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User Topic: Tactical Primer
annb
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, March 11th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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lordhasaplan?
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Bump for SadCat22


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, March 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

volley


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

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God's hand was an avocado branch


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m334455
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, March 23rd (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for our newer members.


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

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annb
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, March 29th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A good read, it sounds like i fall into the No Contact category which is pretty much what I'm doing and only a month from DDay. I wish i had seen this sooner, my first reaction to the affair was to kick him out but I gave him too much power back after we'd had our first discussion and I'd told him he had a choice to make. I should have stayed more in control and used some of the Tactics discussed here, however I'm really not sure it would have made any difference to where i am now, with the exception that I'd have kept my power from the start instead of reclaiming it 3 weeks in.


Me: BW
Him: WH
2nd Marriage 6 years together for 7. D-Day in Feb 2011.
*DD1 almost 3 yr old, Quad Spastic CP, Complex Seizure Disorder.
*DD2 6 month old bundle of wonder.
*seperated - some good days; some not so good days.

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DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

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BetrayedWife7
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, April 3rd (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This Tactical Primer is just amazing and should be required reading of anyone just entering the world of Surviving Infidelity. Great job!


Me - B/W 42
Him - W/S 43
Married - 20 years
5 Children
D-Day - August 5 & 26, 2010

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annb
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Pocketdialed
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I'm glad this finally got bumped up so I caught it. Better late than never. Thanks!

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Rowdy12
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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, April 11th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear SerJR, Thank you for the Tactical Primer. I do have a question though. What if I think we're past this point, he's given up the OW and has given me access to ALL e-mail and phone accounts? Should I still be doing the 180 (so difficult)? When can I go back to being my loving and caring self? I know it's still early (DD#1 2-23-11 DD#2FD 3-15-11) but I think we're in the reconcilliation (RD 3-20-11) stage?


Rowdy12
DD#1 2-23-11 DD#2FD 3-15-11 R-Date 3-20-11

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DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

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lordhasaplan?
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D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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Bump. Looks as though theres a few WTF just happend? folks just joining that need to read this.


JP
D-Day- 2/18/11
Me BS 40
Her WS 38
Married 5 years
2 Wonderful Girls

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"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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