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Things that every WS needs to know
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This is a great post.
It's also very important that every WS know that if they do the work and fix the thought processes and patterns to become safe people it will be ok whether the relationship works out or not.
Hell, that's something EVERYONE needs to know.
YES!!! APPLAUSE HERE!!! I am a BS a little over a year out from d-day #1 and approaching the anti-versaries of d-days #2 and 3, and I just printed this out for me FWH to read. He is doing "everything" but sometimes it still doesn't seem like he really is. Even my IC asked me, "what do you need from your H?" and sometimes I'm dumbfounded and can't answer. I know he's doing everything he can, but then after reading this, it explained truly what "do everything he can" really is.
I am one of the "lucky" ones who's FWH truly "gets" it. We may just make it after all, and this post will help us get there.
Thank you again.
Great post! I plan on utilizing this with my BH. It helps me to understand what he's going through.
Best info I've read in a long time...wish WS would read it and apply it...
maybe I'll print it and put it in his birthday card this year...dday was on his birthday...6 years ago ..he still doesn't get it!!!
Well, that would be everything my wife is not doing to fix her mess!
Thank you for a truly great post here.
Bump - and printing out for WH to read. At least i hope so.
This is perfect! WS is being wonderful but I have often wished he could get in my brain and understand and this is as close as it gets. Of course he's not much of a reader and reads sloooow so I had to get the highlighter out.
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Thank you so much for this post. This was my WH's response after reading this it:
Thanks. I just read it but have to go see [a friend]now. I know I've done or said all of those things (or at least felt them, but I think I've said them too) but maybe not enough? This is a good reminder. I'm not sure if I've told you how thankful I am that you haven't killed me in my sleep. Seriously, my world would end without you and even though what I did was so awful here you are. Like I told your mom, you are so amazing. Thank you for loving me that much. It means the world to me.