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User Topic: Long Term Affair Thread XV
BorrowTrouble
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, July 6th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Come on girls, can you spill a bit about your get-together?


D-day 7/29/04.

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez, guys! I feel like the middle school girl who didn't go to the slumber party and missed all the gossip.

Gimme some scoop on the visit already!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not home yet but looks like we have to post in the fun and games forum so as soon as I get back, I'll be posting there and UKG will be sending pics too.
It was amazing!! I love our little group. Thank you for making this possible UKG, LH, DHAC & Brooke. It meant so much that you all made this possible.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I was on my first holiday without the family last week. I met 3 of my GFs from high school and uni. It was WONDERFUL..just thinking about myself.
Unfort the week was marred by H's bad behaviour.
On Monday night, he had a freakout and become quite aggressive.Despite my protests that I had not had an A in the week or as having one at work, he still insisted that I was and was planning to leave him.
Come early morning, he sent an email to the elder in our community informing him of his decision to divorce me; he also sent me one telling me to sort my work permit out (if we D, then I will be sent back to SA).

Strangely, i was not at all frazzled. I actually found his behaviour quite despicable, almost sad. I refused to engage in his drama (as I was wont to do before). He calmed down as the day went on and is now all lovey dovey, feeling a little confused as to why I am not the same.

I told him that whilst I am pleased with the way our family life was shaping up (we own a house, he is alot more engaged with the kids, the kids are settled etc), I was v unhappy with our superficial relationship. We did have a good working relationship as parents, but not as H and W. He thinks that this is as good as its going to get and that I am wanting the impossible; that we have been through too much to be able to have a "proper" relationship and that I should be grateful for what we have, given what we have been through.

The thing is that I am not. I want more. I am not prepared to settle for less than I need anymore. I know I am capable of so much more - the question is is he? Is he willing to work on this?

So when he told me that he wanted a D, I have to admit a part of me was resigned, myabe a little relieved. I am not going to fight him if thats what he wants. But I will not do it for him. he wants me to be the way I was before - adoring, loving, caring, faithful trusting W. (Un)fort, I want the same of him.


ETA:
Deleted info relating to the SI meet. Should have posted that in F&G. Sorry.

[This message edited by Lost Heart2 at 12:55 PM, July 7th (Tuesday)]


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: London, UK
Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shirley,
Fnf and I had wishful thoughts of you sneaking in to London, maybe bringing BT or any of the others with.
Ah well..next time!


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: London, UK
Deeply Scared
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Red  Posted: 12:16 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost Heart....

You have a PM.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

deeply scared....

can the info regarding the get together be posted in both forums?


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Iím back home now and have posted a pic in F&G. It was a truly great day and we found that the support and friendship here is inspirational.

Thank you to FNF for making the time in her hectic schedule, what with the graduation and the new baby granddaughter to LostH for getting the wheels going and inviting us all to Brooke with her amazing insight and sound advice and to DHaC for being brave enough to come! I hope she didnít get overwhelmed!

The friendships we have forged hold each and every one of us up on our down days when we are struggling. And now we have met IRL, we know how great we are!

I shall be back later to catch up (gotta get my dinner and FWH is due in) but wanted to satisfy your curiosity first!


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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hurtshirley
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for posting the pic UKG. You all look great!

FNF - I swear to god you could be my long lost sister! Seriously!


"Forgiveness is the grace by which you enable the other person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew" Desmond Tutu

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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FNF - I swear to god you could be my long lost sister!

Really - I think that is fantastic!!! Now no excuses for our next meeting.
Btw, how was your weekend? I hope you had a great time even though you know we wished you could have been with us.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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BorrowTrouble
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You all are as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside. Thanks for the pix, UK.


D-day 7/29/04.

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, July 7th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the picture is awesome....i tried to take in every aspect of your beautiful faces....

you all look so happy....more pangs of jealousy, and many pangs of feeling happy for you all....

btw fnf....how did your first meeting go with julia? how beautiful is she?


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great picture! One would never suspect the common ground that brought you together. Makes me even more envious of meeting with any of the tribe. I already know that internet friends are not all 'knife-wielding psychos' as I've met many internet online group members in the last 15 yrs!

Can I ask for some LTA mojo for dd who is due to give birth on Friday? she is most uncomfortable and I actually had sympathy nausea last evening after spending the afternoon with her. Please send her good vibes for this birth, her 1st pregnancy. thanks a bunch, tribe.


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Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LostSuol and DD))))))

Hope the birth goes as peacefully as possible.
And carry on some dry crackers and ginger or mint tea in with you.


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


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didnthaveaclue
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost Suol,

Will this be your first grandchild?

Good vibes coming your way.
DHAC


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lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the good vibes and hugs.

DHAC, this is our 2nd grandchild/grandson but our 1st grandson is only 4 months old tomorrow and he is on the west coast. We have only seen him a couple of times via webcam since beginning of April. I was there about 5 hours after his birth. H & I were told today that he giggles and can roll over now.


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didnthaveaclue
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LostSuol,

You must be looking forward to having a grandson close by. Will be thinking about you on Friday and waiting to see the posting of his safe arrival.

DHAC


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didnthaveaclue
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LostSuol,

You must be looking forward to having a grandson close by. Will be thinking about you on Friday and waiting to see the posting of his safe arrival.

DHAC


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forgivenotforget
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

btw fnf....how did your first meeting go with julia? how beautiful is she?

Miracle - She is an absolute doll. She is a real snuggler and loves to be held and talked to. She looks right into your eyes and I kept waiting to hear her first baby sounds since she seemed to be listening to my every word. My DIL said that should happen in the fourth week which is this Friday. Thanks for asking.
LS - I will certainly keep your DD in my thoughts this Friday. I know how anxious you must feel having just anxiously awaited the birth of our newest grandchild. It is absolute heaven having these babies to love. Please let us know how everything goes. We will be sending lots of hugs and mojo to you and your DD.


D-day - 12/23/05 LTA - 8 years.
"Love's a matter of trust and I just want to believe in us." M McBride

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, July 8th (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i love love love all this talk of new babies....makes one appreciate the true miracles of life...

lost soul...much mojo, may she have an easy birth that delivers a healthy, happy baby...and congrats on the first grandbaby....


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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