[This message edited by forgivenotforget at 5:04 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]
I know, nevermind, that is just crazy. i need to stop obsessing. This has been such a hard month.
But now it's time to settle down and get the kids ready for school.
Now you know we need folks who are coming out the other side of the tunnel, so just don’t stay away too long, y’hear? We have a very nice beach house here on the LTA coast with plenty of room. And, as you can see, we have sun, surf, dunes, wind breaks, rock pools and fishing boats. We have picnics and barbies and hammocks. We don’t need a beach bar cos the house has its own. And there is an open topped mini cooper anyone can borrow. And if Mr FSA must come with you, he has to go and catch some fish!
It's about intentions and then about how the other person perceived what you said ad what you could do different next time.
I tracked OW's kids on F/B and noticed neither parent are on their "friends" list, which I thought was telling. My boys LOVE me though!!
But I have not really been able to talk to her about it. And the husband will continue to make inappropriate comments about affairs and cheating and such...not cruel, just oblivious.
Ukg, why do you think she is so undemonstrative?
I know Ukg is sometime around nowish, but am not sure when. Ukg??
Actually, I will fall off and into bed now. Past midnight and IC will give me odd dreams. 'Nite all. (((((Tribe)))))
[This message edited by UKgirl at 6:09 PM, August 6th (Wednesday)]
Now you know we need folks who are coming out the other side of the tunnel
If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?
The guy who knows but makes comments. I have to say..H has made a couple comments to him to knock it off. Like, OK, Bud, that's enough of that topic. He'll say something about his wife hasn't left him yet so she won't or somehting or about how he would leave his wife for Selma hayak or something. Just thoughtless stuff. I'm proud that H has recognized it and commented.
I know the doubled-edged sword of finding OW online. For like 2 years after dday nothing popped up on our MOW, but THEN wham::: she pops up on Facebook. Her account is not private (dummy) and I made up a fake name under the same city she is in and there ya go...I check up on her now and again. But when she first popped up I triggered hard and it set me back- feeling sick to my tummy even two years later. But I'm a Scorpio, and I don't forget, and I'm keeping that bitch enemy closer than she realizes.. just in case she causes me trouble down the road.. Yep, I understand all about obsession
BT- How are you doing? I hope the silence means you are having wonderful times with your family.
FSA- Glad to see you!!!!! We miss you and I don't know if you read back a few threads... but my MIL has a license plate that says "Forget the bull...ride a cowgirl"... That outta make you choke and laugh at the same time- a true OW she is and very mature for a 63 year old, huh?
Hugs to the tribe,
Forget the bull...ride a cowgirl"... That outta make you choke and laugh at the same time- a true OW she is and very mature for a 63 year old, huh?
Some good news about parents. I took my Mom shopping today to pick out decorations for her 50th anniversary. Not quite sure how Dad has put up with her for that long, but he's made it. She started out wanting to invite the entire church to a celebration following Sunday services, but I kind of steered her away from that. Not that I mind doing that but I just didn't think that I was up for feeding about 300 people. The largest party that I have ever given was for about 25. So she has narrowed it down for me to a point that I can handle. Probably in the neighborhood of about 50 to 70 people. I just haven't come up with a good gift for her and dad. Thinking about giving them a vacation. They live simple, and don't really have any needs. I can't buy something gold, just wouldn't fit in with them. So what do ya'll think about a vacation???
Check in maybe tomorrow.
Hope all have a great night.
I think a vacation for your folks is a wonderful idea! We sent my parents on a short cruise (we were poor students then) for their 25th aniversarry and they had a blast.
Another sentimental thing is to create one of those photo books - hardbound type books- with photos of them through the years with cute little captions and stuff. I've done a few of them and they are easy (just upload photos digitally) and turn out really, really cute for not too much money. It would be something they could have out. And that generation is much more into hard print than us young ones
Her account is not private (dummy) and I made up a fake name under the same city she is in and there ya go...I check up on her now and again. But when she first popped up I triggered hard and it set me back- feeling sick to my tummy even two years later. But I'm a Scorpio, and I don't forget, and I'm keeping that bitch enemy closer than she realizes.. just in case she causes me trouble down the road.
Now it really is nite nite to all.
Nice to see you.
I saw your H's post in R.
How can we help, Sweetie?
You are always willing to lend a shoulder to us, please let us be there for you.
I think the vacation sounds like a great idea for your parents if they like that sort of thing. If not, and they are avid church goers, maybe you could buy something for the churh in their name?
SoL, I spent a lot of time googling the OW, so I understand exactly how you feel. I'm glad you got to see a pic of her and know who she is so you can hiss appropriately if you ever have the misfortune of seeing her at work.
HB, thanks for asking about my vacation. Things have calmed down here and we are having a good time.
I'm glad you and your family are having a good time, visiting with each other.
Had a thought that we are building our kids memories of their childhood...daunting, isnt it? Although I know the bad stuff will unfort remain with them, I hope with all my heart, that the good stuff (we had and will have)will be much stronger.
FSA, BT's idea about a church donation is good. I dont know if you have this there, but in some of the bigger parks and along the seaside here, special benches have been "bought" and dedicated to someone. Just a thought.
But a holiday to a new place...or even to the place where they honeymooned or have v special memories of???
I will shaddup now.
But ohhhhh I wish I could find a picture of that skank, just so I could once and for all know what she looks like.
Seeing her, seeing where she lived, her parents names and where they lived (her mum knew about the A) finding out about her kids, her job. As much as possible so I might suddenly realise why my H would want to chase after her and keep meeting/shagging her for five years. What did she have that I didn’t? I still don’t know to this day, just that “j'ne sais quois”, I guess. The thing that really bugged me was what her H looked like!
SoL. Really? You’ve never seen her before? Wow, that’s impossible to imagine. I would have been tearing my own hair out at that. So what was your reaction to her image? Apart from wanting to rip her eyes out!
I’m a Scorpio, and I don't forget, and I'm keeping that bitch enemy closer than she realizes.. just in case she causes me trouble down the road.. Yep, I understand all about obsession
FSA. Golden Weddings. Depends on how much you have to spend and whether or not the cost is split with other family members. For my parents Ruby, we H & I commissioned a painting – they chose what they wanted and we just paid. The Golden we clubbed together and bought a 50yr old Armagnac and paid for a pianist in the private room they had hired. Haven’t a clue for the diamond, although we did take both sets of parents to London for the weekend last June. H’s parents, for the Ruby a dinner and tea service that MIL had always wanted but never had. Split the cost with his (mean) brother and I went to the factory to get it all. For their Golden, after the Ruby fiasco of extracting money from his brother, H & I gave them a choice of Orient Express trips based in the UK. I think if you give them a vacation, you have to sort the cost first and give them a choice of several destinations, unless you know there is somewhere they have always wanted to go to, but never had the chance.
Oh, and just to let you know, that stupid obessive sad fucking woman sent him a text last night. WTF for???