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Helpful Books for WSes

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Hope24 posted 7/29/2010 14:02 PM

Hope24 posted 8/2/2010 09:30 AM

Bumping for CrushedHim.

wincings_sparkle posted 9/3/2010 23:29 PM

HUFI-PUFI posted 9/30/2010 07:55 AM


HUFI-PUFI posted 10/28/2010 07:24 AM

This gets bumped because I wanted to add another book.

The Ten Things to Do When Your Life DFalls Apart by Daphne Rose Kingma.

Inpsirational and instructional. Which are they way that good books should be. A good mixture of homilies for self healing for both the WS and the BS.

Fallen posted 10/31/2010 21:52 PM

Bumping for a new member.

Lost68 posted 11/12/2010 14:50 PM


Fallen posted 12/3/2010 21:32 PM

WhatHaveIDone?? posted 12/5/2010 17:39 PM

What a wonderful thread! This should be a permanent bump on the Wayward side! Any chance of getting this added to the Healing Library so it is always readily available?

Thank you to everyone for the input. I have read some and will add others to my list.

hurtful posted 12/5/2010 19:36 PM

Where did you get audio version, I have major attention issues and have a hard time reading, but have had great luck with audio books. I would love to get this.

WhatHaveIDone?? posted 12/13/2010 21:10 PM

Bump for nohonor.

HUFI-PUFI posted 12/17/2010 08:52 AM

I know that I am not the only WS who has issues with the fights in our marriage. It’s not just arguments over the A but at times, it seems like all disagreements turn into arguments which ten escalate into fights and it seems that they just don’t end until she storms off and I sit there in stony silence wondering what the fuck?

ihurtforher - One thing that I struggle with is that when we have an argument, often times we both get angry and end up saying things that we later regret. I would like to quell these situations before they escalate, but it is difficult when we start to get into an emotion overload.

Well, I found a book recently that promises a way to defuse the situation and turn the fight back into a discussion by encouraging you to deal with the “true underlying” cause of the hurt and anger and fear that these fights reveal about you.

Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash by Nancy Dreyfus.

I’m only one chapter into the book but not unlike other books like 5 love languages, this one too seems to be one of those “aha” books that make sense from the moment that you pick it up. Yesterday as we argued over the Christmas decorations, the advice from chapter one is what allowed me to defuse the situation with ease and get us back on track. Can’t wait to read the whole damn book.


[This message edited by HUFI-PUFI at 12:57 PM, December 17th (Friday)]

WhatHaveIDone?? posted 12/30/2010 14:06 PM

Bump for new SIers.

Lost68 posted 1/2/2011 12:31 PM


WhatHaveIDone?? posted 1/5/2011 20:26 PM

Bump again..

Fallen posted 2/6/2011 19:55 PM

noheroes posted 2/7/2011 00:28 AM

Highly, highly recommend When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron.

HUFI-PUFI posted 3/10/2011 09:44 AM

It was time to bump this back to the front where it might be read again and the wisdom in it shared once more. BUMP!

Fallen posted 3/16/2011 21:07 PM

Clarrissa posted 3/19/2011 06:33 AM

I'd like to add a recommendation for new, remorseful WS.

I just finished reading How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair by Linda MacDonald.

It's great for those who really don't like to read. Only about 100 pages. A WS doesn't get the impression that the book is trying to psychoanalyze them somehow (which is admittedly why I haven't read some of the other recommendations). It gets straight to the point: THIS is what you need to do to have the best chance of repairing your M. THIS is what your BS needs. THIS is the best way to handle a certain situation.

I found it very helpful because it also lists some "predetermining factors". It listed a few things that it never occurred to me as being such. So it can also be the source of "aha" moments as well.

(Thank you to GeauxTiger for the recommendation. My H saw it on his thread and decided to check it out. )

Nowna posted 3/19/2011 11:01 AM

This book helped me understand my behaviors stemmed from my irrational thinking and what caused the wrong or what I'd consider in hindsight "insane" thinking...

Power of Now by Ekart Tolle

[This message edited by Nowna at 11:02 AM, March 19th (Saturday)]

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