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Topic: Tactical Primer
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why why
♀ New Member
Member # 30624 |  Posted: 2:48 PM, January 5th (Wednesday), 2011 |     |
thank you very helpful
Posts: 8 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
why why
♀ New Member
Member # 30624 | | Posted: 2:49 PM, January 5th (Wednesday), 2011 | |
thank you very helpful
Posts: 8 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
UKgirl
♀ Member
Member # 17062 | | Posted: 4:58 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011 | |
Bump! 
D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 55 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.
Posts: 3181 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK |
Thelonious
♂ Member
Member # 30683 | | Posted: 7:30 PM, January 10th (Monday), 2011 | |
Likely, they will shift the blame for their choices onto you or the marriage, rewrite the marital history, exaggerate trivial issues, and engage in lies and deceit to lessen their guilt and justify their actions.
Oh man. This is the story of my last three months. She has said this stuff so often that I think she has come to believe it herself.
Me: 55
WS: 42
No kids
Together 8 years, living together for 4
D-Day: September 28, 2010
Separation: October 5, 2010
Posts: 204 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Canada |
letmego
♀ Member
Member # 30381 | | Posted: 11:45 AM, January 13th (Thursday), 2011 | |
bump
As of Oct, 2010:
BW(me) 35; WH 36; employee OW 21 Together 18 years, married 9 (onlies..until OW)
DD 3, DS 7;
D-day 7/2010
D Final Nov 30, 2011
Posts: 650 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL |
annb
♀ Member
Member # 22386 | | Posted: 11:23 AM, January 18th (Tuesday), 2011 | |
bump for new member in General
Posts: 7006 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast |
reallyscrewedup7
♂ Member
Member # 30825 | | Posted: 1:27 PM, January 18th (Tuesday), 2011 | |
Bump for IMDying
Infidelity sucks shit
Posts: 821 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Finding my way |
nooneeverthought
♀ Member
Member # 20157 | | Posted: 11:02 AM, January 19th (Wednesday), 2011 | |
bump
it doesn't matter where you go in life ,it's who you have the beside you
Posts: 8493 | Registered: Jul 2008 |
kernel
♀ Member
Member # 27035 | | Posted: 9:48 PM, January 20th (Thursday), 2011 | |
bump (which moves it to the top of the forum again)
You can't change your past but you can let go and start your future.
Posts: 3153 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest |
lordhasaplan?
♂ Member
Member # 30079 | | Posted: 8:19 AM, January 21st (Friday), 2011 | |
Bump for Iris0127 and other newbees.
BH(ME)-40
W-(Whathaveidone??)- 39
DS-10 yrs, greatest thing in the world
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)
Lord Make me an instrument of your peace.
Posts: 1393 | Registered: Nov 2010 |
hurttothebone
♀ Member
Member # 30767 | | Posted: 11:52 AM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011 | |
Bump. Still gotta find They affair down.
Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA |
Fighting2Survive
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Member # 28410 | | Posted: 12:18 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011 |  |
bump
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC |
hurttothebone
♀ Member
Member # 30767 | | Posted: 7:43 PM, January 24th (Monday), 2011 | |
bump
Posts: 111 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: PA |
Fighting2Survive
♀ Member
Member # 28410 | | Posted: 3:06 PM, January 25th (Tuesday), 2011 | |
bump
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC |
isthisforreal
♀ Member
Member # 30926 | | Posted: 7:36 AM, January 26th (Wednesday), 2011 | |
(From this stage forward you will want to bring a new approach to your communication and interaction with your wayward partner and anyone else that knows. You will still be connected to your partner but you want to have your feelings, thoughts, and actions under control. Speak the truth, directly and with quiet assertiveness and let your silence speak volumes. Be calm, steady, and in control with both your voice and your body. This technique carries power because it comes from your centre and illustrates your dignity and confidence.)
This was the best advice I was given by a dear friend who also experinced an A in her marriage. The thing she regretted most about the confrontation was acting like a crazy woman. Before I confronted WH with my evidence of his betrayal, I very calmly told him "I KNEW" about the cheating. Told him what I knew, and here it all is in black and white. It was almost like I was having an out of body experience, and I think my centered calmness scared the crap out of him. Snapped him out of his insanity fog right quick.
BW me 47
WH him 52
married 24 years
DD 9/15/10
3 incredible teenage daughters
"it only hurts when I breathe"
Posts: 248 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
Take2
♀ Member
Member # 23890 | | Posted: 7:18 PM, January 26th (Wednesday), 2011 | |
bump for fraeuken and all newbies!
"If fear was not a factor - what would you do?"
Posts: 3431 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England |
Fighting2Survive
♀ Member
Member # 28410 | | Posted: 10:17 AM, January 28th (Friday), 2011 | |
bump
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC |
annb
♀ Member
Member # 22386 | | Posted: 6:44 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011 | |
bump
Posts: 7006 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast |
Trying2Survive2
♀ Member
Member # 25758 | | Posted: 7:00 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011 | |
What a wonderful post. Lots of work was put into this to help the newbies.
Thanks so much for your effort...
Last but not least..
"BUMP"
Faithful Wife ME 52
FWH 47
DDAY #1 1/11/09 EA Online ONLY (NC)
DDAY #2 6/2010 Admitted PA with the same PIG(12/08)
"Anything may be betrayed, anyone may be forgiven, but not those who lack the courage of their own greatness"
Posts: 1375 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: USA |
southsidecali
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Member # 22752 | | Posted: 7:07 PM, January 29th (Saturday), 2011 | |
need to reread this often!!!
Posts: 584 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: CA |
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