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User Topic: Spouses Not Interested in Sex - Open to BS/WS
angerisme
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The lack of sex drive is actually your survival instinct kicking in imho. The day I finally accepted that my husband was a serial cheater and humongous liar/manipulator my body went to OFF. Since I have stopped any physical touch with him I have gained ENORMOUS perspective on my life and my future. I no longer feel connectted to him nor do I feel like I need him. If he walked away today the only thing I would be worried about would be money. I also just had my suspicions confirmed that he is monitoring my internet use. That makes him pathetic and useless but I already know that. I am not the one who cheats and lies. He thinks I am stealing his money HAHAHAH....you idiot dumbass. I hope you enjoy reading this :=


If they cheat once and only show remorse when they get caught...GET A LAWYER! Dont waste 10 years only to learn you've been manipulated for a decade. Youth lost to betrayal is a terrible foundation for the rest of your life.

Posts: 81 | Registered: Dec 2012
angerisme
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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NOT having sex with my WH is a blessing and a treat. It is WONDERFUL to go through life with full assurance I will not contract STDs or HIV.


If they cheat once and only show remorse when they get caught...GET A LAWYER! Dont waste 10 years only to learn you've been manipulated for a decade. Youth lost to betrayal is a terrible foundation for the rest of your life.

Posts: 81 | Registered: Dec 2012
angelsky
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, October 25th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read a lot of posts here, and boy do a lot of them sound like me!! I am the BS. When we met I was very thin and people told me I was attractive. At the beginning, the sex was great! Then over time, it got less and less frequent. I never had that problem before, and I believed all his excuses... you want it too much... I'm tired from work... We'll wake the kids, etc, etc, etc. When I was pregnant, it was because he didn't want to hurt the baby. After I had the baby, it was that I was too fat. Eventually, I got tired of asking, and after 17 years of this crap I started sleeping on the couch. Anytime he wanted it, he knew he could have it, cause I almost never turned him down. When I turned 40, I wanted it ALL THE TIME!! He turned me down almost every time, though. Now he says he was on internet dating sites and exchanging emails, txts and pics with these random people because he wasn't getting it at home. I didn't do that for 17 years, so why am I supposed to accept that as a "reason?" Hate that other people have to go through this, but I'm glad I'm not alone.

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TXMommy
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, November 5th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really glad I found this thread. Honestly, I can't stand it when my FWH even touches me. I cringe when he's too close. I really don't know the exact reason why, or what is wrong with me. I'm not the least bit attracted to him... I sleep on the couch (partly because he snores terribly and I'm a light sleeper, partly because I don't want to be next to him). I'm horribly resentful. Of not only his A, but other things. I don't know how to fix this...


ME - BS - 33
WH - 30
Married 9 years, together 11
2 kids: D8, S2
D-Day: June 10th, 2010
Is it bad that I'm just now able to say I'm in R?

Posts: 549 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: TX
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, November 6th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't remember if I have ever posted on this thread.

I am not interested in sex with my WS. It has been 6 months or so and I can count on one hand how many times we had sex this year.

I want to have sex, just not with my WS.

The A was a deal breaker.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5137 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
Dallas2
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was reading these posts and am astounded at the length of time people go without sex. Days, weeks, months, years, and some decades.

I really can't imagine how life is without any sex. When people say sex do they mean all types of sex? I mean between partners.

If sex is missing how is the rest of the relationship doing? I always thought sex was sort of an indicator to the rest of the M. Can you be close and intimate without sex? Do you really share your life with a partner without sex? What about other types of physical contact?

We are actually better but when I get angry I think no more sex. Now I wonder what happens with no sex to the rest of the M and life?


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