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User Topic: Understanding the 180
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2242 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8713 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fundamentally, it is all about personal empowerment and rebuilding your self esteem. It is not about manipulating your spouse and when this is not understood it interferes with the results. The goal of the 180 is to become the type of person that you want to be.

This is VERY important. While the outcome is often a WS that sees what they are giving up, that is NOT the goal. The goal is you becoming stronger, more self aware, and to regain some of the esteem that affairs rob us all of.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
ascian
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Member # 40304
Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ba-da-bump


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 302 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
Simple
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Member # 18814
Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
ascian
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Back to page one for the weekend.


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 302 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
Skan
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17846 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Simple
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, December 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4133 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, January 1st (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17846 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Simple
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, January 8th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lets all do the bump


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8713 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
brohl5
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.

You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.

Breathe, just breathe.


Posts: 5650 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Indiana
ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping a bunch of these that had fallen off the front few pages.


Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 302 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, January 27th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5695 | Registered: Aug 2007
Simple
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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