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shopper13 posted 8/5/2008 15:44 PM

What a great resource this is. Thanks!

wonderingbull posted 8/9/2008 12:44 PM

Bump for newbies

oldtimer97 posted 8/13/2008 03:36 AM

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AFguy posted 8/15/2008 13:40 PM

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wonderingbull posted 8/16/2008 13:05 PM

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burnt_toast posted 8/22/2008 21:34 PM

bumpsey bump

cards96 posted 8/23/2008 00:12 AM

GREAT post SerJr, wish it would have been around when I was new to this rollercoaster. Only thing I would add is don't make any snap decisions, think before you act. Your actions will have an impact, positive, negative or neutral, and be prepared to deal with that.

Balancing Act posted 8/26/2008 07:41 AM

bumping for the newbies....this is good stuff!!

Balancing Act posted 8/29/2008 05:52 AM

bump

futureshock posted 8/29/2008 13:30 PM

Thank you SerJR, one of the best posts I have read so far. My only disconnect was with your advice on reconciliation when you said

- Avoid spending too much time together to try and force recovery.

We are in day six and it has been non-stop talking. This increased communication makes us feel we are getting closer. After reading your advice I am now conflicted as to whether we should continue this intense or maybe obsessive communication.

SerJR posted 8/29/2008 14:08 PM

Hey futureshock - the key point to that statement is the word 'force'. If the communication is coming naturally and you are not uncomfortable spending that much time together then that is great and I encourage you both to keep it up!

The key is that is that you don't want to smother each other or force things to happen at an unnatural pace and be respectful of each other's need for space and other emotional needs.

As for the primer, it presents the general action plan - adapt the tactics as necessary to fit your own situation.

futureshock posted 8/29/2008 14:18 PM

That clears it up very well for me. Thank you again SerJR

Balancing Act posted 8/31/2008 16:31 PM

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SophieKnows posted 9/1/2008 14:53 PM

What a great post.. I am only in phase 1, collecting all my evidence. This is a very painful process, but I know I need to do this.

Balancing Act posted 9/5/2008 08:41 AM

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pitiful posted 9/7/2008 20:42 PM

Bump for humiliated again.

bbee posted 9/10/2008 23:48 PM

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SerJR posted 9/25/2008 17:34 PM

IKnowNow posted 9/26/2008 03:45 AM

Great SerJR!
*just bumping*

HelpMeUnderstand posted 9/26/2008 06:03 AM

I wish I had this at the beginning of my journey. THANK YOU so much for your insight. I've been on this site before, but didn't really know where I fit in. Now I know. It's hard to start healing when you don't know where to begin. You made my day!

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