SurvivingInfidelity.com® > Wayward Side
Helpful Books for WSes
Bumping for newbies.
Getting Past Guilt - Embracing God's Forgiveness
[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 6:37 AM, February 2nd (Tuesday)]
Great thread--deserves a bump.
a great example of the wisdom and support that Fallen has provided to the WS forum and a great reason that she gets the Mod job!
Bump for the new ones on the site.
Bump again so I can shameless plug a book that I am reading on Forgiveness ... something that I think that every remorseful WS will need to achieve in their sturggle to reconcile the act of betrayal against their self-image issues.
Forgiveness, How to Make Peace with Your Past and Get on with Your Life by Dr. Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon.
I've done a lot of reading in the last year and of all the books, this is the one that is touching me inside more than the others. It really drives home the need to come to terms with your past and achieve some self-forgiveness as the only way to start a healing process.
On a scale of 1-10, this one gets a 12 for have given me some perceptions on my behaviour that are just shy of being miraculous.
I highly recommend this book to any WS who is struggling with the issue of self forgiveness.
BE STRONG. BE LION STRONG. ROAAR!
Bump for the PeterFox website I found amazing.
double bump!- the peter fox website has tools, exercises, activities, something we haven't gotten to in MC just yet.
Bumping for atesenaotie's WW.
Currently 1/2 way through Not "Just Friends" by Shirley P. Glass
I am finding it very insightful and it is giving me so much to think on. I have started several of the other books on the list above but this one I can connect with more.
A must read if you are in this situation
I really need to read that book, "Should I stay or should I go". That's where I am. Thanks Fallen.
I've got the book "The Love Dare", great if both spouses are willing to do it together, so I've heard...
[This message edited by CookiesAZ at 3:44 PM, March 21st (Sunday)]
Best book I've read for helping overcome an A, and a must for both BS and WS (IMVHO)
Surviving An Affair, by Dr. Willard Harley, Jr.
Fall In Love, Stay In Love, by the same author.
Boundaries, by Cloud & Townsend
My all time favorite..... The Book of Proverbs, found in The Bible!
I personally am not a big reader. I prefer talking and listening than reading, but I have found a few books that have been listed here very helpful.
T/J for CookiesAZ
Your right in noting that not everyone is comfortable with reading books. Whether itís an issue of reading skills or perhaps vision impairment, there are a lot of reasons for people to seek out alternative delivery methods.
Amazon for instance has audio books such as the following books.
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. Spring
How Can I Forgive You - The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis Spring.
Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity by Shirley Glass.
Whether is audio or visual or any combination thereof, what is important that we can gain so much knowledge and support from the experiences of others in a variety of formats to suit our needs.
And the good news is that if you purchase anything via Amason.com by using the link to the left, then SI gains some financial support.
The three books I've found to be most helpful are:
Not Just Friends.
Almost a guidebook for both BS and WS to infidelity and dealing with it.
The 5 Love Languages.
I started this book thinking I had no love language, and BH has all 5, but it really clarified mine and his, and I use things I learned in it every day. Serious help.
The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly.
Just opened my eyes as to what real intimacy with my BH is, and how to make it stronger.
I think these have all been mentioned but wanted to add my 2 cents as to what worked for me.
Cookies, I found the audiobooks by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes very helpful- and her voice is so soothing and calming.
Besides Warming The Stone Child she has another good one called The Red Shoes
I've listening to both of those several times- it just felt like someone understood my pain and the fact that they are audiobooks was like therapy. I cried a lot when I listened to them, but that was a good thing. Check them out.
Adding my two cents:
"Get out of that Pit" by Beth Moore. Especially Chapter 3.
for the explanation of why chapter 3.
Bumping for new members