Sometimes I'd want to have a famly meeting and he was so distracted in them that I gave up. But he really did better when we did these and helped him organized our joint tasks and priorities.
I think the whole A came out of frustration and low self esteem stemming from ADD going into middle age.
I don't know if meds would help but I guess he's beyond my reach now.
I'm glad I worked my way down here.
My has started taking meds for ADD last month. He said it is helping him. He's able to stay more focused. He remembers things more, etc... Lets see if it works!
I am healing from the A, and the ADHD is back under control.....HOWEVER.......I took a good long look at the ADHD symptoms, info I have and instead of applying to my kids, or myself applied it to H, guess what?!?!?
Although I don't think he will ever seek treatment
he is very functional, but there are several things that SCREAM ADD that he does or has done, and I am just doing my best to kindly point these things out.
1. inability to finish a task, he had so many half finished projects i can't even begin to tell you.
2. lying as the easy way out, on even stupid stuff. This goes WAY back in our relationship.
3. Being able to multitask, and do many things in a short period of time.
4. Not being able to sit in front of the TV and just watch it, always needing to be doing more than one thing at a time.
Although there are some bad things associated w/ ADD/ADHD there are good things too. Things that allow most of us to be really successful in life if able to rein it in, and use some simple coping skills.
Just some thoughts.
I'm 49 so ADD wasn't even a diagnosis when I was a kid... I was simply different from most people and I knew it... I learned to adapt in school and work so that my ADD could be used as an asset...
I do things and think in ways that are odd/different from what others do but I was fortunate enough to find a profession that my skills were atuned to...
In my adult life everyone knows I'm ADD... To me it's not a detriment, it's an asset...
I never knew this was a thread in ICR!
I've been on Strattera now for 2-1/2 months and I feel much better. I no longer need to drink an entire pot of coffee in order to function in the morning.
My diagnosis of mild ADD is the one silver lining in the cloud of FWH's A.
I've seen this happen in other people's lives
And now it's happening in mine
-"That Joke Isn't Funny Anymore", The Smiths
We are quite the combo. WW runs around like a tornado on speed, starting 10 projects at once and making me tired just watching her in action. I struggle to focus on simple daily activities because of the deafening static of overwhelming clutter and unfinished projects in our house. Needless to say, the A isn't helping much with the focus for either of us. We do both want to R, though.
I hope this can help someone. I understand exactly how hard it is to live with this personality type.
If you have a history of problems with narcotics then its a darn good think you missed that appointment.
There is only ONE non-stimulant medication approved for use with ADHD/ADD and it most certainly is NOT Vyvanse.
The only non-stimulant drug used for ADHD is Straterra. Vyvanse is in fact the king of the croup for stimulants. Vyvanse is Methamphetamine aka SPEED...legal but speed just the same.
Apparently, my mother says she knew I was ADHD by age 6. She has Borderline personality disorder and I was her "Golden Child" so I wasn't allowed to have anything wrong with me. She never even told me. I figured it out by the time I was 15 but thought I could just manage it.
When my oldest daughter was diagnosed at age 6, I put her on meds. I decided it wasn't fair to medicate her and not myself so at 28 I started Straterra and finally let someone give me a formal diagnosis.
I had to go off Straterra while pregnant but continued to use it with success during breastfeeding since I was 28, so 5 years now.
This spring, I started having upset stomach from the Straterra. It was still controlling the ADHD but I couldn't take the nausea anymore so I had to switch meds.
I'm still breastfeeding and there are only 3 meds 100% safe to take while breastfeeding. They are Straterra, Ritalin and Concerta. I'm currently on Concerta.
When the baby weans, I'll move to either Adderall or Vyvanse. In a pinch, I have taken both from my daughter before and find they provide much tighter control than the Straterra ever did and the Concerta does now.
And yes, my doctor is aware that I've pinched the child's meds when I was desperate. I can't anymore. She has advanced into a mood disorder like her father.
I suspect if my weight continues to be an issue, I will go with Vyvanse for the appetite suppressent side effect. There are adults getting Vyvanse specifically for weight loss at this point because well...its speed that is legal and will cause major weight loss.
One thing I have discovered is that whole comment about no reserves. Its SOO me right now. My biggest fear when I discovered the As was that I would be incapacitated as a mother. I had my Concerta increased. But, the kids are STILL running circles around me.
I HATE this. I've always been so competent and on the ball. And, in the last 2 months, the name of the game in this house has become "run and hide until mom forgets why she was hollering at you." The kids think its funny. I do not.
I've thrown in the towel. I'm putting 6 kids into public school after Christmas. I tried to put them in already and was told I can't until after the semester because they are homeschoolers and not transfer students. I'm not sure that's legal but that would require a level of focus to research that once again...I can't manage right now!
