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AnotherIdiot posted 4/22/2018 01:56 AM


Excellent advice when you notice the BS is unhappy, quiet, perplexed or has that angry look.

HERE’S A GREAT TIP: You will find it’s particularly meaningful to them when they’re obviously feeling low, but they’re locked in silence and aren’t expressing it to you. Just imagine… In their moments of unspoken loneliness or despair, you walk up to them, hug them and say, “I just want you to know how grateful I am that you’re giving me a second chance. Thank you so much. I love you more than ever for this. I’ve been feeling so ashamed of what I did and how much pain I caused you. I want you to know that I’ll never do anything to hurt you like this – ever again. I know I broke your heart and it torments me. I want you to know your heart is safe with me again.”

These are beautifully comforting words, particularly when they’re delivered at such a perfect
moment. You can memorize the quote, modify it, or use your own words, whatever is most
comfortable for you. The key is to include, in no particular order, all six of these components:

A statement of gratitude.

An expression of your love.

An acknowledgment of your spouse’s pain.

An admission that you caused their pain.

Do the above almost daily can really help. It also forces the offender (me) to re-focus outward, from my own personal issues (negative traits, illness), to the violated party.

Empathy training it could be called. Something I lack.

Thanks

EvolvingSoul posted 4/24/2018 23:46 PM

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irwinr89 posted 4/25/2018 17:15 PM

My XWW said this and cheated again two years later.... Is actions that matter, not words

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