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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
miraclewithwife
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, April 13th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and worth reposting over and over again. much appreciated.


Me: xWH 34, She: xBW 39
D 2 1/2 born 3/2009, OC born 10/2009
D-day 12/2009, D final 5/11

Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left.
~Jean Kerr, Mary


Posts: 168 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: mid-atlantic
hurtbutmending
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, April 18th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it should be included in the Healing Library.

It explains so much about how a BS feels and what BS needs from WS.


BS(me)
FWH(him)
MOW insignificant
married 25 years
2 grown children
DDay Oct 4 2009
R - trying


Trusted too much!


Posts: 306 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Finding myself again
crushed101
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, April 19th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump!

Also, BS here. Great article. I gave this to my WBF over a year ago. He finally read it last night. He commented that it was interesting and wanted to read it again. At this point it really doesn't matter if we make it or not,I just feel a huge relief that he will hopefully understand what this has done to me.


Posts: 94 | Registered: Mar 2010
stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, April 22nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumpin again


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
No_Einstein
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, April 23rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BS sent this to me... sometimes the hints are not so subtle!!

This has really helped me understand and to do the right things occasionally...

Thanks!


Me FWS 43
Her BW 41
DD Feb 17/11 - TT for 2-3 months more.

Posts: 3 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Canada
stilllovinghim
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Member # 29971
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, April 23rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for Keepondoingit


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
takilasunrise
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, April 26th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Marking so I can find this later....in case I get to share it with a certain person ever.


BW - Me, 49 years old
WH - Him, 51 years old)
D-Day July 2010 (several D-days to follow)
Divorced February 7, 2012

Denial isn't the way to forgiveness. The Karma for screwing over a good girl is the Bitch you end up with.


Posts: 978 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: WI
stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, May 2nd (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for Confused2Be.


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
TammyLynn70
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, May 5th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump

Posts: 166 | Registered: May 2010
stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 2:42 AM, May 8th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumped for Tragicmess


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
Weak
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 11th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband asked me to read this in the early days after D Day. It was very hard to read because some of it I didn't believe and some of it I thought I wouldn't be able to do. I was in the 'fog' trying to recover from the addiction of the AP.
Now, 6 months on from D Day 1, and 2 days on from the last of the lies coming out (which have put us back to what feels like another D Day) reading it again for the 3rd time, it all makes sense. I can understand it and I want to try my best to do it all too. This is such a good post. I'm going to print it off and keep reading it.
Thank you.

Posts: 36 | Registered: May 2011 | From: England
wishingandhoping
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, May 11th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again. Hard to read and face up to but so important.

Posts: 222 | Registered: May 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, May 14th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for HopeandFear1!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10096 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
HopeandFear1
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, May 17th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, SisterMilkshake! This article opened my WH's eyes. He was angry when he first read it, but by the next day he seemed to have finally understood... 3 days of genuine remorse feels like heaven after 8 months of hell. Wish us luck.


Me - BW age 59; Him - WH age 63
Married 42 years
WH saw prostitutes for the past two years
D-day - Oct 2, 2010
Working on R with a bit of success

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2011
stilllovinghim
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Default  Posted: 2:46 AM, May 26th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumpin again for the newbies and as a reminder to all of us as well!


“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

Posts: 1942 | Registered: Oct 2010
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, June 10th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10096 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, June 11th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 192 | Registered: May 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, June 22nd (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10096 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
evolutionwithin
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, July 10th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: 25yrs old WS
Her : 21yrs old BS
D-Day: 10/24/2010
EA:?
PA:6
One toddler and another baby on the way.

Posts: 22 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: evolutionwithin
wifeno2
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, July 11th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awe, I love all the bumps. Wish I could....he doesn't look at SI. (So I emailed him ha ha ha!) He can't get away that easy!


Me-BW (45)
Him-WS (42)
DS 19 (prior relationship)
DS-8
DDay #1- 10/22/2010 EA/PA with MOW coworker
Dday#2:11/17/2010 beginning secret emails with potential OW#2
DDay #3 11/22/2010 still seeing OW#1
Too many DD's to count: Now up to OW #6.

Posts: 696 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: the south
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