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User Topic: Tactical Primer
Karma62
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Member # 23320
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, March 20th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You seem to be the experienced person. I am new. My only comment on your primer is the not spending time together part initially. Ok,.... like the first 2 - weeks painful, but the next 2 months were key to spend time (or is that the 3 - 6 month thing?). We took two trips since D-day, skiing and the UK, both good ideas for us and our therapist said also. He goes away and I am lost. Being togehter seems to help, for both of us to get over this.


Me: BS 48
Him: FWH 64
Married 19
D-Day # 1 31-10-07 EA?? (Denied!)
D-Day # 2 17-12-08 Full PA both years same OW
OW 37S Neighbour (NC)
Working on R with hope
"You have been Weighed, Measured and you have been Found wanting" -

Posts: 275 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Canada
JoePike
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Member # 13207
Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, April 2nd (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Allybam and other newcomers


"Do or do not. There is no Try" - Yoda.

"The term “mistake” infers a level of ignorance, innocence and naivety. And a lack of intent and planning." - Craig Harper


Posts: 3952 | Registered: Jan 2007
newyear
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Member # 22713
Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, April 2nd (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Once again, Thanks for your information and sharing your thoughts.


WH 62--hired the same prostitute during his overseas business trips to Shanghai, China in 6/08 & 12/08
BW 59
M 38 yr
2 daughters 29 & 27--Both are M
DDay 7/08--Took him 6 months to defogged and admitted the A
12/08 --Working very hard on the R

Posts: 1555 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Midwest
SuspiciousWife
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Member # 18108
Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, April 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping again.


Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

Posts: 557 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: East Coast
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, April 27th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump it to the top !


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
snowdrop
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Member # 23594
Default  Posted: 4:12 AM, April 28th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has been really, really helpful; thank you!


Me: BW, 38
WH: 37
2 DS
DDays:first one was Feb 09.
Separating, after 18 months of trying to R.

Posts: 206 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: UK
redrock
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Member # 21538
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, April 30th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3156 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
hecheated400
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, May 3rd (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A must read for all newbies on JFO. Thanks so much!
bump.


WH - 60
BS - 57 me
married 12/26/08
f4D 1/06/09

Posts: 63 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: San Diego
Jodi
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Member # 23781
Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, May 3rd (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for taking the time to do this. It really helps. I justt found out about the A a couple weeks ago and am still in a state of disbelief and feel paralized to do anything.

Posts: 85 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: California
kluelesskat
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Member # 23552
Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, May 5th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good plan


Me - BS
Him - WS
MOW - Ole fatty w 2 others on the side besides mine and her husband

Posts: 215 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Canada Eh
SerJR
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Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, May 7th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Updates made


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17100 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
thyme2go
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Member # 12908
Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, May 11th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for new members.


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9188 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, May 12th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump back to page one


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
SerJR
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, May 14th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17100 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, May 16th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Give ya bump Ser !!


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, May 17th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

More pain so giving it front page


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20383 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
Joyslyn
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 17th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Thank you! Just began reading this post... and am compelled to bump again.


D-Day: 4/6/09, Holy Week
A lasted 7 months.
M 8 years. Together 11 years.
My 2nd M. His 3rd M.
2 kids each - 24, 17, 15, 14
0 kids together
bs 45 (me)
wh 55
ow 51

Posts: 40 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Chicago Suburbs
JustKeepSwimmig
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Member # 19269
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, May 22nd (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Mr. JKS - EA/PA
DDay - April 2008

Posts: 2143 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Canada
SuspiciousWife
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Member # 18108
Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, May 28th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

Posts: 557 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: East Coast
Hell a fury
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Member # 24115
Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, May 28th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank-you. Wish I'd read this sooner, before acting like a hot head.

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