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User Topic: Tactical Primer
Karma62
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Member # 23320
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, March 20th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You seem to be the experienced person. I am new. My only comment on your primer is the not spending time together part initially. Ok,.... like the first 2 - weeks painful, but the next 2 months were key to spend time (or is that the 3 - 6 month thing?). We took two trips since D-day, skiing and the UK, both good ideas for us and our therapist said also. He goes away and I am lost. Being togehter seems to help, for both of us to get over this.


Me: BS 48
Him: FWH 64
Married 19
D-Day # 1 31-10-07 EA?? (Denied!)
D-Day # 2 17-12-08 Full PA both years same OW
OW 37S Neighbour (NC)
Working on R with hope
"You have been Weighed, Measured and you have been Found wanting" -

Posts: 275 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Canada
JoePike
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Member # 13207
Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, April 2nd (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Allybam and other newcomers


"Do or do not. There is no Try" - Yoda.

"The term “mistake” infers a level of ignorance, innocence and naivety. And a lack of intent and planning." - Craig Harper


Posts: 3952 | Registered: Jan 2007
newyear
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Member # 22713
Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, April 2nd (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Once again, Thanks for your information and sharing your thoughts.


WH 62--hired the same prostitute during his overseas business trips to Shanghai, China in 6/08 & 12/08
BW 59
M 38 yr
2 daughters 29 & 27--Both are M
DDay 7/08--Took him 6 months to defogged and admitted the A
12/08 --Working very hard on the R

Posts: 1555 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Midwest
SuspiciousWife
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Member # 18108
Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, April 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping again.


Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

Posts: 557 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: East Coast
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, April 27th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump it to the top !


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
snowdrop
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Member # 23594
Default  Posted: 4:12 AM, April 28th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has been really, really helpful; thank you!


Me: BW, 38
WH: 37
2 DS
DDays:first one was Feb 09.
Separating, after 18 months of trying to R.

Posts: 206 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: UK
redrock
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Member # 21538
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, April 30th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3151 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
hecheated400
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, May 3rd (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A must read for all newbies on JFO. Thanks so much!
bump.


WH - 60
BS - 57 me
married 12/26/08
f4D 1/06/09

Posts: 63 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: San Diego
Jodi
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Member # 23781
Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, May 3rd (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for taking the time to do this. It really helps. I justt found out about the A a couple weeks ago and am still in a state of disbelief and feel paralized to do anything.

Posts: 85 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: California
kluelesskat
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Member # 23552
Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, May 5th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good plan


Me - BS
Him - WS
MOW - Ole fatty w 2 others on the side besides mine and her husband

Posts: 215 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Canada Eh
SerJR
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Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, May 7th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Updates made


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
thyme2go
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Member # 12908
Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, May 11th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for new members.


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9174 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, May 12th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump back to page one


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
SerJR
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, May 14th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
gma56
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, May 16th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give ya bump Ser !!


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
gma56
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, May 17th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

More pain so giving it front page


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Joyslyn
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 17th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Thank you! Just began reading this post... and am compelled to bump again.


D-Day: 4/6/09, Holy Week
A lasted 7 months.
M 8 years. Together 11 years.
My 2nd M. His 3rd M.
2 kids each - 24, 17, 15, 14
0 kids together
bs 45 (me)
wh 55
ow 51

Posts: 40 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Chicago Suburbs
JustKeepSwimmig
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Member # 19269
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, May 22nd (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Mr. JKS - EA/PA
DDay - April 2008

Posts: 2143 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Canada
SuspiciousWife
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Member # 18108
Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, May 28th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

Posts: 557 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: East Coast
Hell a fury
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, May 28th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank-you. Wish I'd read this sooner, before acting like a hot head.

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