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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, December 18th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey everyone.

Thanks for all the advice and thoughts. It really helps. This non A betrayal has indeed had a similar effect on my mind and heart. It is not as intense as the A, but it is a strong kick in the ass.

UKgirl.

She is the bookkeeper in this parternership. We have several different accounts. I do not monitor this activity that closely. She could have slipped this by me for a long time.

It is a lot of money. However, we have worked, saved and have been fortunate with some investments. I'm not a millionaire, but I am very comfortable. The loss of the money will not have a big effect on my life. The loss of trust (again) will. The money is supposed to be paid back. When she told me about this, one of the first things I did was write that money off. I really do not see any of it coming back.

I do understand what you mean about the second choice thing. I think I put it to her that way because that is the way she feels when I leave her out of something. I don't do it often but when I am off with the guys doing manly stuff, She has said before that she felt like she was sometimes second choice.

lh2 & miracle.

You are both right! In the heat of the discussion about the money, the A talk should have stayed on the back burner. However, I am going to try and use this as a opening to get her to address other issues. So you were both right. Do I get some kind of award for being a shameless, conflict avoiding suck up?

I don't know all my next moves. I am going to monitor some things more. I have been very cool towards her this week. I have even turned down her sexual advances. This makes me wonder that in the future I will be hearing a confession about how she was all bummed out by this and a nice sympathic man stroked her ego and so one thing lead to another.

Yes this place is a zoo. I think we are scaring the newbies off. They post once and do not come back. They probably go to other forums where the people seem to be more sane. Like the just found out forum.
I was wondering if I should have posted my money surprise over at JFO.

Concerning the timing of this confession I will say this. She has been worried about all this of course, but for several months she had been thinking about buying something that cost almost two times the money she gave away. She was afraid that I was going to buy it for her for Christmas. She did not want me to do that because of what she had done. I was not planing on getting it for her. I have already told her several times to buy it. My christmas shoping is done. I'm not getting her a gift this year.

She does seem to have a very self destructive part in her. I have known that for years. She gave away the money because she really wanted to help her relative out. She did not tell me at the time because, she says, this was during a time when I was semi laid up with a pretty severe injury. It was not a good time to discuss something like this with me. Of course we all know about the slippery slope. Once she went a few days without telling me, she was heading down hill and could not stop.

The strangest thing to me is the fact that we have helped several of her relatives in some way or another more than once. Not in that amount of money, but I have helped. She could have asked. I would have agreed to help. I'm such a old softie sometimes. I think that the fact that she is somewhat embarassed by her relatives being in this position contributed to this also. She will almost never spend $20 dollars with out asking me. To be honest, I get pretty irritated about that sometimes. Anyway I used to.

miracle.

Your reaction to anything betrayal is like mine. There fore I declare that it is completely normal. After her last confession I was so pissed I could have eaten nails. Big nails.

tryn.

You have to do what is best for you. GOOD LUCK.

Tribe.

If tryn stays away, it appears that I am going to be out numbered and surrounded by women here. Some men would say that is a dream, others would say it is a nightmare.

Thanks to everyone again.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, December 18th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tryn... I'm glad that you joined us for a while, shared your wisdom and point of view, along with your artwork. As dipstick said 'you need to do what's best for you'. This is pretty much the first advice for the newly betrayed but I believe this holds true during our journey while we deal with the infidelity rollercoaster we find ourselves riding on. Others have taken a break from this group so feel free to look after you and your marriage. Only you know what is good for your situation.

I know you will be in all of our thoughts/prayers. bless you & yours this holiday season and may the new year bring you peace.

{{{tryn}}}


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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, December 18th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tryn: i do so hope you find the peace you seek...i am glad you will stick with your art.....

you know how to find us if the need arises....hopefully it won't...

you have been a source of comfort to all of us....please be that same source for yourself....


dipstick:

Do I get some kind of award for being a shameless, conflict avoiding suck up?

what kind of an award would you like?

Yes this place is a zoo.

i am afraid to ask, but i will anyways....what kind of animals are we????we certainly are not cheetahs..

or tigers...


or lions

i hope you too find the peace you seek with your quest for answers...

lostsoul: how are you?


wishing anyone here in the northeast states a safe weekend, we are expecting a blizzard tomorrow....


as always
(((tribe)))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, December 19th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

miracle.

About that award. I had not really thought of any specific award. I thought I would leave that up to who ever is in charge of the award presentation ceremony. I guess if I ponder that question I could think of something.

