[This message edited by dust to dust at 8:08 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]
I can't wait for my H to sign the papers for OC to be adopted and be done with all of the unfair bullshit!!!
[This message edited by firstandthird at 2:29 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]
[This message edited by lonely&depressed at 3:43 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]
Without telling your business you know that this situation is going to get worse. I am afraid that your son will be left with little to nothing in support from your H. You know that I am concerned for you and your child. You have been in limbo so long with this.
Why are you still talking to Erika? Are you running interference so she doesn't talk to your H? You know that you have caught her in lies before so it is best to contact the State and protect yourselves.
I will be thinking of you.
L&D, yes it is unfair and that is why some couples file legal separation to protect their children and assets. A's have so many long lasting consequences that effect everyone.
[This message edited by BMC0415 at 5:49 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]
[This message edited by lonely&depressed at 10:48 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]
I saw your post about the OW asking for your husband's employer. I do payroll for my company. Whenever we hire a new employee, we are required to report it to the State of Florida. However, Florida does always seem to be a bit behind so if this is a relatively new job for your husband, they may not have it recorded yet.
That said, don't give her information you don't want her to have. Eventually, the State of Florida will send a letter to his employer requesting a garnishment if she has a child support order. If not, your husband has the option to contact the state and let them know where to send the garnishment papers. There is no reason to give that information to her directly.
Hope that helps you.
DD#2: 9/28/2010 with a follow up on 1/28/2011 where he decided to come clean about the EA actually being a PA.
The OW could have been anybody and both turned out to be nobody special.
[This message edited by dust to dust at 12:33 AM, August 8th (Friday)]
[This message edited by BMC0415 at 9:26 AM, August 8th (Friday)]
I told her that my H agrees to sign his parental rights away so her H can adopt OC. She said she wanted to send us the letter asking my H to sign rather than just having her lawyer send us papers and have us wondering what the hell it was all about, which honestly I must say I do appreciate. She said from what her lawyer has told her that as soon as they get the papers back with my H signature they can start the adoption process and as soon as the adoption is final my H legal obligation for CS ceases to exsist. They have an appointment with thier lawyer at the end of next week and they have been told the whole process can take a couple of months, but they are hoping to have everything done by years end. I think it was OC who originally answered the phone cause when I asked for OW, OC(I think) asked "who is this?" and when I told her my name she paused for a minute and said "oh, I'll get my mom". OW actually thanked me for making the process easier on her and her H, what she doesn't realize is I just made the process easier for ME. I will have to be in communication with her for the next few months, which I don't look forward to, but hopefully most of it will be via email. And as long as I keep the final goal, being rid of her forever , in my mind I should be O.K.