Topic: Tactical Primer
Member # 37735
| Posted: 9:38 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014|
together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family
Posts: 1353 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 43350
| Posted: 1:25 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014|
This is wonderful. It's like you have taken the best out of every book on the subject and summarized it for us all. Had I read this before going shopping, I could have saved a lot of money. You hit every main point right on the head. Thank you so much! For anyone who is just tuning in to this site, what Tactical Primer has provided here is priceless!
Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.
Posts: 276 | Registered: May 2014
Member # 30079
| Posted: 10:44 AM, May 30th (Friday), 2014|
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.
Posts: 1880 | Registered: Nov 2010
Member # 32943
| Posted: 1:51 AM, June 2nd (Monday), 2014|
Bump for Detached
Me: BS, 40's.
Posts: 1794 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 22386
| Posted: 4:33 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014|
Posts: 7442 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
Member # 42092
| Posted: 10:09 AM, June 17th (Tuesday), 2014|
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4034 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 42012
| Posted: 2:33 PM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014|
25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13
Posts: 1905 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Member # 30396
| Posted: 8:51 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014|
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Posts: 1562 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
Member # 43810
| Posted: 11:20 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014|
I wish I had seen this post three months ago when I first showed up here. Such good information!
BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA
Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
Member # 42673
| Posted: 2:16 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014|
OW now X BFF
3 kids under 4
Posts: 98 | Registered: Mar 2014
Member # 31800
| Posted: 10:06 PM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014|
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Posts: 1712 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
Member # 17484
| Posted: 7:57 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014|
Posts: 6482 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Member # 42608
| Posted: 5:03 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014|
I so wish I had found this back just after Christmas, 2002. Of course it wasn't written then. I wish I had found SI back then. Instead I found some sites that did me more harm than good.
I wonder, painfully, what my life would have been like if I hadn't done everything wrong. Now, instead of trying to heal after stopping my WW short - shock and awe, I am trying to heal after a DDay 1 on September 1, 2013 almost 11 after I became convinced (almost) my WW was committing adultery. I never caught them (almost did a few times) and I could never prove it and WW lied vigorously, continuously, frequently and effectively for all those years.
How different my life might be if I would have had the advice beginning this thread instead of the advice I got and if I would have hired a PI. If I was doing this at 51 instead of at 63.
I have been on SI lurking before registering at the end of February. I just read this primer this morning. It is so valuable but just too late for me.
M 37 years
LTA-09/02-11/02 EA;12/02-?/06 PA
"dates" w/3 former lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment;years of lies, denial
Posts: 65 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Alberta, Canada
Member # 43656
| Posted: 7:18 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014|
top of the list
Posts: 70 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Maryland
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