When I found out OW was pregnant and DH and I hadn't R'ed at the time I ran out and got a child support order on him for our 3 children. IN MO you don't have to be legally seperated or divorced for this (atleast in 2002). I got my order in before she did, so my children were entiled to more. Dh was between jobs at the time..he and OW thought they could live off her CD's that her mother had bought her as a child. He ended up only paying me right around $500 a month for 3 children. Because my order when thru before hers (and we are now considered his 2nd family since he supports our children by living with us, not thru CS) he only pays $150 a month on DSD. In MO they can take up to 60% of your income if you are not supporting a 2nd family. I think it's 45% if you have a 2nd family.
1234, I had to get out a calendar....Okay, when it comes to irregular periods, just be aware that I was one of those women who only got mine every other month for the longest time, so I hate to tell you that. Just when did the A end? 'Cause this is what I've got figured: If the August 2nd date says she's 7 weeks, that would put conception around June 14th. So she would have been 4 weeks pregnant around July 9th, if that's when she took her pregnancy test. But for her to tell you that she was two months on July 17th when she was only 5 weeks pregnant is a lot of baloney. So just when did the A end? Just so you know, in our case it ended up that our OW was two weeks pregnant (but didn't know it) when the A started. She tried everything to claim it as my husband's, even faking dates to match it up the the duration of the A. I think the not-knowing is the worst feeling in the world.
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XWH died Dec. 2010
My advice, seek legal advice immediately! He needs to know legally what he can do and in the state that you live in. It is amazing how different states can be.
From what I have heard on here and other places, the mother can name the child anything they want, don't know if it is true or not, that's why you need legal advice.
I am so sorry for your situation and I hope that things work out for you.
In my case OW and H were briefly married, she kept his last name so that she and OC would have the same last name, Ok, I understand that, although I don't like it. The she got pg with another MM's child. This child ALSO got my husbands last name. I was irrate! We live in a small town, not tiny, about 7,000 people, and she was going as far as claiming that H was the father (he wasn't doing what SHE wanted, so this was her retailation). H had to keep me from going to the hospital and personally kicking her ass. I'm, still ticked about the situation over 4 months later.
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I hate this, I know I shouldn't be complaining, I am getting exactly what I want with OC being adopted. But now that I know it is going to happen I want it to be over and done with already! OW said they have an appointment with thier lawyer at the end of the week, I am hopeing that the lawyer will send the papers for my H to sign by the end of next week. Come on time hurry up!!!!
I think it is comical that they would think the person they are cheating with would be faithful to them
That's one thing I do have to say for my H, he knew as soon as he was served with paternity papers that there was a very good chance the baby wasn't his. He wasn't stupid enough to think he was the only person OW was whoring around with.
AuntCis, look at the big prize!! We will have to meet up and have an adoption party once it is final. OKAY!