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Eternaloptimist
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, October 25th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow -- a lot of activity on this thread.

I can relate to so much of what is being said. I too feel as though my past was taken from me -- the past I thought I'd had. I took off my wedding ring awhile ago and it will not go back on. I wear my engagement ring (which was my grandmother's) in part because it also has a history that has nothing to do with my husband and in part so my kids/friends/etc. won't ask me questions I don't want to answer.
And yes, I was also the "secure" one who thought I was "safe" from infidelity. I sometimes wonder if that made me more vulnerable because I never doubted, never suspected (until very, very far along), never dreamed this could happen to me. Part of the trauma of finding out is having to reconsider my assumptions about myself. It's like everything I knew to be true suddenly wasn't and that I couldn't even trust who I thought I was. I've since reconciled my thoughts on that...but it's tough.

For Newtwood: I echo Innerstrength's suggestion to give yourself time to digest all this info. I know that my tendency after finding out what my husband has been up to (and with whom!!), it can seem incredibly appealing to want to kick him to the curb, if only in self-righteous (and justified!!!!!) fury. But giving yourself time means ensuring that you're making a thought-out decision that you will be able to live with, without regret.

Hang in there everyone. We're proof of the adage that there's strength in numbers. I feel stronger all the time, thanks to so much of the comraderie I find here.


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

Posts: 656 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Toronto
WantingtheTruth
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, October 25th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find myself so confused about how someone that has spent 20 years with you can make the decision to go outside the marriage rather than choosing to either work on the marriage or leave the marriage first. I recognize that everyone has that feeling of their spouse not being someone they know any longer after they find out about the infidelity and the betrayals. My husband seemed bent on destroying me emotionally when he left me. It was as if he could relieve himself og guilt for anything he had done if he could force me to accept responsibility for problems in our marriage. His words and actions have been bizarre.

I have been in shock and experienced extreme sadness. I have not been able to understand why I cannot get to anger. Do some folks get hung up in the sadness and skip the anger part?


The truth is easy to remember.
BW, 53, Divorcing WH
WH, 49, No truths, in denial
Married 14 years, together 20 years. Who is this man?

Posts: 91 | Registered: Sep 2008 | From: Georgia
1Forward1Back
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, October 25th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been in shock and experienced extreme sadness. I have not been able to understand why I cannot get to anger. Do some folks get hung up in the sadness and skip the anger part?

Honestly? No. You will get to anger eventually. We all get there at a different rate.

I went through the same thing. Why? Why did he do this? Why not come to me first? Well, when you're an SA, it's not the troubles you are concerned about. It's getting the 'hit'. The porn or whatever doesn't work anymore. You need more. Live women, not images. So what do you do? You've got to concoct reasons to justify leaving the marriage....'she doesn't love me anymore', 'she won't care if I stray', 'what she doesn't know won't hurt her', 'there's no hope for us, anyhow'....

It took me a long time to really, really recognize this. Let yourself feel the shock and disbelief first. The anger will come. Go with it. You will get there!


Me: 60 Yrs. (BS)
Him: 60 Yrs.(FWH- life long sex addict)
-2 ONSs followed by an A-2005/06
-cheated while we were engaged
-seems to stray every 30 years or so
D-Day-June 10, 2006
Working on own recovery. His is his!
Married: 37 yrs. Grown ch

Posts: 966 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Canada
mrsmooch
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Default  Posted: 6:40 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

concoct reasons to justify leaving the marriage....'she doesn't love me anymore', 'she won't care if I stray', 'what she doesn't know won't hurt her', 'there's no hope for us, anyhow'....

Think you must have been listening in... exactly the reasons my WS has given me for the As. And with rage he tells me I didn't want him anyway. There was me supporting him, comforting him, giving him all the love I could and trying to deal with the last one, and WOO there was another.

Still trying to get my head around it all. The anger comes and goes, so does the sadness and disgust. I seem to be a fast cycler when it comes to the grief process...


WH - 40
Me - 40
M - 11 years Daughter - 5 yo
D-day1 6th March 2007 D-day2 10th Sept 2008 plus all the others before...
ONS x 2
OEA x 2+ OSA x 12+
EMA x 1 (?)

Like my age, it's time to stop counting.


Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Australia
mrsmooch
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Default  Posted: 6:43 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone dealing with the impact of an SA on the child of the family? My WS (or I guess STBX) keeps ditching times he is supposed to be with our D so he can get back to his high - whether it be a new woman or internet sites.

She's going through hell, and I don't know how to deal with his behaviour apart from setting the rules (which I have) and the next step, restricting his contact (which I am considering).



WH - 40
Me - 40
M - 11 years Daughter - 5 yo
D-day1 6th March 2007 D-day2 10th Sept 2008 plus all the others before...
ONS x 2
OEA x 2+ OSA x 12+
EMA x 1 (?)

Like my age, it's time to stop counting.


Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Australia
WantingtheTruth
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my situation, I believe my spouse planned to leave, get me to accept full responsiblity for the problems in the marriage, and then he could come back and never have to face the decisions he had made to go outside the marriage for months, maybe years. There seemed to be a plan in place. He has not shown any remorse or offered up any truths. I have had to bury myself in old records to piece together my life and I can only go back so far.

He has told our friends and his family that he had to leave because I was verbally abusive. It is very difficult to accept that while I am trying to figure out what happened in our marriage, he is making up more lies to maintain his ego to the world. He will never face the reality of the real problems that were on both sides. His only plan seems to be maintaining what others think of him with no thought to the destruction he has brought to this family.

How do I accept this and move forward knowing that the truth will never be a part of the process? I do not want revenge but I cannot accept his need to make all the problems appear to be mine.


The truth is easy to remember.
BW, 53, Divorcing WH
WH, 49, No truths, in denial
Married 14 years, together 20 years. Who is this man?

Posts: 91 | Registered: Sep 2008 | From: Georgia
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And with rage he tells me I didn't want him anyway.

Unless your H is an NPD with no conscience whatsoever, this is the shame and disgust he has for himself that is talking. He cannot believe that you could possibly love him.

Now that my H is in recovery, he tells me that he considered me a goddess, almost untouchable.

Yet he did not act that way towards me.

And when the affairs were happening, he was not all that nice to me at times. He thought all those things--I didn't care anyway, I won't be hurt by his actions.

I don't know if your H is feeling this way or not, but I thought I'd share what my SA tells me.


Me: 60 Yrs. (BS)
Him: 60 Yrs.(FWH- life long sex addict)
-2 ONSs followed by an A-2005/06
-cheated while we were engaged
-seems to stray every 30 years or so
D-Day-June 10, 2006
Working on own recovery. His is his!
Married: 37 yrs. Grown ch

Posts: 966 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Canada
Eternaloptimist
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, my husband also has said that he was just waiting for the day when I would realize I was "better" than he, and walk away. That he had me up on a pedestal. At the same time, he's said that part of his acting out was because I was "always mad" at him. I did spend a lot of time resentful and frustrated -- that he wouldn't spend time with me and the kids, that work (ha!) seemed more important than us, etc. etc. Little did I know that I had plenty more reasons to be mad!

mrsmooch -- I have three young kids who don't know about the SA; however, if they were older and it was directly impacting them, I'd be inclined (not sure what age she is) to talk about addiction in general terms. You could compare it to kids who become addicted to online video games to the exclusion of everything else. I wonder if there might be some books or sites out there to help you talk to her. I a firm believer in being honest with kids (appropriate to their age levels) about "adult" issues when it impacts them. My mother's alcoholism was always dismissed...yet I spent my childhood with that gut feeling that something was wrong. But when a child is told to dismiss that "gut" feeling, they learn to NOT trust themselves. Certainly part of what landed me in the situation I'm in now. Perhaps let her take the lead and invite her to tell you how she's feeling about it. Perhaps ask her what might work for her (have a backup plan for when Dad screws up like something fun with you)... Good luck. It's heartbreaking to watch the truly innocent ones become collateral damage.

wantingthetruth -- It's probably small comfort but I'd advise taking the high road on this one. His true colors will appear at some point...and the more you deny or throw back accusations/criticisms, the more you'll appear to be exactly what he says you are. Hold your head high and your principles firm. I don't think you'll regret it.


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

Posts: 656 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Toronto
lovedontlivehere
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As far as I know from what I read, it is absolutely possible to be an addict and co-dependent... I think I read about it in "Don't Call It Love" (If it wasn't that one, it may have been "Mending a Shattered Heart"- by default, b/c those are the only two SA specific books I've read so far! )

I have MaSH but I haven't read thru it yet. I aske bc OHs ex of 3 yrs was a drug addict. He tolerated a lot from here.

