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User Topic: Helpful Books for WSes
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
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HUFI-PUFI
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As strange as it sounds, bumping this thread for shithead ...


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, November 8th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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The simplest thing can be the hardest thing to do....FRM

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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for newbies


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, January 13th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.


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HUFI-PUFI
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for the newbies ...

Even if you are seeing IC or MC, or perhaps more importantly, if you don't have that option, reading these books can give you tools to determine the why of the affair and also show you a path to self-healing. For all of us as human beings, self-understanding comes from self-examination and in that journey, these books can be invaluable.

Good Reading!


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Azilda, Northern Ontario
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just finished reading:

Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise by Jane Middelton=Moz

It's realistically a short read, unless you connect with it emotionally. It was painful because I see myself in the pages. But it was totally worth reading.


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

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Bump.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, April 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the bump.


ME 43
BS 38
1 Child 3 years old
Married 18 years
DDay - 10/2013. EA 9 months. PA 4 months. Ended the affair 11/2014



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Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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BW - gerrygirl

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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, August 28th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped because not all of these books are mentioned in the Healing Library ... all of these books are helpful to the WS community ... obviously, some might not apply to your situation but then again, without opening up and reviewing the material, you might never know.


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, September 9th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! I have read How to help your spouse heal and codependent no more as well as online web reading. I am reading After the Affair but looking for more.


Me-WS
Her-BS (deena04)
Upper 30s and kids at home (hers/mine/ours)
Cheater-me 2.5 years into relationship, 2 months before engagement, 1.5 year before M...this is not an excuse but a timeline of our life

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Thank you so much! This is amazing.

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WS Only

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:01 PM, October 13th (Monday)]


BS: 60 WS: 55
DS: 19 DD: 11
M:25 years
Polygraph 4/27/13 revealed A #1 (ons)only 7 weeks after wedding and A #2 7 month love of his life A
Reconciling? Divorcing? I guess only time will tell?

Posts: 45 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: California
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NOT Just Friends... I haven't finished it yet, but so far it seems like a day late and a dollar short. It should be required reading for newlyweds. I have trouble reading it because it points out (so far) all the things that I should have done, didn't do, and made our recovery/ reconciliation that much more painful.

I have found Brene Brown's work on Shame and Vulnerability to be very insightful, even though it is not specifically directed towards infidelity. Check her out on TedTalks. I'm reading Daring Greatly right now. It's a good thing it's a library book I think I would have underlined every other paragraph by now!

I've also picked up Talking to Depression by Claudia Strauss. Both my BH and I are/ have suffered from Depression. It is designed for those living with someone who has Depression and offers practical, everyday tips. One of the first reviews I read on Amazon.com was written by someone who both has Depression and recognized the benefit of the advice her family took from the book.

If you are a light reader or need something for the "throne room", I like Marc and Angel Hack Life. They have a blog, they're on Facebook, and they've published several books which are all written in list/ blog/ article style. I can't say that I agree with all their tidbits of advice, but they have some pretty good lists.

And, for my future reading list, a counselor suggested reading works about personal evolution and recommended The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. I haven't even looked at a preview of it, so I can't really say anything more about it.

Does anyone have any recommendations for overcoming one's own Passive-Aggressive behaviours or any books about a Passive-Aggressive woman? Most of what I've looked at so far are focused on the men because, apparently, women aren't passive-aggressive. Not that those couldn't be valuable resources anyway, but I'm throwing the question out there. Thanks.


Me: WW
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
Admitted PA: 12 Aug 2012
TT ended: Jan 2014

"Power, Lincoln, real power comes not from hate, but from truth."


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