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User Topic: Understanding the 180
SerJR
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, September 3rd (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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feeling_hurt
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, September 3rd (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for bumping this tonight. It did help reading it. I still have conflicts in myself - such as my other 180 posts tonight will show -- but I think I get the underlying concept. Putting it into practice is something totally different for me... But I'm trying.

Thanks.


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bbee
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bump


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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UnbearablySadd
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, October 1st (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Such a fabulous understanding of the 180 - thank you for explaining it!

I clearly misunderstood it before - and couldn't do it: seemed cold and uncaring and yes, maipulative.

Can you explain more about the part in the typical 180 about not asking where they are, etc?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGQd8M5t4Ao&NR=1

it's all about James Hunter, now ;)

And here's the 180 link:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=256092


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tractorgirl
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Thanks serjr for recommending this post to me. I think focusing on myself instead of what he did will help. What specific things did some of you folks out there do to 180? I want to build myself back up. For so long I focused on him, the kids, the house, I lost myself somewhat. I probably became a bit boring, but now that I have the time and willingness to be "selfish" I've lost my self confidence.


BS=me, late 30's
FWH=him, early 40's
Married 15 years
OW=19 yrs old
2 boys: 12 & 9, wonderful!!
Reconciling

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Bump!


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Me Tarzan
Her Jane

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Amberly744
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Humble by history, sadden by memorials, grateful to friends.

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soldieron
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serJR i want you to know that i really count on your insight for understanding the 180. i read at least some part of this thread everyday. especially your interpretation of the 180.

c'mon...drop some science on me!


when there's nothing left to burn
you have to set yourself on fire

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Bump for our newest members.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Me BS 52
married 30 years
Ddays 10/20/08, 11/23/08, 3/09
Primary Love Language: Honesty
My top 5 needs: love, honesty, faithfulness, mutual respect, communication

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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gentle bump !


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Me- BS 40 yrs
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