What kind of animals? How about sweet, soft, cuddly, cute little puppy dogs and kitty cats. I hope you realize that I am not sucking up with that statement, just telling the truth.

Good luck with the blizzard.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, December 19th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LostH, Re my brother. Yes he does think itís different. I mean, he didnít actually say so b/c he didnít admit to anything Ė but. They just do, donít they? They dress it up in such a way that it allows them to bypass their normal morals and values and go off on some tangent road to la-la land. Sleepwalking into something they donít recognise for what it is Ė an affair. Of course, FWH knew exactly what he was doing but, guess what? It was differentÖ.! Aarrgghh!! I just didnít have enough time with bro on his own, literally less than 10mins when I asked. He never opened up, so that was that. Lid back on. Hopefully, I will have pressed the right button and made him ask himself WTF he was doing, but itís his choice. Nothing I can do about it.

I need to focus on me now, to get my lion back.
Heís still in there, just that someoneís shot a tranquilliser dart into his backside. Might be a bit shaky when he gets back on his feet, but donít you worry, heíll shake his head, puzzle about how he feels and then check out his patch and make it his own again. Hope to see you back with your words of wisdom. Peace and hugs to you too.

She is the bookkeeper in this parternership. We have several different accounts. I do not monitor this activity that closely. She could have slipped this by me for a long time.
I am in ours. Thatís why WH used his company credit card and cash. There were a few things I noticed post dday when I went through some back statements that were hanging around. I never monitored his mobile phone as that was pages of work related calls and numbers. I like to thing she was paid for on expenses Ė like a hooker. He never paid much of ďourĒ money on her other than a few trinkets and books. I could raid and run off with 90% of the money and he wouldnít have a clue how much it could be.

She has said before that she felt like she was sometimes second choice.
Who to? And who for? She was certainly second choice (again, if there was a level of choice) for OM. I find that the hardest thing to believe and I think that is often the case for both BS and WS.

They probably go to other forums where the people seem to be more sane.
Yup. Sometimes I think Iím just plain crazy!!!

After her last confession I was so pissed I could have eaten nails. Big nails.
I have eaten bags of nails. Every time I found something out it was like a sickening weight in my stomach. Even after I finished digging and finding stuff out for myself (the last being when I met MOWís BH two years after dday), there was still stuff coming out of the woodwork and I wasnít even looking for it. FWH isnít even much aware that the fallout is still happening.

I probably wonít have time to drop in again this year. So Iíd like to send good wishes and hope for a peaceful, healing Christmas and a great start to the New Year for all of us. Shut the door on 2009 and start 2010 with a smile and footsteps forward to a happier future.

(((((Tribe))))) Love to you all.

[This message edited by UKgirl at 11:09 AM, December 19th (Saturday)]


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3327 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
lostsuol
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Helpless  Posted: 11:40 AM, December 19th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know! This LTA has changed me so much that I hardly recognize myself. I used to be a loving, giving, compassionate woman. I've become cynical, bitter and resentful. I am lethargic, feeling totally unloveable and tired of being this way. MC this week and the further events that day make me question if I/we have made any progress at all. I felt I was being chastised rather than supported... too much to get into here.

I'd hoped that with having 2 grandsons born this year it would be time to make new holiday memories but I'm feeling that this may be bittersweet... not at all what I'd hoped. Again, the situation is more than I can share here but as we face my H's only sibling's last Christmas (cervical cancer / metastic disease) I'm overwhelmed with preparing for the upcoming days. I want to be happy that our military son & family will be here. Instead I feel like I'm walking under a stormy grey cloud while being bombarded by "media Christmas".

Sorry you asked, IWAM???

Christmas is Love. Christmas is for children. I'm having trouble with positive self-talk so I 'googled' christmas quotes:

Let Us Keep Christmas
Whatever else be lost among the years,
Let us keep Christmas still a shining thing;
Whatever doubts assail us, or what fears,
Let us hold close one day, remembering
It's poignant meaning for the hearts of men.
Let us get back our childlike faith again.
... Grace Noll Crowell

"The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree is the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other." ...Burton Hillis

"Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it's Christmas."
...Dale Evans Rogers

"The only blind person at Christmastime is he who has not Christmas in his heart."
Helen Keller
Perhaps this is the one I need to dwell on...

Christmas is for children. But it is for grownups too. Even if it is a headache, a chore, and nightmare, it is a period of necessary defrosting of chill and hide-bound hearts.
... Lenora Mattingly Weber

Forgive me if I've brought you down. We don't all celebrate Christmas so I hope I've not offended anyone either. Just needing something to replace my tears...


