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User Topic: Understanding the 180
cass
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, December 29th (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
gma56
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, December 29th (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Need to bump again


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20371 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
gma56
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, January 1st (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so important !


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20371 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
isadora
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, January 2nd (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 10 yrs
4 children: DDs 6&4; DSs 2& baby
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4506 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
FeelUnloved
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, January 2nd (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump

Posts: 198 | Registered: Aug 2010
FeelUnloved
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, January 3rd (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP

Posts: 198 | Registered: Aug 2010
kernel
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, January 4th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Time to bump.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5120 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
momma3times
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, January 5th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump it!!


Me: BS (37 yrs.)
Him: FWS (39 yrs.) EA via emails and phone calls that lasted 2-3 months.
Married 13 yrs, together for 19 yrs.
2 DDs (ages 9 and 5), 1 DS (3)
DDay 1/13/2010 (while I was 9 months pregnant!). Confronted him on 3/21/11

Posts: 76 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Southern part of Missouri
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, January 9th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 1257 | Registered: Aug 2010
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3455 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Lostlassie
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cried when I read this. You said what I needed to hear. Now I need the strength to carry it out.

Thank you.


Unfortunately, he is not your mate right now. he has been replaced by a pod person.
~~taken from a post by Isadora~~

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Lost and looking for land
Gypsie
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, January 11th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post helped me understand the 180 much better. I was going about it all wrong. Not anymore. Thank you so much.


BW (Me) 38
WH 51
Married 10 years, together 11.5
No children (I have two from my first marriage)
D-Day 11/14/10 (exactly a month before my b-day)
D-Day 2 - 01/25/11
Filing for D in April

Posts: 350 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Memphis
jb3199
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Default  Posted: 5:41 AM, January 19th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BH-46
WW-44
2 boys-17 & 20(special needs)
Married 21yrs.(together 27yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day: 9/18/09 D-Day#2: 2/19/10 The Marriage Killer: 6/6/11
Heading for D


Posts: 2052 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: northeast
kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, January 20th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5120 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, January 21st (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Iris0127 and other newbees.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Nov 2010
southsidecali
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, January 21st (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I soo needed this today.. the 180 somewhat applies but what I need to work on is ACCEPTANCE..

Thanks!


Posts: 807 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: CA
hurttothebone
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Newbies need this. Gonna look for They affair down and bump it also.

Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
hurttothebone
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA
Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, January 26th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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