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User Topic: Understanding the 180
isadora
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, January 27th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 12 yrs
2 DDs and DSs all under 10
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
Cee64D
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Member # 21836
Default  Posted: 4:18 AM, January 31st (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

Posts: 2740 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Ohio
bufffalo
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Member # 21854
Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, February 4th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
isadora
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Member # 29130
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, February 4th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW Him: WH
Married: 12 yrs
2 DDs and DSs all under 10
2 Affairs - 2010 year long PA/EA, 2008 2 month online EA
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.


Posts: 4509 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Back home again in Indiana
unarmbears
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Member # 7480
Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, February 6th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for the new folks!

You will survive!


FBS-Me, 61
FWH-Him, 55
2 Sons 26 and 31
2 Daughters 29, 25 And 4 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie

Posts: 4891 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: From where the trees lean east...
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, February 6th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump back to page 1...


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
bufffalo
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Member # 21854
Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, February 7th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
velveteer
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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, February 7th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is probably the most important thing I have read here - do it and be consistent. I don't yet know if it will have any impact on WS but it is really helping me. I feel so much stronger for this.

Essential reading for this forum


Divorced

Posts: 877 | Registered: Jan 2011
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, February 9th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
Cee64D
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, February 12th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumperstanding


The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

Posts: 2740 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Ohio
Cee64D
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Member # 21836
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, February 14th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumparooni


The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

Posts: 2740 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Ohio
Cee64D
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Member # 21836
Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, February 17th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008

Posts: 2740 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Ohio
gma56
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, February 18th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some newbies need to read this.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
TryingForgivenes
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, February 20th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for SurvivalMode


Finally respecting him again.I believe that time heals almost all, wish I could fast forward time.
"Hate the sin, Love the sinner" ~Gandhi
Me:31-BS & Him:25-fWS (Irish_guy)
Dday:3/12/10, tt: 4/4/10, 5/22/10
R'ing, & planning our future!

Posts: 870 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Northern California
Feb 8, 2011
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, February 21st (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


D-Day see username
and maybe March 11, 11
ME: 45 yr old BH
Her: 40 yr old WW
3 kids
married 11 years
Who is this woman in my house?!

Posts: 717 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: canada
lordmayhem
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, February 21st (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In this initial days following DDay, doing the 180 is extremely difficult because you're still shocked and in survival mode. And most of us do the opposite of the 180 in the beginning.


BH-me, 45
fWW-her, 50
Married 21 yrs
2 kids (21, 12)
D-Day: 06/11/10

In R at this time


Posts: 532 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: USA
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, February 24th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

Posts: 5828 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
bumbed
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, February 26th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not there yet but better and better


I rather suspect like all the worst things in life, making sense of it will not happen.


25 year relationship D day 1/28/11
The we door is closed but the ME doors are opening


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