Posts: 808 | Registered: Feb 2007 | From: Canada
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ukgirl:

thank you for the xams wishes...i too would like to wish all a merry xmas but most of all a peaceful xmas to all, may your new year be filled with joy and most of all peace, peace of the heart, the mind and the soul....


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 1:04 AM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

dipstick:

hope you realize that I am not sucking up with that statement, just telling the truth

of course you are...

lostsoul:

Sorry you asked, IWAM???

there are alot of things i may be sorry for, but i am so not sorry when i ask questions that i know may have answers that are long and painful....sorry for your pain is the only sorry i feel......

this has to be so rough for you, so many mixed emotions, joy for the new babes, worry for your son and grief for your sil's illness...and holidays have a way of taking what we feel, whether it be joyful or sadness and magnifies it a thousand fold....

for now all i could offer are ((((((((((lostsoul)))))))))

i wish they were in person, i wish i could give you my shoulder, i wish i could wipe away your tears and pain...for now i offer much hugs, and an ear should you need it......purging can be good for the soul....even if you just scream out......

today was the date, the year date.....today was hard, most days are hard.....most days are sad.....

the blizzard is going strong here, so it will be beautiful by morning....it already is....hopefully we have no power outages...that really is my only concern....so if you see me here tomorrow it means all went well.....if not, well.............see ya when we regain power.....i too need to regain my power.....if only it were as easy a reconnecting the wires.....

as always
((((tribe))))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to be happy that our military son & family will be here. Instead I feel like I'm walking under a stormy grey cloud while being bombarded by "media Christmas".
I donít ďdoĒ Christmas either. Itís been taken away from me and I used to enjoy it. Hard work, but I liked all the preparation, as long as it was under control! Now itís either time to spend with the family like last year, or an opportunity to do something different. I would suggest concentrating on the family and making the most of the time you are all together. It just happens to be at Christmas time. Now you have Gíkids, you can say your bit is over and itís moved on a generation. But I know what you mean. Hugs hon. (((((lostsuol)))))

Iíve posted this about Facebook in Gen and will dip in when I can to see the replies:
ďFor those of us who canít help looking at the affair partnerís profile on facebook, be aware that there is now a ďprofile watcher ď application. I don't know how it works or if it's just one of those "fun" appilcations......... I'm not about to find outÖÖÖ..Ē

And I ranted into another thread about being married to a compulsive liar. WTF is wrong with H? Why does he tell these stupid stories, or do I just see him clearly now? Fuckwit.

Well, Iíd better get on. Hope you're not blizzarded out, miracle. Stay warm and snug.

And Iíd like to put a quote out there Ė it goes something like this:

Hereís to all those that I love
Hereís to all those that love me
And hereís to all those that love those that I love
And all those that love those that love me


ETA: I've just seen the snow I ain't going anywhere today!!!

[This message edited by UKgirl at 5:31 AM, December 20th (Sunday)]


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3327 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UKgirl.

She could easily clean me out too. I would know how much was missing though. She has offered to turn all that bookkeeping over to me. I can do it but I hate that crap.

She thought that when I did not spend all my at home time with her that she was second choice. Unless she had somewhere she wanted to go. It is more selfish behavior. My time was our time. Her time was her time.

You are not just plain crazy. You are like the rest of us here. We are suffering from the longterminfidelismadness disease.

That is a shame about your brother. This A stuff just keeps on happening. They do think their A is different. Like so many WS, mine was always critical of the people we knew that had A s.

lostsuol.

Sorry to see you so sad. I say or think this often. Life is hard enough without this A crap thrown on us. It sure can change our outlook on life. The cloud of cancer is so very tough. Damn tough.
I hope that you can find a way to enjoy the two new babies and your son. I am not a big fan of christmas.

miracle.

I was not sucking up! When you asked what kind of animals were in this zoo, I just pointed out the truth. Everyone here has all the good qualities of the puppies and kitty cats. I am guessing that everybody here is housebroken, so that takes care of the worst things about those pups & kittys. Of course I was not refering to myself as a puppy. Me? I am the Do-Do bird.

I have to tell you that your question about what I wanted for my award made me laugh. I am still laughing. Thanks.

Thanks to all for the poems. I did have to read that last one by UKgirl several times.
I think I have it figured out now.