I too spent the better part of this year being frustrated and angry with him, for this and another reason. Come to think a certain event did kind of start our problems though I know looking back that was definitely not the start of his porn usage. He was acting out while I was suffering, I know cuz I found his viewing history. That makes me so angry! I also think the fact that I started spending more time with him was a factor since I learned more of his bad habits.

I wonder if OH has me up on a pedestal.

Sometimes I suspect that OH is more aroused by pornography than by sex with me.


((((((newtwood))))


ETA: My partner has even met at least one porn star. I was just like YUCK when I found a picture of him and one of them.

[This message edited by lovedontlivehere at 7:04 PM, October 27th (Monday)]


Partner still wanking off into fantasy land.
*update* No longer together, but he was STABBED and now wants R. Whatever.

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mrsmooch
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS this morning suggested that to ease our Ds distress, he could come back. He said he didn't realise the impact his actions would have. Trouble is, he's done it before and there is always a justification. I don't think he really believes that he has a problem. He's just feeling guilty and like all SAs doing what ever he can to make the discomfort go away. He's still online with other women, and no doubt planning dates with more (no one changes that fast).

The worst thing is, I'm actually considering it. I need therapy. I know he is untrustworthy, I know he is compulsive and solves his problems by the shortest possible route to a high. So why would I even think about it?

Stupid stupid.


WH - 40
Me - 40
M - 11 years Daughter - 5 yo
D-day1 6th March 2007 D-day2 10th Sept 2008 plus all the others before...
ONS x 2
OEA x 2+ OSA x 12+
EMA x 1 (?)

Like my age, it's time to stop counting.


Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Australia
ScribblingMum
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mrs.Mooch,

Don't let him back...it will mess w/ your daughter's head also...that back-&-forth stuff before there's any real change in the sex addict (I've been thru this)...yes, counseling would be good for you...or S-Anon...both--even better...:)

Wantingthetruth:
So sorry you need to be here, too...:( I also found out after 20 years of marriage...& things seem to just be gettting worse...

The unraveling of lies/hidden life never seems to end...I'm trying to get my WH to go get med/psych. eval. & on meds...he prob. needs anti-depress. and ADD meds...

I'm shooting for more stability for now...
nightmare land...


~ScribblingMum~
D-D 1: 12/23/06 - Porn (dd bust him on-line)
D-D 2: 4-25-08 - Massage P.'s(new act. in pretend recov.)
D-D 3:9-9-08 Caught call m. girl
D-Day 4: 6/30/09 -: free MP g.f./prost.
D-Day 5: 1-10-10: new mp prost's.
~DONE!


Posts: 1529 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: S .CALIF.
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, October 26th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes I suspect that OH is more aroused by pornography than by sex with me.

Suspect? Oh lovedontlivehere, I know for a fact that my H is absolutely more aroused by pornography than by me. His mistresses were also just 'porn with skin on' so of course, they aroused him more than I did.

As you understand sex addiction more, you will not be as mortified and insulted by such a notion.

You will see that these folks are not thinking with the same type of grey cells as you and I.

It takes a very long time to understand this and not take offense.

Hugs.


Me: 60 Yrs. (BS)
Him: 60 Yrs.(FWH- life long sex addict)
-2 ONSs followed by an A-2005/06
-cheated while we were engaged
-seems to stray every 30 years or so
D-Day-June 10, 2006
Working on own recovery. His is his!
Married: 37 yrs. Grown ch

Posts: 966 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Canada
CAT5
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have some basic questions - I'm not really familiar with all the definitions of an SA, but I'm beginning to think I'm dealing with one.

My husband had an affair over two years ago, and I'm still recovering from that. Now I find out he's posted pictures of me to "friends" he made in some wife-sharing forums (ugh. barf.) He did this without my permission, and he used my actual name and put our town in these emails - I'm so appalled and humiliated. I felt forced to pose for the photos - they were old; taken during hysterical bonding phase. I'm sick at my stomach, frightened, you name it. He insists that he must share me with someone, and he keeps trying to do this. He's set up actual "dates" for me that I've had to tell him to cancel. He says this is a fantasy, and he would never do it, and then he does! When I discovered that he had invaded my privacy this way and put me in what I think is danger, he kept begging me to do this! He finally admitted that he crossed the line, but he's still trying to talk me into it. He "must" have this. He got the OW to do this for him.

