we could be or even how we were right before Dday.

I can even go days without crying. I find myself doing the 180, concentrating on me a lot more. IC has helped, MC not so much.

Everything has so much more meaning now that you know what was going on. It explains so much. Doesn't justify it, but it's much clearer now why... for instance.. he didn't want you to quit your job, or even though he was working 7 days a week, there was never any money for vacations, or movies or time for it even.

Of course that woman was self-absorbed, she didn't give a flying fuck about anyone other than herself. Not even him. If she did, she would never have helped destroy his life.

Get rid of all the reminders... have him do it... the cologne, any CDs he bought, clothes he bought because of her, every single remembrance he has of her.

Has he given her a NC letter, looked into IC, moved out of the house, shown remorse or just the "OMG I got caught" guilt?

Have you read in the healing library? Invited him here? Gone through books? Do you love him?


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good morning everyone. Itís a beautiful day over in my part of the world and the effect on me is conflicting. DDay was a beautiful summer day. But I am trying to squash that one down. The lovely days are so few and far between that I would rather enjoy than resent them.

Oh, couldnt. We all know that feeling. Take and act on what BT has said. The screaming resentment in your head and the disbelief that your H could see anything in someone so shallow is understandable. The answer was he was being incredibly shallow himself. Is he out of the fog yet? Has he acknowledged your pain and is he being totally open and honest? Are you in IC/MC yet? I have to say that 7wks is nothing. You have grief on a scale you could never have imagined and in a way, itís worse b/c you are still together. Sometime during the early days, FWHís bf asked me how long I would stay around for. I said I would give it a year. The time stretched out before me without any meaning. But I knew that it I stayed or if I divorced, it would be a year of shit. So I decided to stay and give it a try. It took over a year to get to the basics of the affair and he still lies about the depth and involvement. One thing. Do not compare yourself to her. There is no comparison. Disregard her completely. Now, do things for you. Get a facial or a manicure, join a gym and work out, take up running or horse riding, buy some new clothes. Take time for you. Something big or small every day. Every day. One of the common threads here is that none of us seem to have done things for ourselves and now itís time to be just a tad selfish. Feeling good about yourself is one step to recovery.

Just a quick note on the garden. And everything else, really. I am finding so hard, so very, very hard to take those positive steps forward in getting things done. The house. I still havenít done it. I still havenít gone out and bought those light fittings or organised an electrician to put them up. I have no baskets or troughs potted up in the garden either. I get a smidgen of enthusiasm and then, poof, itís gone. I think I wonder who I am doing it for and why, when for all that time he took it all for granted and just didnít care. And I wonder if I have so little confidence in decision making that I donít do anything, for fear of being wrong. And that might go back to ďhelpingĒ WH with his court case. I shouldnít have done it. Or organising holidays, sorting Christmas, buying his clothes, deciding on which dog to have, etc, etc. I wonder if he had an affair b/c I was in his life too much. Maybe I was crowding him and not allowing him to make some decisions. So now I donít want to do anything except hide away. And be with him. I am so frightened of making a mistake and it being the last straw for either one of us that I do nothing. Itís one of those scenarios where I need someone to lead me forward b/c I donít seem able to do it by myself. Am I making sense?

Going to up my endorphins through a gym workout.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get rid of all the reminders... have him do it... the cologne, any CDs he bought, clothes he bought because of her, every single remembrance he has of her.

Definitely.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a quick note on the garden. And everything else, really. I am finding so hard, so very, very hard to take those positive steps forward in getting things done. ... So now I donít want to do anything except hide away. And be with him. ... Itís one of those scenarios where I need someone to lead me forward b/c I donít seem able to do it by myself. Am I making sense?

UKgirl: You are making perfect sense to me. In fact, you describe me perfectly. Today is our 35th anniversary. It's raining, reflecting my feelings. And all I feel is sad... despite his doing his best to act like we are the happily married couple. This is not how I pictured us at this stage of our lives. His A has tainted everything. I can't stop thinking "how could he have done this and still insist he loves me".
Sorry to be a downer. I just want... I don't know... I just don't know.

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UKgirl
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35 years, eh? Thatís coral, I believe.

Corals are colonies of small sea anemones that form into reefs by calcifying. It appears to be a single organism, but it is thousands of individuals and layers. A coral reef provides shelter and food for a vast array of sea creatures and algae in a symbiotic relationship However, coral are very sensitive to changes in their environment and a reef can be killed off by overgrowth of algae due to too many nutrients in the water.

Marriage is like coral. It takes time and the right conditions to build up the layers to form a beautiful sanctuary. But itís easily damaged by changes in the environment. It can never be taken for granted. H can never take you for granted. Just donít let the algae swamp you.