To those that might be snowed in, find a man and hand him a shovel... Please try not to hit him with it.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tryn:
I sure got that pic wrong!!!
I am sorry.
--------------------------
Tryn,I am sad to see you leave (your pics and common sense have been invaluable).
But you need to do what is best for you and your M;
so 'be well, do good work and keep in touch'.

((((((Tryn))))))

****
Dipstick,
You have a wicked sense of humour (which Miracle does help bring out!).

****
Miracle,
Your first year down.
You have done incredibly well, my friend.
I hope you are treating your heart wit much kindness and gentleness.

****
Ukg,
If I dont 'see' you again, have a wonderful holiday in Dublin.
And bring back some of that ol' Irish luck.

****

Lostsuol,

You have quite alot on your plate. I can imagine how wild your heart must be beating with all this happening around you, and you feeling the way you do.
All I can think of is to say, is to deal only with what you HAVE to do this season; get help wherever you can and take regular time outs. Even if its just for a 10 minute walk.
If you need to talk, please know that I am here, ok?
Sorry,my friend.


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: London, UK
Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 2:35 AM, December 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our dear friend Miracle, is going through a rough patch.
Please send her hugs if you can spare.

(((((((Miracle)))))))

You are an amazing person. One day I hope that you find another amazing person to spend your life with.

The first year antiversary is so hard. You have shown incredible strength and good humour in a year which would have crumbled most people.
And you still have enough left over to come here and support others.
Just amazing.

Hang in there, Miracle. Soon this too will pass.

****
FNF,
Where are you? Your PM box is full.
I know this could to be a difficult time of the year, so sending you big hugs and buckets of white light.


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


Posts: 471 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: London, UK
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, December 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi puppies and kitties, err lions and tigers, err fabulous folks,

I understand about Christmas and not having the same feelings about the holidays as pre-A, but time DOES help. It also helps to realize that we are not the ones who messed up and we do not have to permit their bullshit to bring us any further down than it already has.

Dammit we honored OUR marriage vows. We shouldn't permit their stupid, cruel choices to destroy our happiness. I came to see that I can honor the loyalty I had by reclaiming MY life and MY joys, including celebrating holidays with my family. This year we are very squeezed in the house, so not much room for decorations. It's a smallish house that was fine for the four of us, but after my daughter had her baby and her fiance moved in, we don't have much room. Nonetheless, we have a modest Christmas tree and lights in the windows.

I'm to the point where I'll be damned if I'll let my H's A destroy anymore of my life and my happiness!

Huge holiday hugs to you all,

ff

[This message edited by fairyfriend at 5:44 AM, December 21st (Monday)]


DDay 1--Feb 99
Crappy IC, false R--spring 1999
A ended around April, 2003
DDay 2--September 26, 2004
DDay 3--September 26, 2005 when I found out the REST of the truth
8/8/09--Doing very well due to hard work on my and H's part

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lovinlife
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, December 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect."
~ Oren Arnold

Good Morning LTA Tribe,

Thought I'd share a Christmas quote as well...

Saw that IWAM was having a rough time... I am thinking about you and sending you strength! Hope you are feeling better soon. Take care of yourself, and always know that we are here for you!

This will be a crazy week for me. I have put off till the last minute, and now I have alot to do!

I could have been done, but my H has been so sweet and wanted us to do things together. We have been to numerous parties. We also went to see the train display at the Botanical Gardens, and walked around the rest of the gardens. Very cold, but wonderful. We have been to the zoo lights and then to the boat house for white bean chili in front of the massive fireplace. To the Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows for dinner and to view the Way of Lights!!!

Making new memories and leaving the old behind... he has broken down my walls, and while I am a tad bit afraid of being hurt again, I will be walking by his side into the New Year!

Wishing each of you's a Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year. So much pain and hurt... new year, new starts, and hopefully time to leave the past behind! One way or another. It is exhausting to be mad, hurt and angry all the time. Decisions... to make yourself a priority, and find the happiness you deserve, and the peace and hope for a better year!

((((UKGirl))))

((((LH2))))

((((lostsuol))))

((((trying))))

((((olddipstick))))

((((IWAM))))

((((LTA TRIBE))))

Lovin

see you in the new year


Together more than half our lives.

I am woman, hear me ROAR!!
What you accept, you teach!

Me 53, WS 54
Reconciled for life!
DD 24, DS 27


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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, December 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((miracle))))))

I know this is a rough time for you. You really are amazing. Things will get better.