I'm absolutely devastated. I don't know what to do. Any help/insight is appreciated. This marriage has been one problem after another, and it all seems to fit in a framework of "acting out." My husband is a recovering alcoholic - sober for 18 years, but this seems like his addictive side all over.

What should I do if I'm married to an SA?


Posts: 56 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: East Coast
WantingtheTruth
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mrsmooch
The worst thing is, I'm actually considering it. I need therapy. I know he is untrustworthy, I know he is compulsive and solves his problems by the shortest possible route to a high. So why would I even think about it?

I am relatively new here but I do undertand this feeling. As each level of the problems concerning my spouse has unraveled, I have found myself hoping for some miracle that made it all go away and I could have my life back. I have since recognized that I never want that life back. It is important that you get the help you need to know what you can live with and what you cannot. If you have not started some type of personal counseling, this is a place to start to help you.


The truth is easy to remember.
BW, 53, Divorcing WH
WH, 49, No truths, in denial
Married 14 years, together 20 years. Who is this man?

Posts: 91 | Registered: Sep 2008 | From: Georgia
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CATS
Your situation is very scary and I'm not sure what to advise you to do. But I would get myself to a counsellor immediately and ask for their guidance.

It seems to me there is legal implications here. He is doing this without your permission.

He must stop it NOW.

You may be forced to threaten him with legal action.

I don't know how easy it would be for you, but I would separate from him ASAP. He needs to leave the house.

Are there children involved? If so, he is not only putting you in danger, but them as well.

You need to do something NOW.

Sending you hugs.
{{{{CATS}}}}


Me: 60 Yrs. (BS)
Him: 60 Yrs.(FWH- life long sex addict)
-2 ONSs followed by an A-2005/06
-cheated while we were engaged
-seems to stray every 30 years or so
D-Day-June 10, 2006
Working on own recovery. His is his!
Married: 37 yrs. Grown ch

Posts: 966 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Canada
Eternaloptimist
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The emotional component of sex terrifies most SAs so yes, most of them are more physically aroused by porn or emotionless affairs.
I've had enought time to absorb this that I no longer feel unsexy or undesirable. I understand that it's HIS problem, not mine. You'll get there once you better understand how the SA mind works. It's bizarre, but this has NOTHING to do with you. I'm reminded of Elizabeth Hurley who is incredibly sexy and beautiful. Yet her boyfriend (Hugh Grant) acted out with a transsexual hooker (or something like that). Helps me to remember that it doesn't matter what I look like...an SA needs a fix that isn't complicated and doesn't make them emotionally vulnerable in any way.

CATS: This is quite scary for you. I can't imagine how violated you feel and what a betrayal of trust! Please get yourself to a counsellor and sort out what you can do about this. He sounds like he's on a downward spiral, completely out of control. Don't let him take you down with him.


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I thought I had a great weekend with WS and his kids. I really did.

But today I got to work and the new cell phone bill posted so I was able to look at it and the activity on WS' phone. Well I found that he had been calling escorts in our local area. Numerous escorts. I confronted him, once again giving him the opportunity to tell me the trust before I had to ask. He wasn't sure what I was going to say so he waited. He said yes he had called them but no he had never met them. He got really mad and defensive.

I knew there was more and that I would find out more. What on earth do I do with this new information? I cannot trust that he's actually not met with any of them. I cannot trust him.

He says that he's focused on us now and that he cannot change the past. He loves me and that's all that matters. He says he wants to stay and wants to be with me and that he really screwed (not his exact word) up.

Honestly I'm just not sure what to do. I hate him for what he's putting me through. I wish I had my COSA meeting right now! I so need to talk to my group.

I have no idea what I will do. I'm so scared to be alone and to be without him. I can support myself financially and in every other way but I don't want to be another ExWife. This is terrible and honestly I'm so angry I could .

I'm still reading posts and trying to focus on me but dang it all it's harder then ever before. Why do I stay with a man that has hurt me like this?


