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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
Notdaniel
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was a good read. I will say that betrayed spouses could react differently to some of it. I do have to communicate more and tell her why I want her and will work on doing that today. Spending time together is kinda mood dependent. I appreciate the insight into her mind.


WH-that's me (37)
Super amazing wife (39)

1 child


Posts: 32 | Registered: Nov 2013
kmom2662
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Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was incredibly helpful to read. My BS is having trouble sleeping, panic attacks, lots of emotions all the time. I feel terrible for what I've done to him. I'm going to print this and keep it handy. I think it will help both of us sort through things


Me-- WW, 49
Him-- BH, 53 (bobf)
Married 22 years
OEA, chat/email with multiple people over an 8 week period, 8/2013-10/4/2013
D-day 10/4/13
Working on reconciliation

Posts: 69 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United states
Unagie
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Elasticman.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"To be loyal to myself is to allow myself to grow and change, and challenge who I am and what I think."


Posts: 2769 | Registered: Oct 2012
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*bump* for cricketinturmoil.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*bump* for dolphin1111


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
lostandhopless
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, January 11th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

Divorced 6/13/14


Posts: 118 | Registered: Dec 2013
OnTilt
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


BS(Me), WH(Him) in our 50's
Status: I'm giving up on him

Posts: 379 | Registered: Dec 2011
cantseestraight3
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, I think I found a way out of this one. I found the article (with some minor changes it seems) on another website. I will send her THAT link instead.

Somehow I feel safer supplying that little bit of misdirection.


MS M54
WS F45
D-Day 1/4/14

Posts: 13 | Registered: Jan 2014
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for EMO


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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foolishlycluless
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, January 23rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great thread. I want to provide it to my WS, but I'm not sure how he will react.


BW 55
WH 59
M 30 yrs, together 33 yrs, no children.
D-Day #1: 9/23/2013, EA 15+ months, PA with 34 YO business assoc
D-Day #2: 11/27/2013, OW, EA for 2-3 yrs (2005-2007), PA
D-Day #3: 6/6/2014, found the sex video
Status: Putting on my bitch bo

Posts: 120 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Washington DC
MessedUpAndDown
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, January 25th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mod please


Me: BH
Her: WW
Married: 16 years
DDay: 12-12-08 ~ S: 8-1-10
"If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Then give up. There's no sense in being a damn fool about it." - W.C. Fields

Posts: 159 | Registered: Jun 2009
Wayflost
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, January 28th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

Posts: 428 | Registered: Dec 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*bump* for Ladybug.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
somethingremorse
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, February 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump -- should be on page 1. I look for it all of the time.


Me: WH (42)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC

Posts: 656 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Pennsylvania
TennisTC
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me: BW Him: WH (Both early 30's)
Married 11 years with a DD7
DDay: 2-24-13
R'ing

Posts: 167 | Registered: Nov 2013
DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS here....LOVED IT. Definitely touches on the back and forth we feel. Even those, silent blank stares....Yes, we are thinking about it...HELP!!




Posts: 272 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.

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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! I bookmarked it too. Every WS should read this.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 2029 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*bump*


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9853 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping this to the top of the thread again. Great post for anyone who hasn't read it yet.

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