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User Topic: N.P.D. Thread part VI
lied2
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its I am right there beside you taking one step at a time.

Bob it sounds more like they are adjusting and beeing normal teen/tween. Heck my kids almost never do what I ask them, when I ask. I swear one day I am going to serve their dinner on newspaper that can be thrown out if they refuse to help load and unload the dishwasher again. (they don't even have to wash the dishes and they complain )

I am having a bit of a bump. My little one is away at camp for 2 week. They are only allowed to call on Tuesdays and thursdays and it seems that my little one has been calling "dad" on the tuesdays. It hurts that he calls "dad" first when I am the one being the parent. I actually need to talk to son but he didn't call me. I have to wait until thursday if he calls here at all.

(putting on pouty fact and having a hissy fit)

I want him to call me, not Jacka$$. JA doesn't deserve the time or effort. He doesn't see the kids because his phone number is more important. He shouldn't get to benefit from the phone card I bought son. He didn't do any work to make the camp happen, he won't be helping clean-up, nothing. He shouldn't get to have any of the precious 5 minute calls 2 times a week. I worked hard to help son get there.

I am even a little angry at son because he is giving away the time to a jerk who doesn't deserve it.

I don't want to feel this way. I want to be happy that son loves his dad even if he is a jerk. I wish that his dad wasn't such a piece of crap that I want to fall of the face of the planet. I want to have mature grown-up feelings and be able to step past this but it has been days now and I still can't step past it. I am now worried that this is going to effect how I relate to son when he gets back. I have a very hard time smiling and pretending this doesn't make me upset and feel rotten.

ARGGGGGGG

I had to get that out before I explode.


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe there's something in the air. I had a bad night last night. It's strange how I can be doing really well, and then out of the blue, a crying jag...

HB -- when you go out shooting, would you put up a target with my STBXHs name on it? I sure hope you get to go on your fishing trip, HB. Heck, I'd join you if I could. I'm chuckling at the thought of angry, drunken women out in the woods with guns and sharp implements.

[This message edited by woundedby2 at 1:51 AM, August 7th (Thursday)]


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Heartless Bytchh
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Wink  Posted: 2:53 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're welcome to join me anytime.
I think of it as a purge.
I want to get so many things out of my system.
The loss of my daughter, the idiocy of infidelity.
The fallout caused by it all.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
OutFromUnder
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Itsa, that's great! And good for you, your terms. If it's not right for you, it's just not right. I'm hopeful for you.

Heartless, I understand how you feel about not being able to let loose. You need to be able to do that. Until you can get away, can you sneak in a little? Scream a little when you're in the car on a road with little traffic or in the shower or beat the heck out of your pillow with a hanger when no one's home? It sure helps me until I can make it to where I can have some good quality get-it-out-of-my system time.

To all of you with the kids, I don't know how you do it. It's hard enough but wow. You are all something for coping with it all.


Posts: 79 | Registered: Apr 2008
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=242769

very interesting thread. the wisdom accumulated here is astounding to me.

BoB)))))) of the T RIBE!
i should've picked dammitjim as my nic, and I'm still trying to RUN.
I CAN say I'm walking, though.

I got all pissed off that there were attacks on us, as a "site", collectively -
& opened a thread calling everyone out to give $$ to SI. They called DS a c*** & I donned the irish boots. They felt fuckin good.
Notice auntie LL was here?
My heart turned when I saw her, as I had been thinking quite intensely of her for awhile.
I ramble. I know. I could toe to toe the sorry's I've said
tears o yes bled
shirtwetting again
fuck yeah

be nice to be able to craft something wise and funny for t-ribe.
i pulled out the green in
lieu of word dearth. i sure as hell don't need it for cleaning my boots.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=246995&HL=17484

[This message edited by jjct at 8:16 PM, July 30th (Wednesday)]


Posts: 6032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfreaking believable!

There has been crap that needs fixing around here. Dumbass won't do it.

The outside faucet has been leaking forever. My STBXH, moves the waterhose on the side of the house and it all goes into my neighbor's yard because the ground is so soaked. I didn't know it was leaking that bad.

So one of my neighbors notice that there is alot of water coming from my house, he lets me know and he even tried to fix it for me but didn't have the right tools.

So he asks another neighbor for me who happens to be a plumber. He's supposed to fix it for me tomorrow after he gets off work.

Dumbass calls to talk to the kids tonight and he is supposed to be here tomorrow also. So I let him know.

He starts in about how I must be doing sexual favors for the neighbor to fix the faucet and I am screwing every man on this street basically and how I never performed certain things for him but I will with everyone else, not true btw.

I was like whatever, I am paying him to fix the faucet dumbass. Then he wants to know where I am getting the money. I have a job dumbass. Then if I can afford to get that fixed then I can pay the bills. Whatever, he's court ordered to pay the bills. I'm having to get things for the kids and to fix stuff around the house like this damn faucet.

