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Understanding the 180
Just reminding myself. I feel pretty low now. I say I want him to be gone, but deep down I want him. And so, I just curl up into a ball. Tomorrow I am starting the 180 all over again. I need to take care of me.
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Thanks for bumping this. I am particularly depressed tonight .. she's still feeding him stuff that's she's pulling off my computer (I had to lock the comp again). I can't bear to stand the thought that while she's being all open and truthful to him, she insists on living a lie with me!
And to find out yesterday that my grandmother who brought me up is now warded in the hospital just made it too much to handle.
((namvari)) The 180 is a great way to help yourself out of the pit we have all found ourselves in from time to time. It WILL get better. Believe that!
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I totally misunderstood the 180. It seemed like playing mind games to me. A few other replies to this post mention how they didn't "get" the 180 either and now (with this explanation) wish they had tried it sooner. Me too.
This post really explains it well. IMHO, it should be part of The Healing Library.
Ditto that about putting this in the Healing Library. The piece that is currently there is a good start, but needs further explanation that the 180 is for the BS, NOT to manipulate the WS.
this makes so much more sense to me and I agree - this should be in the Healing Library......
I was having one of those off days that many of us are familiar with. This post reminded me what I am planning to get out of this situation. I am going to use this experience to find out more about myself, make some of the changes I have been waiting too long to make, and take care of myself again.
Oh, and I am also going to get in the best shape of my life durin the next six months and buy a kickass electric guitar I have been missing the last few years.
Why? Because I fucking want to. :)
I am finding that I am doing most of the 180 but not all of it. I have adapted it to how I am as a person and my situation.
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This has saved many member's sanity. gma
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