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User Topic: Things that every WS needs to know
kaylee711
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Default  Posted: 5:16 AM, August 11th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a BS, I'm having the hardest time with the confusion aspect - you hit the nail right on the head - even though my happy-sad-angy-happy-super angry-sleepy-forgetfulness is way off the charts, I am comforted to know that there's no shame as BS feeling this:


CONFUSION: They’re disoriented. They can’t think straight. They become impatient, disorganized and forgetful. More frequently than usual they go to a room to retrieve something, but once they get there they can’t remember what it was. This is very upsetting to them. Bear with them. Be gentle and be helpful. Help them find their misplaced purse or locate their lost keys. Know that they will eventually come out of the fog. Also be aware that their confusion, as with other states listed here, may be set off or magnified by certain “triggers.” (Note: Read more about “triggers” below.)


Posts: 50 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: Texas
Headunderwater
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting this even if it wasn't as reassuring as I thought. after reading this it actually became more apparent to me that R may not be an option for me and my WS. reading through these thing they all seem like great advice and things that would go a long way into healing us but unfortunately they are not things that I could see my wife actually doing...

Posts: 13 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: United States
sarahstar
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Default  Posted: 4:59 AM, August 15th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thankyou for posting this

Posts: 131 | Registered: Jun 2014
remorsefulww
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, August 16th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump

Posts: 55 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: new york
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
trying22
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As the BS this post validated what I'm feeling and made me feel less crazy. Ps I loved that at one post said do not call them 'crazy' or 'irrational'. It's so true I hate these words because he has no idea the pain I feel. He can try to understand and relate but in the end he really can't.. And I'm not crazy and it hurts to hear him call me that.. I start to believe him and think that I'm somehow fucked up in my thinking and the problem is me..


Me-33 BS Him-32WS
Married 5 years
Office affair lasting 9 months in 2012
When he told me Feb 2014

Posts: 67 | Registered: Aug 2014
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, September 5th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
AceKnight
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, September 7th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My BS showed this post to me last night, and I have just printed it out as a guide to help me with any attempt at R that can possibly happen.

I feel extremely hopeless at times because I cannot get things perfectly right when it needs to be perfect.

Thanks for being willing to share what hope there is!


Posts: 28 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 4:29 AM, September 17th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995


Posts: 248 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, September 19th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 21(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3177 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, October 12th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

👊 bump


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
RKT429SS
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, October 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me - BS 38
Her - WS 37
MOM - coworker,with 2 kids, EA&PA approx. 6 mo
Us Married 10 yrs (together 15 yrs)
1 girl, 1 boy
DDay 3.15.2010
Working on R

Posts: 217 | Registered: Jun 2010
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, November 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 2417 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
Regret44
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, November 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Timely. Thanks.



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