Woundedgirl, glad to hear from you and hope all is going well in your new relationship.
Lonely, I am so sorry that he just doesn't get it. I am still going thru that. Menn can be so insensative, but atleast you are getting out with your friends and that helps alot.
1234, it's it funny how they put us in this situation then get mad because we won't do things their way! Everything is our fault! Well he will sure see that the grass is not greener on the other side when he has to live with a friend or a relative or get a room at the YMCA or live in his vehicle because he can't afford to live paying child support. These men are too much!
Praying for you to get the outcome you want!
I have a ?, the OC's have been sick and I know that my H would want to know how are they doing, how can we do this without contacting her?
DDAY 01/06 - "BitchSlapMe"
As far as OC's being sick is OW taking them to the doctor? If she is and your H knows which doctor she takes them to your H has every right as thier father to contact the doctor and ask what is wrong and what is being done. We had to do this a couple of times when we started getting a lot of insurance claims from OC doctor. We thought it was odd that a 2 year old child was seeing a chiropractor and we wanted to know what the hell was going on! Your H has just as much right to the OC's medical records as thier mother.
Or if there is a nuetral third party that could find out info to share with you, you could try that route.
[This message edited by auntcis at 7:26 PM, October 8th (Wednesday)]
I am glad to hear that your H is going NC and I hope it sticks.
If you don't have the DNA test back and he is not listed as the legal father or signed an affidavit of paternity he may not be able to get the medical info.
With the nasty messages that you have been getting from OW, I would not recommend you having contact. You mentioned in your other post that OW had someone call your H, could that person maybe act as a liasion?
We travel a lot so we wont be at the house that often.
I read your post and I am so sorry you are going thru this, you deserve the world.
First of all welcome. I am so sorry that you find your self dealing with this, it is one of the most hardest things.
Your BF must protect himself and you if you are going to stay together. Therefore he needs to get a paternity test ASAP. If this OW is a little crazy as you say, it is only going to get worse if you stay in your relationship and I can guarantee you that verbal agreement will become history.
Did he sign an affidavit of paternity at the hospital? That makes him the legal father even without a DNA tests. If he did sign it, check with your state you may be able to rescind it within a certain time in my state you have 60 days. Oh and if you want to give him a real life good reason to get a DNA test, feel free to share my story with him. Even if he does not want to have OW ad OC in his life he still would be responsible for CS, so legal advice is strongly recommended.
Good luck to you and feel free to PM if you need to talk.
[This message edited by BMC0415 at 9:03 PM, October 17th (Friday)]
Good and bad news on my part, need a little advice.
1st off tomorrow her responce time for replying to the paternity order expires, has any one else have that happen, not sure why OW would just ignore a court order response, if she believes that he is the father, this waiting is driving me crazy...
2nd thing I'm not sure if this something I should be alarmed about, but see H has no means to cash without asking me, cause I do handle all the financial things, and see the other I checked his cash situation, and he was ok, but last night we went out for date night, and he pops down a $100 bill, for drinks & dinner. Just puzzeled me, that maybe he is keeping stuff hidden from me..
3rd thing, good one this time, Our date night last night happened to be at a restrauntright down the street from OW house, in her town. HA HA HA anyway there was people from my H work, that new about the A there to, and 1 girl with the big mouth in town, so they had these compitions there and I actually got my H to perticipate in one event with me, and the other I actually won an arm wrestling contest. LOL Iam very petite person, so all this will be forwarded on to OW, LMAO. Made me feel very special that he held me so dear last night. In front of everyone. Been all long time due for a night like that, tonight we are on another date night in the same town.
Things are still nutty around here. : )
My H or STBXH(?) asked my if I would be willing to gift my share of our farm if the OC wanted to run the farming operation (20 years in the future)!!! Is he crazy????? Why would he even consider asking me. Why would I give that child anything, expecially an asset that belongs to my kids????
I was pretty upset about it yesterday but today I can only laugh!!! It is just nuts.
"I am where I am because of the bridges that I crossed." - Oprah Winfrey
"Excuse me, what level of Hell is this?" - Bu
Now that I have gotten off of the floor from laughing
Is he crazy?? Do you have horses on your farm? Maybe he fell and hit his head!
I am so sorry to see that much as not changed in your situation, he just doesn't get it.
[This message edited by BMC0415 at 10:35 AM, October 20th (Monday)]
I haven't been able to stop laughing all day.
Things aren't better. He will never get it. He still wants to R but wants me to move back to the farm where everything took place. No Way!! He wants to move on and forget everything. YA - like that can be done. And now he wants me to gift the OC my share - whatever!!!!
He needs to get a grip on reality.
I am glad that I could be a good laugh.