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cass
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, December 17th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for Newbies


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4960 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
slowlymending
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Default  Posted: 1:19 AM, December 18th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump again


BW-me

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Live your questions now, and perhaps without even knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers. Rilke


Posts: 791 | Registered: Dec 2009
JoePike
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, December 18th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping Ser's fantastic post for all newcomers. Please read and take the advice of someone much more eloquent than I am.


"Do or do not. There is no Try" - Yoda.

"The term “mistake” infers a level of ignorance, innocence and naivety. And a lack of intent and planning." - Craig Harper


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cass
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4960 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
slowlymending
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, December 29th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for newbies


BW-me

Slowlymending....

Live your questions now, and perhaps without even knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers. Rilke


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Balancing Act
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, December 30th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping


Me - BS....living a wonderful new beginning and giving love another chance

Tulsa Area Coffee Buddy


Posts: 2443 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: in the middle, somewhat elevated
Phoenix_Reborn13
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, January 1st (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just wanted to say thanks all for the support. If it wasnt for this site, and my family, and friends, I would be lost. Oh and bumpity bump bump

BH: 34(Me)
WS: 27(Her)
OM: 20 immature kid

D Day: 11/28/2009

WS hasn't contacted me AT ALL in almost a month. Guess shes doing JUST FINE.

[This message edited by Phoenix_Reborn13 at 3:23 AM, January 1st (Friday)]


BS: 34 (Me)
WS: 27 (Her)
OM: 20 immature little kid

D-Day: 11/28/2009

WS hasnt contacted me in a month since separation. Looks like she is doing JUST FINE!


Posts: 1 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Meridian, MS.
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, January 2nd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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slowlymending
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, January 4th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for newbies and lurkers


BW-me

Slowlymending....

Live your questions now, and perhaps without even knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers. Rilke


Posts: 791 | Registered: Dec 2009
booger bear
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What?  Posted: 12:39 AM, January 4th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thnx SerJr ...

I hear you loud and clear although I do forget and the emotions get the best of me at times and then it is like being on a log ride ...

Woosh and I have no control ... and I can't see the drop off till it's to late to stop it ...

Ya know does that make sense ???

like I am floating around doing just fine nice easy river ... then a light at the end of the tunnel and before I know it I feel out of control, and all I can do is hold on till the bottom ...

get back up and float around some more just waiting on the surprise impending drop off ???

When does that stop ??? when do I gain control and can steer the stupid log away from the drop off ???

I know you are wise and smart the way you are because of your own pain ... and you have such amazing insightful advice ... it all really makes sense when I read it, and seems so easy and feaseable for me to do ...

but then I get out of control again and I can'y member what you wrote ...

when did you get your control back ... just to control your emotions and decide yes I can be emotional now or no now is not the time maybe later, and just shelve it till the time is right for you ...

I could go on ....

Thnx for all your help and keep doing what your doing we all so appreciate you


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18725 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here, but not there ...
Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, January 4th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, January 5th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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gma56
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BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20323 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
devtutor
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, January 5th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, January 7th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1652 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
booger bear
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, January 8th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

newbies bump


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18725 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here, but not there ...
Illinoisgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, January 9th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really need to start reading this every day.


Married 12 years, together 18
WH - Recovering alcoholic
Me - Recovering wife
Reconciling?
D-Day 9-27-09
3 great kids - 12, 10 & 8

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt


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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, January 9th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18725 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here, but not there ...
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, January 11th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

a bump for new members!


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1652 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
2Gullible
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, January 14th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping this for newer members and giving some of these articles a re-read.

I am loosing my strength.

I feel alone.

But I will keep trying to 180.


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