The man is helping me out and doing me a favor, at a huge discount,almost free. You would think he would be thrilled but no I am just this big whore who will screw anyone. I told him that I am not him. That he has some guilt thing going on because he is the one with who is engaged and so in love with someone else. Though I don't really think she is the only one but who knows. I just couldn't believe the rage I was hearing though. It was like he was freaking jealous over nothing. The sad thing is that he probably has convinced himself that this is true to relieve him of the guilt of what he is doing. I get help doing stuff that he should be doing and this is how the moron acts.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4488 | Registered: Feb 2008
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 4:26 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

peridot - I think it's called projection! He is projecting all of the bullshit within himself onto you to make himself feel better. My pet freak does it all of the time. Take no notice. It is bullshit. Rise above it and just carry on doing what you are doing. One day you will laugh at his "projections" because they are so fricking mental!

Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is something I've been thinking about for awhile.
I don't think the mods will mind if I post a link here.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=247138&HL=12347

Y'all may have missed it because I posted it in G.
I don't regret doing it.
In a way it felt good to tell him that.
I guess it was a way of letting him know that I'm distancing myself further and further from him.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HB,
I can't believe you're getting any sort of apology for anything. When they do anything that resembles decency or "normal" behavior, doesn't it make you really nervous? Like the other shoe has to fall sooner or later? Whenever mine is pleasant, he is up to something. Trying to manipulate something in his favor.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WB, I thought about that.
I think it's more of a case of he's having the "poor pity me"s happening.
I'm sure he's just being nice because of he thinks I don't know about the ins beneficiary info being changed.
And whatever other shitty stuff he's pulled that he thinks I don't know about.

Maybe it's his way of trying to keep me connected to him.
It's not going to work though.
He doesn't realize that or just doesn't want to admit it.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
lied2
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is stupid HB. They all are as stupid as dirt most of the time and when they do use their brains it is scary. Probably because the parts are so rusted they hardly work correctly/


I got a call from my youngest last night and it seems my hissyfit was all for nothing and he didn't get to call from camp at all. Mommy was his first call. I guess I should chalk it up to mommy missing little guy a whole lot.

(((((tribe))))))


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tribe)))

I got a call from STBXPDW's lawyer yesterday. No divorce on Monday. Moved to September.

He wants to talk as he doesn't feel that he's getting a straight scoop from STBXPDW.

Interesting.

As in Zen, "Water finds it's own level."

BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

Posts: 1817 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Over the Hills and Far Away...
Heartless Bytchh
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

L2, when will he be home from camp?

Bob, be careful, I smell a rat.
Let your L talk to her L.
That way they can't run a scam on you.
It could be just another NPD trick or a L trick.


Woodchipper pretty much trumps everything.-Rufus Turner
Sometimes I feel like SI is that person who says... "if you can't say anything nice... come sit by me!"-rumorhasit

Posts: 6061 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Another day in Paradise
lied2
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He came home tonight. It sounds like he had a rough time. He is one of the youngest kids and kids can be cruel.

Little guy is home but wow he has some bad attitude tonight. He hadn't taken his meds. He is in big trouble now because he left without telling me and didn't come home until 2 hours after supper. I told him he couldn't have dinner (he didn't seem hungry so I wonder what he snuck to eat). I am not playing games with him just because he is tired etc. Rotten behaviour is not acceptable. He was giving me a line about how his father taught him to act by what he saw. Not going to wash with me, mister.

Hopefully after a nights sleep he will be better. The teen attitude seems to be par for the course these days.


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

About "apologies":

My N constantly apologizes.

But its NOT *sincere* and I know it.

He's just mouthing words and what he thinks is the proper thing to say to appease me.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The closest thing my kids and I get to an apology from the N is, "I'm sorry you feel that way...." He never takes responsibility for anything.

Tribe, is it reasonable to expect that my STBXH NPD will ever be able to pay C/S in a timely fashion?? He is already behind Should I give him any chance, or just go for the wage assignment straight away?

I swear, the man cannot do anything for himself! Or is it just that rules don't really apply to him? He can afford to be taking OW to a concert tomorrow night, but God forbid he should pay his child support!

<end vent>


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7635 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
itsabattle
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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lied - it is true we lead parallel lives! My ten year old is very difficult at the moment - I just wonder how much of her father's behaviour has influenced her or how much is hormones et ec. I think all you can do is hang in there! Hard though!

Wounded - I would stop giving him chances to pay up. You know the score with these freaks, they don't feel accountable for anything. My ex has a case with the child support agency and he still messes me around. This is one of the few things they think they can control in our lives.

Bob - watch your back with her!

I am away for a week. Take care my friends.


Posts: 1233 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: england
bobelina
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tribe)))

Kids are Crazy. But they still rock.

Got a letter from the courts yesterday. It would appear that the postponement in the D is because STBXPDW still has not met with GAL.

Go figure. It never ends. LOL.

BoB


Mean People Suck (Especially Narcissists)

Posts: 1817 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Over the Hills and Far Away...
lied2
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would go with wage assignement. Where I live it is manditory. He is required to pay anything extra to me directly. On those bills it is a fight to get him to pay on time and only when I threaten to take him back to court on contempt will he do it. The last time it was a bill for $20 and still he took it down to the wire. He knows I will take him back with pleasure. I have done it already and would do out of my way to make sure it was the same judge since the judge likes him so much


The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It is astro turf.

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.


A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.


Posts: 8196 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Ontario, Canada
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...'since the judge likes him so much'

Bravo, lied2!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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