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User Topic: Tactical Primer
why why
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, January 5th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you very helpful

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why why
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, January 5th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you very helpful

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jan 2011
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump!


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3476 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Thelonious
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Likely, they will shift the blame for their choices onto you or the marriage, rewrite the marital history, exaggerate trivial issues, and engage in lies and deceit to lessen their guilt and justify their actions.

Oh man. This is the story of my last three months. She has said this stuff so often that I think she has come to believe it herself.


Me: 57
WS: 45
No kids
Together 8 years, living together for 4
D-Day: September 28, 2010
Separation: October 5, 2010

Posts: 208 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Canada
letmego
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, January 13th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


As of Oct, 2010:
BW(me) 35; WH 36; employee OW 21 Together 18 years, married 9 (onlies..until OW)
DD 3, DS 7;
D-day 7/2010
D Final Nov 30, 2011

Posts: 650 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL
annb
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, January 18th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for new member in General

Posts: 7636 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
reallyscrewedup7
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, January 18th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for IMDying


Infidelity sucks shit

Posts: 903 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Finding my way
nooneeverthought
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, January 19th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


it doesn't matter where you go in life ,it's who you have the beside you

Posts: 8493 | Registered: Jul 2008
kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, January 20th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump (which moves it to the top of the forum again)


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5337 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, January 21st (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Iris0127 and other newbees.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1924 | Registered: Nov 2010
hurttothebone
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump. Still gotta find They affair down.

Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
hurttothebone
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, January 25th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
isthisforreal
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, January 26th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(From this stage forward you will want to bring a new approach to your communication and interaction with your wayward partner and anyone else that knows. You will still be connected to your partner but you want to have your feelings, thoughts, and actions under control. Speak the truth, directly and with quiet assertiveness and let your silence speak volumes. Be calm, steady, and in control with both your voice and your body. This technique carries power because it comes from your centre and illustrates your dignity and confidence.)

This was the best advice I was given by a dear friend who also experinced an A in her marriage. The thing she regretted most about the confrontation was acting like a crazy woman. Before I confronted WH with my evidence of his betrayal, I very calmly told him "I KNEW" about the cheating. Told him what I knew, and here it all is in black and white. It was almost like I was having an out of body experience, and I think my centered calmness scared the crap out of him. Snapped him out of his insanity fog right quick.


BW me 47
WH him 52
married 24 years
DD 9/15/10
3 incredible teenage daughters
"it only hurts when I breathe"

Posts: 256 | Registered: Jan 2011
Take2
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, January 26th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for fraeuken and all newbies!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4167 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, January 28th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
annb
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump

Posts: 7636 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
Trying2Survive2
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a wonderful post. Lots of work was put into this to help the newbies.
Thanks so much for your effort...

Last but not least..
"BUMP"


Faithful Wife ME 52
FWH 47
DDAY #1 1/11/09 EA Online ONLY (NC)
DDAY #2 6/2010 Admitted PA with the same PIG(12/08)
"Anything may be betrayed, anyone may be forgiven, but not those who lack the courage of their own greatness"

Posts: 1376 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: USA
southsidecali
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

need to reread this often!!!

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