My plan for the future is to put the kids in school and go back to school for me. I think if I can retreat emotionally for awhile and submerge myself in academics and challenges I can find myself again.
I just don't think I can ever go back to where we've been. Whether he stays or he goes, I lost my focus to homeschool and seem to struggle to figure out how I EVER accomplished it in the first place. Darn good thing the kids were all advanced before the shit hit the fan because they would be so far behind now if they didn't have that to fall back upon.
I have decided I will do much better as a cheerleader for them while they go out into the big wide world and accomplish in a setting where they cannot run circles around me anymore.
FTR, I lost my Concerta Thanksgiving Day, I'm borrowing my dd's old Vyvanse script until I can get to where I can get my Concernta refilled. And yes, I'm a little WIRED this morning. My doctor says I'm 0-60 in 2 seconds on a normal day, so I'm a bit more right now thanks to my little screw-up....which would also explain why the house is getting clean and the kids are not succeeding at the run away games today
Oldest dd used Vyvanse for 2 years with great success but it caused her to drop 8lb. Her Psych just put her back on it in combination with Risperdal. He feels the combination will balance the weight issues of both.
I lost my Concerta and tried her old Vyvanse script for one day. That did NOT work well.
While Vyvanse helps her focus and stay alert, I was TRIPPING, as evidenced by my post I expect. For me, Vyvanse works like the speed it is.
Praise the Lord, I found my Concerta script this morning and went back on it today.
When I wean the baby, I'll move to Adderrall which helps me focus better. But, Concerta, like Straterra, requires me to continue to rely upon coping mechanisms but keeps me above water so I'm not non-functional and overwhelmed. Adderrall gives me that clarity where I can focus and feel like a newer and better me. Vyvanse sent me tripping...and then crashing hard.
Vyvanse is methamphetamine.
And, I know the drug reps have started pushing it to doctors really hard again recently. Its been a godsend for my daughter. But she was also just diagnosed with a full blown mood disorder versus just ADHD. So use it with caution. I did NOT have the same response to that stuff that Dd has. I won't be using it ever again.
However, in a pinch, I have tried her Adderrall before when she was on it, and I never had that response to Adderrall. She, otoh, still needs coping mechanisms with Adderrall and doesn't like it the way she does Vyvanse. She got mad I took her off the Vyvanse when she headed into a mood disorder and went over my head with her Psych today to get back on it.
But, she came armed with her journal entries to support her claim that she cannot focus and Psych sided with her and put her back on the Vyvanse. Smart little girl, you'd think I taught her to understand herself and seek help when she needs it.
I feel so frustrated.
You and I sound alot alike.
I am ADHD and was diagnosed 14 yrs ago when we had them look at my youngest for ADHD. It turns out that my ex, myself and both kids have ADHD in various degrees. The ex is no longer my concern other than in regards to his infrequent visits. I know that he is forgetful and doesn't always take his meds. I found that out when my youngest had a visit with him last year and the child acting out made the ex snap and he slapped him causing my son to freak and ended up in ER because he was so out of control.
I have SADD as well and it tends to overshadow the ADHD and lately has been making it difficult to impossible to cope. I am getting little done because I am now in overwelmed and have a house full of unfinished projects. The kids are stuggling with behaviour and I often end up dealing with that and get very little else done because I am so wrung out.
I am currently taking St. John's wart and it has been helping me be more calm and not feeling so overwelmed but little for the focus and motivation. My house is a wreck and I am having a hard time knowing where to start. Kind of the yearly slide into hell I live through. I wish I could make it stop because I see the crash coming and can't seem to stop it.
The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.
A clean house is the sign of a broken computer.
My son has never been officially diagnosed with ADD/ADHD but when we read the symptoms it was quite an eye-opener. He was 6 at the time.
We didn't want to put him on meds right away and I searched the internet for other alternatives. What I found was the Feingold Foundation. They advocate diet as oppposed to medications. Don't get me wrong, if my son had needed (or will someday need) medications we will get it for him. But a dietary change was kind of a no-harm first step. If we didn't see improvement then we would have gone to our doctor. And the effects of the diet would go away as soon as we stopped.
Well, the changes were noticable with three weeks of starting. My WH and I even lost weight. It essentially removes artifical flavors, colors and preservatives, and natural foods that contain salacylic acid.
I'm not one of those people that refuses to take medicine. But we wanted to give our son another option that didn't involve meds if we could. We've been very happy with the results. As he has grown older (he is 9 now) he is able to tolerate more of the "bad" foods. But there are some things that will always set him off and he may never be able to eat them without nasty side effects.
Something to consider.