LostHeart2

Miracle really enjoys making fun of me. I know it is good thearpy for her She is a kitty in this zoo. So very curious. She has never met a question she was afraid to ask! She should be a prosecuting attorney. Me, I'm just a clown.

fairyfriend.

Thanks for the thoughts. Good positive vibes. Enjoy the baby. They are so special.

lovinlife.

Nice post. You have been very busy. I seem to live by the motto "always put off until tomorrow what you can do today." I guess I like the pressure.

Hugs to all the puppy dogs and kitty cats.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, December 21st (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hello all

thanks for all the hugs....they do warm the broken heart...


ukgirl: i like dipstick had to read and reread that poem, i get so confused these days,...although i must confess talk like that always made me think too hard,...i am not one for poetry...way too many dots for me, i like straight layman talk...otherwise i start talking just as funny (crazy) as i think.....


dr dipstick: thank you for your kind word and now i have you guessed it a question?

longterminfidelismadness disease

this kitty has another question...

what is the cure??????....

i am sure that the cure is a simple one, like kill all of the infidels...or put them all away....or, and thisone may be my favorite....put them in a special torture chamber....where the victim can become the perpertator...uh-oh....my mind is going to a not so nice place....jesus would so not be proud of my thoughts right now...

oh well....

and did i hear someone say that curiousity killed the cat??? how many lives do i get? and please do not feed me liver....its like my kryptonite...


lh2: thank you my friend for your kind words....

fairyfriend:

I'm to the point where I'll be damned if I'll let my H's A destroy anymore of my life and my happiness!

AMEN sister...


lovin:

thanks for your poem, your kind words and your constant inspiration...

lovin is livin...yay


as always

((((tribe)))))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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Lost Heart2
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Default  Posted: 3:25 AM, December 22nd (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm to the point where I'll be damned if I'll let my H's A destroy anymore of my life and my happiness!

Decisions... to make yourself a priority, and find the happiness you deserve, and the peace and hope for a better year!

What a bunch of wise ol souls we are!

****
Now for something very unwise:
Finding out your TRUE inner love personality. http://www.links2love.com/quizzes/funniest_fun_quiz.htm

Dipstick, you have to tell us your results!


LTA BS

Dday#1 02.06.06
Dday#2 28.11.06


Mind what you love. Mind how you are loved.


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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, December 22nd (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lost Heart2

At first I was confused about why I was the only one that had to disclose their test score. I kind of felt like I was being picked on. then I figured out that it was because I am so special. I felt better then.

That was a hard test. I scored 29 out of 35. This test proves that I am indeed gifted with a great inner love personality. Thanks for the link LH2. I loved it!

I know that since I told my score first, I will now be seeing scores of 33,34 and 35 from the rest of the tribe.

miracle.

I wish I knew the cure for longterminfidelismadness disease. I'm working on it. One thing I am pretty sure about, the cure does not involve the eating of liver. You have many lives left. I bet the best ones are still ahead. Those evil thoughts are normal and probably O.K. Just don't act on them.

Hugs to all.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, December 22nd (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

o.k. i went from feeling better to feeling worse...what kind of god forsaken test is that lh2...i scored 18, and worse i didn't understand what it told me.....

this is sad...very very sad...i need a translator...


dipstick:

Those evil thoughts are normal

yay, i was beginning to think that may i was this psycho killer underneath it all.....the things i wish for...well lets just say that i am so so normal....

about those lives...i don't know, i ve used so many already....i need mary poppins neverending bag of everything....

so we are wise ol souls are we....lets see what can i come up with thats wise.....................................................................................................................................................................

i guess i need to ponder this a bit, being wise is something that should take some time and thought....not like don't stick your hand in the water while plugging in the hair dryer...



i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, December 23rd (Wednesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

miracle.

Don't worry about that test. It was probably written by a BH who is now a woman hater. Someone needs to come up with a new test. I'll see if I can work that into my schedule....

I hope those evil thoughts are normal. I think many of us BSs have some psyco killer ideas that float around in our heads.

Here is something that should cheer you up. You can ask questions and give advice!

After my WW confessed her money screw up, I swore I was not getting her a christmas present and have been resisting her sexual advances. I figured that should teach her a lesson.

I have never, ever missed a holiday, b-day or anniversary. So in order to keep my perfect record I did buy her a small present today.

Part two. This "not putting out" is hard to do. It sounded so easy when I made that decision. I think I am going to give in before much longer. So "Dear Abby", what do you think about this turn of events? Do you think I am weak or just unstable?

Thanks in advance, and hugs to all......


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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