Personally, I would return it if the tags are still on it. I'm sure I could find something to buy myself.
anobligation - while she may be the first to file, you can still file and receive CS if you aren't sure what your relation status is wiht your H. I'm sure it varies from state to state as to how important the order of filing is.
She put OC in an outfit that said Daddy's little Princess on it, my feathers ruffled for a sec. but i think my mom was much more upset than I was LOL.
It's turning out to be a good day :)
Sorry to all of you who are having Father's Day issues. I guess we got lucky, OW has never been stupid enough to try and give my H anything for Father's Day.
I feel like I'm a yo-yo being tugged up and down. I guess I should just assume she is preg and prepare myself emotionally just in case vs believing she is lying and being crushed all over again. The OW's sister is preg also and they are 2 months apart and she is HUGH. The OW should be showing SOMETHING by now. Ugh, I hate this!
sorry to everyone who had a hard father's day. Lynne01, like your tag line, proud of you!
Beajus, I know you think you are ok with OW, but I feel that was a little tacky of her. JMO
Overcomin', it is hard to tell at this point. My son's baby's mother to be is not showing yet and she is 5 months, I am going to look at the sonogram early next month. Unfortunately it is the waiating game to see if a baby is born. I don't know what is harder, waiting that out, or having grown OC come into your life. Both are so hard.
Hugs to you all.
I agree LOL Maybe i'm compartmentalizing because I don't feel like deeling LOL
2. Go to rehab (said weed not a drug)
3. He is not to buy pampers,milk,nor clothes for OW. Court order states that we have to take care of OC when he is in our care which is every other weekend and full time in November 09. No more buying things for both houses for OC. OW decided to have a baby now let her take care of him.
4. No more her calling with her problems. Her problems not our problems. You didn't destroy her life she has 4 other kids with no father in there life she will survive.
I am proud of myself because all I wanted to do was open the door and let him in but I love myself and don't have to live with this mess. I did nothing wrong. I still in shock that I closed the door!!!
I guess OW must call him today asking for something and he told her no because OW sister called me saying that the baby needs things and OW don't have much money and needs help. Well I guess h didn't tell them that it's a new me??? I ask OW sister a few question?
1. I ask her did she call all of her sister kid father?
2. Do she encourage her sister not to keep having babies when she can't afford them!!!!
3. What would she do if her h had a baby by another women.
I didn't let her answer any of the question told her if she every call my home again she will be sorry and hung up.
I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself. And actions speak louder than words, let you H show you the changes not just cry. Good for you for putting down boundaries and what you are willing to accept and not accept. It feels so much better doesn't it. It is not a revenge thing, but it is what you feel that you deserve thing.
That is awesome!!
I hope I have your courage someday!
Happy Happy Happy Day, OW emailed me today that they got the court date and adoption will be final August 13th!!!!!!!!!!!!
Here I come to find out that the OW had been planning and plotting to break us up from the day we were married. She has been hovering around my H waiting for the opportunity to jump when he was weak and vulnerable. Yes, he definitely has responsibility in this, but for some reason she had some kind of hold on him. She knew exactly what to say and do to get what she wanted and to play on his emotions.
My MIL keeps telling me to look at the OW as an egg donor and that when the OC is with us that he/she is our child, but right now that is very difficult. How can I invision the OW that way, when she texted him stating they were a team when they were "making this baby" and he needs to stop walking away from his responsibilities. She also had on her myspace "Happy Father's Day to all the responsbile fathers out there." WHAT!! My H is a great father and VERY responsible. SHE knew he was married and did all she could to get rid of me and she plays the victim!
Luckily most people see thru her. She has no friends cuz she always stabs them in the back.
Auntics, This is great, not much longer, than we break open a bottle of bubbly.
Last night I eneded up in a huge fight with FWH about boundaries, I started packing my shit, I was sooo HOT. Yeasterday OW called FWH at work to tell him happy b-day. The oc's b-day was yesterday, and she just wanted to say happy b-day to him for their boys. . WTF. I was very pissed off that my FWH does not see thru her bullshit. Like the shirt for Fathers Day, the showing up at his work, calling when shee feels like it, the call yesterday, I know he is trying to stay civil with her tell he has his rights granted through the courts. But damn. Part of my problem is I let her get to me, she does not know this, but it does. I try to send out vibes that my life just can not get any better. But her being able to do as she pleases and me having to be behind the sences right now is driving me freaken nuts.
Her little stabs at me, on Fathersd Day went to in-laws and OW sent them a b-day invite for this sat. our party is planned for sun. Why the F*%k send invites to our immediate family, that is not her place, and how do I get FWH to see things this way, he does freaken nothing, to make any of this change. I just keep hearing wait tell court, when I have court papers then I will have things change. Well dam the OC turned 1 yeasterday, how much longer does all this take. Courts are slow I know.
Sorry but needed to vent, this stuff just pisses me off to no end.
Overcomi, it will get easier with time. My stomach was in a knot during the first almost year after d-day. And when the OC came to live with us, whew may times I went to my kids room and cried. But your MIL is right, the OC are my kids in everyway that counts. As far as the OW, you will drive yourself crazy reading everythign she write and hearing evervything she says, that is why it is best for both you and your H to go NC right now. What worked for me is I treated like a business arrangement, no personal feelings involved, that help me get thru the pain that I was feeling.May not work for everyone, but it worked for me. Take care it is going to be a long road.