Have a lovely anniversary.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
weepy
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, totally blew that job interview! But it's ok. I didn't want the job anyway. They were offering me basically half my old salary, no benefits and it was twice as far away.

I knew the interviewer was just marking time when she started talking to other people while she was interviewing me. She knew I wasn't interested. Then she tells me I failed the personality test. The one that measures anger, honesty, etc. Apparently I have some "red flags" on it. Like I give a flying. I bet anger was one of them. I think in response to one of hte questions about honesty I said something like every liar should be strung up by their balls or something otherwise inocuous. Yeah, I knew what the answers should have been, but I was trying to be honest.

Oh well, job fair on Thursday and I hope to come away with something there.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then she tells me I failed the personality test.

What? Like you have no personality? They obviously havenít read here!!

every liar should be strung up by their balls

Well, shouldnít they??

FWH had an interview today. Scandinavian lot. He came home and said he didnít really want it. Too much travelling and probably too much in Europe. Iíd dressed up the presentation doc for him, all bound with a clear front cover, a proper contents page, the right line spacing and paragraphing, pretty charts, proper appendix pages, glossy black back cover. It did look good, even tho I say so myself! Oh well, at least he didnít give them the appendices. He has another one tomorrow.

Good luck at the fair, weepy.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Lost Heart
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Firstly, thank you Tribal Sisters for holding my hand this past week.Thank you for remembering my boy. Thank you most of all for allowing me to remember him. Thank you.

***

How are you going on with telling the kids?

Ukg, I was hoping to tell them this coming weekend. I am so nervous about it. Gulp.

Btw, we spent the weekend in Leicester, and I gave out telepathic FU's to the OWinyoursitch (I hate saying "your" or "my" OW)for you!

***

I just want to know if it will ever hurt less. THREE YEARS???

Couldnt,
Right now I know it feels like your world has collapsed; that the knife in your back is bleeding profusely; that you have never ever known such raw pain and hurt and anger.

It will get easier, Couldnt.
After awhile, the blood will start clotting and will stop bleeding; the gaping holes will draw closer, and start closing up, and you will start healing. The scar will remain, and I have it on good authority that in time,there will even be long periods when you will forget that it is there.

For now, hold on this thought:
DDay marked the beginning of the end of the OW's prescence in your family's lives. For the last 3 years, your H has been living a lie. That now is coming to an end.

How do you survive?
Literally take each day as it comes, Couldnt. As BT suggested, use the journal here. Also very impt, make a note of all the info he gives you. I hope not, but these "truths" are often retold a few times. Read through some of the old threads on the LTA...you might find them helpful.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

****
((((LostSoul))))

I wont wish you "Happy Anniversary" because I know it feels anything but.
Dont put pressure on yourself to feel anything except what you are feeling. Have you told your H how you are feeling, or are you faking it? Maybe he is being jolly to lift your spirits?
This day will be over soon.

***

I am so frightened of making a mistake and it being the last straw for either one of us that I do nothing


((((UKG)))))

Is that why you are so reluctant to let him in? That if he sees whats in your heart, that that might scare him away?
He told you that he wants you to be free of your self-inflicted prison. I dont mind you being hard on him ( ), but not so hard on yourself, Ukg.
Nobody...NO BODY..not even Mr Ukg expects you to be perfect.

****

Well, totally blew that job interview!

((((Weepy)))
I'm sorry.


Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

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lostsuol
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35 years, eh? Thatís coral, I believe.

Interesting analogy UKGirl. I will look up more on this. and try to take your advice.

I wont wish you "Happy Anniversary" because I know it feels anything but.
Dont put pressure on yourself to feel anything except what you are feeling. Have you told your H how you are feeling, or are you faking it? Maybe he is being jolly to lift your spirits? This day will be over soon.

LostH: Not faking it. I told my H I felt sad at lunchtime. He hugged me tight. I wish I could tell if he was being jolly for my sake. We went for dinner last night and he gave me a card with a heart carved in the sand on the front. My interpretation didn't match his (infidelity filter, I guess). Somehow I thought he'd make more of an effort for this anniversary. When I said on Saturday "it's just another day" he corrected me with "NO! it's a special day." He brought flowers home when he returned from errands. Maybe I'm just ungrateful. Or expecting too much today. It doesn't help that his afternoon is being spent with my s-i-l at the Cancer Care clinic.

Thanks for listening. I appreciate you being there more than I can say. {{{LTA}}}


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BorrowTrouble
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, June 9th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lostsuol,

Anniversaries are still hard for me and I am almost four years out from d-day.

Just do you best and don't expect too much of yourself.

BT


D-day 7/29/04.

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