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Understanding the 180

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Ashland13 posted 4/21/2013 16:45 PM

I like the posts about acceptance and forgiveness. My thought is that acceptence is a term for moving out of denial. For me as a BS, for a long time I boated down the Denial River, so to speak, and would not accept the possiblilites that STBXH became the person he did.

I think the term acceptance is just a tool for us all to begin moving on. If we can't accept, we can become very stuck.

Forgiveness is a different term and different concept for me and one that will take a very, very long time. It's a goal for later in life.

Besides the physical side of sharing bodies while married which goes against my core being, the other part about forgiveness for me is that STBXH was fully aware of my core values and went completly against them and showed me tremenous dishonor.

He also dishonored our daughter and continues to do so and lying and deceiving kids is something I simply cannot fathom or understand enough even to process enough to move towards forgiveness. He continues to lie to our daughter but says he's a good father.

So many concepts of A's make forgiveness nearly impossible, even when the anger and denial finally ebb and flow completely away.

This post was much food for thought, though, and I work constantly on the 180 and NC daily.

Thanks, SerJr.

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