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User Topic: Tactical Primer
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

Posts: 1465 | Registered: Dec 2012
needfriendshere
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Member # 43350
Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, May 26th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is wonderful. It's like you have taken the best out of every book on the subject and summarized it for us all. Had I read this before going shopping, I could have saved a lot of money. You hit every main point right on the head. Thank you so much! For anyone who is just tuning in to this site, what Tactical Primer has provided here is priceless!


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 456 | Registered: May 2014
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, May 30th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1936 | Registered: Nov 2010
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 1:51 AM, June 2nd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1810 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
annb
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 8th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Posts: 7666 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, June 17th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
yearsofpain25
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Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
brkn_heartd
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
mamajen00
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish I had seen this post three months ago when I first showed up here. Such good information!


BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
littleflower
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4

Posts: 101 | Registered: Mar 2014
Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1764 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP!

Posts: 6841 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
steadychevy
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I so wish I had found this back just after Christmas, 2002. Of course it wasn't written then. I wish I had found SI back then. Instead I found some sites that did me more harm than good.

I wonder, painfully, what my life would have been like if I hadn't done everything wrong. Now, instead of trying to heal after stopping my WW short - shock and awe, I am trying to heal after a DDay 1 on September 1, 2013 almost 11 after I became convinced (almost) my WW was committing adultery. I never caught them (almost did a few times) and I could never prove it and WW lied vigorously, continuously, frequently and effectively for all those years.

How different my life might be if I would have had the advice beginning this thread instead of the advice I got and if I would have hired a PI. If I was doing this at 51 instead of at 63.

I have been on SI lurking before registering at the end of February. I just read this primer this morning. It is so valuable but just too late for me.


BH(me)63; WW 57; M 37 yrs
DDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14
LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW
EA different COW 2001-2014? PA AP jealous of EA PA
"dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, li

Posts: 215 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Canada
shiftingsand
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

top of the list

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Maryland
Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:22 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5199 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
trying22
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great!


Me-33 BS Him-32WS
Married 5 years
Office affair lasting 9 months in 2012
When he told me Feb 2014

Posts: 69 | Registered: Aug 2014
jjct
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 27th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Posts: 6841 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
UpInTheAirNow
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, September 3rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


ME 45
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

Posts: 235 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 5th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1764 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, September 8th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
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