BS 31
WS 36
Married 9/1/07
D Day #1 1/21/08 - personals ad response
D Day #2 5/15/08 - created 2 personals ads
D Day #3, 4, & 5 10/08 - personals ad response, phone sex, calling escort services
Newest D-Day 1/1/2010 - Will it ever end? This tim

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Eternaloptimist
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Newday,

I'm so sorry. It's almost more devastating to be betrayed afterward.

Have you set down any boundaries for you regarding his behaviour? Were any consequences set if he acted out? If not, I think that's where you need to start. He needs to understand that the "I'm sorry, I'll change..." mantra is just not going to fly.
Determine what you will/won't tolerate. I know some will tolerate certain behaviours if their spouse admits it within 24 hours without being asked about it.
But this is about what YOU need. Regarding this last transgression -- what are your instincts telling you you should do? I think you'll find the answer there if you can clear away the fear and anger for a bit.
Keep posting. Perhaps writing down your list of requirements from him will give you a measure of control -- not over him, but over yourself.


Me: BS
Him: WS, SA
Married: 12 years
Three kids: 9-year-old D, 7-year-old S, 5-year-old D
D-Day #1: December 11, 2006 (LTA)
D-Day #2: June 17, 2007 (found out about SA)

Posts: 656 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Toronto
PoorTwistedMe
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What?  Posted: 11:22 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a quick update here...
My WH finished his Step 1 last night for his SA program. He has attended his 48th SA meeting this morning, too (he did his "30 meetings in 30 days" but did not stop and has continued on in that fashion only missing a few days since he began in early September, now the tally is 48- nice). He said he will read his Step 1 worksheets to me tonight when he gets home from work befor he meets with his sponsor about it & then reads them in his group. I am nervous as hell to what is on those pages and I am bracing myself. He is very proud for completeing his Step 1 so thoroughly. Im a little "eh" about it... dont want to give him any credit eventhough I know he deserves some. He still has some attitude/arrogance issues, which I just hate, but I am aware they are rare as he is defogging more and more & starting to deal with his shame in a more direct manner... his sponsor & our MC have helped with this. He has been trying to do nice things for me... I get a love letter/ or a small "love note" almost every morning under my pillow (I have over 50 now since 1st DDay), he often makes breakfast for us before he goes to work, and also dinner, at times. These things are helping but only consistency & honesty will be the determinant here, not how many love letters I get or how many meals he makes.
Im still having very-very bad days full of triggers... its awful, the day will have started out great then like lightening out of a clear blue sky, a bolt will hit me and Im finished. When that happens I begin to doubt everything... I am "white-knuckling" reality because my world is so dreamlike & surreal now and everything I held true is so distorted (like in a FunHouse mirror). I keep falling back on the idea that "all this" cant really be happening... its just too crazy to be true. And then the anger comes as the fog is lifting, I am always either "out of it" or "angry"... its too much.

[This message edited by PoorTwistedMe at 11:26 AM, October 27th (Monday)]


Twisted

DDay- 14 Aug 08, 16 Sept 08, 22 Sept 08, 7 Oct 08, 27 & 28 April 09
Trickle Truth is Brutality


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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, October 27th (Monday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CAT5,

I am a lawyer, albeit in Canada. I would suggest you speak with a lawyer right away. Such pictures where you are in compromising positions can be seen by anyone around the world. If you have a job as a school teacher or the like, you will find yourself in a terrible predicament if a parent of your student sees them.

This is UNCONSCIONABLE AND DESPICABLE. He does not only have affairs on the side, he involves you without your consent and he is still trying to force you to engage in activities that you have explicitly witheld your consent.

I know you are very hurt, and I think this Post will be my most strongly worded to date - but you should think very hard about reconciling with your WS. The situation is so harmful to you, and he is blatantly disrespecting you and jeopardizing your well-being and your job. This is NOT good.

Please please please, I beg you with all my heart, to take care of yourself, speak with a counsellor IMMEDIATELY. I am so outraged and also sad about your story. But you will survive - we are all here to listen, to share, and to support.

Many hugs and kisses,
birdwatch

[This message edited by birdwatch at 11:31 AM, October 27th (Monday)]


* Known WS since 2001. Me: 37.
* D Day 1 - Mar 2008: Discovered cyber/phone sex, dating sites etc
* D Day 2 - May 2008: Discovered more "stuff". WS admitted to one A - my gut says > half a dozen.
* R'ing. IC & MC. WS is sex addict.

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