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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 1:39 AM, July 7th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6227 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
heartstabber
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Member # 34079
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, July 22nd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011

Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.


Posts: 164 | Registered: Dec 2011
PanicAttack53
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Member # 34195
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, July 29th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 868 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
MC_Jack
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Member # 35016
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, July 30th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you


I am not a marriage counselor. I chose "MC Jack" because I like the Music City. I did know what MC stood for on this site. Duh.

Posts: 867 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Mountain West
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, July 31st (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, August 12th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
She-Ra
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, August 27th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for HH


WW/BW 33 BH/WH 34
1 year old beautiful daughter

Posts: 845 | Registered: Jul 2012
longroadhome
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Member # 32428
Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, August 31st (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for the newbies.


Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier


Posts: 547 | Registered: Jun 2011
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, September 2nd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is fantastic!!! Thank you! thank you! My Bs and I looked it over last night and I got a lot out of it!! Thanks again

[This message edited by broevil at 10:54 AM, September 2nd (Sunday)]


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1133 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
scangel3
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Default  Posted: 5:08 AM, September 14th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, September 20th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17296 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
sinnomore
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Sad  Posted: 8:35 PM, September 21st (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spot on!. Read this a while ago & it resonated with me. Still find I need to come back to it. I feel I've done all that's in this post...its up to him to decide..& yes I may find out...it really is a dealbreaker
...


Me - WW-40's
Him - BS-40's
Married 20 years, together 24

Posts: 28 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: USA
hathnofury
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Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, September 24th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping because I referred to it in my post in JFO today.


BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

Posts: 1473 | Registered: Jun 2011
Diva0702
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, September 25th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two and a half years on and working on it, I stumbled on this and admire its profound statement of truth...


Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: UK
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, October 7th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9644 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
QVee
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, October 7th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH has been doing the right things since DDay, but I had him read this a few weeks ago, and it was miraculous. After reading it he actually cried (my H never cries!) and apologized to me again. It's really helped him understand my rollercoaster ride of emotions.

Thank you for posting this.


BS: me 30yrs
WS: 33 yrs
Relationship: 6 yrs, married 2
"When they try to make you an extra in their movie, LEAVE THE THEATRE!"

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Mordor
Sleepless22
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, October 7th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I sent this to my WH and he started crying today. Thank you so much for posting this. I think he may finally get it.


Me-BS 33 Him- WH 35 (ptsdandhoping) 3 Kids 10, 5, 2, and one due 12/23.
DD1: 12/2/09-PA DD2: 05/25/12-EA with Ho-Worker;
Status: Reconciling, I think.
My life needs editing. Mort Sahl

Posts: 153 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Crazy Town
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, October 8th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This really is fantastic!


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1133 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
justanotherjoe
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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, October 10th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for this post...I copied and pasted it for my WW to read..I only hope she does and it really makes sense enough to her to apply it. We've been up and down about what can be done to reconcile and be happy. I've blamed myself and all my emotions for us not being able to be "us" again. Now with this insight we've another tool in our toolbox to work with..thank you again.


ME= BH /Active Duty Army 30yrs old
WW= Homemaker (now after over 10 A's)26 yrs old
1 6 yr old daughter
10 D days in the last 4 months.


It does nothing more than insult the dead when you treat life carelessly.

Posts: 4 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: USA
tired girl
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Default  Posted: 12:35 AM, October 11th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

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