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User Topic: Understanding the 180
whymewhyus
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, July 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone have success stories of doing the 180 while living with WH? Only thing I've got at this point to start detaching is sleeping in the other room and not making myself concerned with him, what he's doing and etc. It makes it a little difficult if you're under the same roof and I want to hold myself accountable but would love to hear from others who have experienced this and been thru it.


Me, BS, 30
Him, WS, 32
Married 5 yrs, together since '98. Yep, JR high sweethearts.
1 DD, 12
1st DDay 2/?/2010 EA/PA with coworker. Lasted about 4 mos.
2nd DDay 7/6/2014 EA/PA diff coworker- was going on for few mos. Unsure if it still is.

Posts: 28 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: United States
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 4270 | Registered: Sep 2005
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP!

Posts: 6764 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for PrettiestStar


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5147 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
trying22
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Going to read 180 every day and make it happen


Me-33 BS Him-32WS
Married 5 years
Office affair lasting 9 months in 2012
When he told me Feb 2014

Posts: 67 | Registered: Aug 2014
jjct
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, August 27th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump

Posts: 6764 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
trustedg
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, August 27th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the 180, I read it almost daily.


Me BW
Him WH - 1 yr PA, 25 yrs ago, with a "friend" of mine
ONS, 35 yrs ago (came out TT a few days after DD#1)
DDay 12/2012
Married a long time, in R

Posts: 343 | Registered: Aug 2014
brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, September 3rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, September 5th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for the weekend.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 8th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2351 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
isthismynewlife
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, September 11th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me 42 BS
Him 42 WS
DDay #1 11/28/13 - 7 months EA/a little PA with my supposed friend.
DDAy #2 8/25/14 - oops - did I forget to mention that it was a 15 month PA/EA? He thought the first version would hurt me less.
Everyday is a struggle.

Posts: 154 | Registered: Apr 2014
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, September 26th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP

Posts: 6764 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
UpInTheAirNow
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, October 9th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


ME 44
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
Its a deal breaker!

Posts: 194 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, October 24th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 4270 | Registered: Sep 2005
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1763 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
crushedgrapes
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the clarification.

I was doing the 180 ( more or less ) on my own before I found this site.

Some things seem contradictory to recovery attempts. But I'm finding recovery is not linear.


Me BS Age 53
Him WH Age 52
DDay Aug 8 0214
DS32 & DS21
Married 24 yrs, together 31yrs

Posts: 67 | Registered: Oct 2014
Edie
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, October 30th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5147 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, November 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

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