A thread for those personally dealing with this situation.
[This message edited by kdny at 5:01 PM, June 13th (Friday)]
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That's great that they changed the announcement! I am kind of suprised that they would have put your H name in it without him being there to begin with. If OW does text your H about it being changed, please for your own sake try to ignore it and not let her upset you.
Also I realize he is not techincally your H, but it is a habit when typing,sorry .
[This message edited by auntcis at 9:10 AM, June 14th (Saturday)]
She really has a bizzare way of looking at their relationship. Even though he continually tells her there is no relationship she still thinks there is.
So I know exactly where you are coming from, dealing with a woman who has a screwed up view of reality.
She hasn't admitted it, but I too believe that she got herself pregnant.
I'm just sorry H was so enmeshed and enthralled that he couldn't just stick to his guns or man up or whatever, and end it sooner rather than enjoying the perks despite the angst for so long. Will never understand the dynamics of that relationship--except in the context of both H and OW being fucked up and selfish.
Great news about them taking his name off and being understanding about the situation.
I dont recall, he is getting DNA done right?
It almost feels like a relief that something is happening, we have mostly been treading water lately. I have this feeling, like once the court stuff has resolved as much as it can, we can start making real decisions about the future, whether we stay together or not. So, cross your fingers for me on the off chance this child is not his.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you! It is a relief one way or the other just to know for sure oddly enough.
I have my fingers crossed for you. Hopefully this nightmare will end for you soon.
This thread is an excellent idea.
Thanks SI Staff
Also hugs to firstandthird.
Update on my story. H asked OW for a paternity test and she said no. So we have to go through the courts.
H is kind of blaming me for the way OW is acting b/c I called her to tell her to stop asking my H to babysit. I said he was not going to have a realtionship with her and the child on her demand. He felt like he could handle her. I feel like if he could handle her, we would not be in this situation. I will not take responsibilty for his or her foolishness. I hate that he is handling her with kid gloves. I get that he feels guilty b/c he lied to her about being married. But come on. If he had treated me with the kindness that he seems to be showing her, we would not be in this situation.
Sorry this post turned into a bit of a vent.
But just wanted to close with another THANKS to the mods for this thread. :)