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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for those struggling.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3476 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
selkiescot
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Member # 23777
Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IN a word. Profound I am showing my WH TONIGHT!


The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: CT
IStillLoveHim
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The day I came to realize this was my second epiphany. The first one was that the A was not my fault, that I did not cause it, could not control it, that it really had absolutely nothing to do with me.

Great post...!


“The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering.” -Ben Okri

Posts: 172 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: Midwest
openedupmyeyes
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"BRAVA!!!!"
THIS NEEDS TO BE POSTED @ THE TOP!!! I'M GOING TO READ AND REMEMBER THIS EVERYDAY!!!


Me:54 BS
Him:55 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:37
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 767 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
mamab
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just printed this and will keep it to read when I'm feeling down. So true, who else would take a married man, only someone with very low standards.


BS (Me) 47
WH 48 SA,
DD # 1 12/06
DD # 2 6/1/07
MOW fishing 2/14/10 & 9/23/10
MOW highschool gf (ho)

Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Texas
moreroses
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, this is how it was in our case.


BW;Me
DDay;2-14-08 when former ow decided to enlighten me about previous A
marriage rebuilt, felt rebuilt at 2 1/2 yrs out
long marriage with 4 kids

"And the stars that we could reach were just starfish on the beach"-French folksong


Posts: 1399 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Northeast
RescueMomma
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nothing has made me feel any better...until I read this!

Posts: 7 | Registered: Mar 2010
AlwaysSmilingNow
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Content  Posted: 7:31 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank You so much "deathbybetrayal". I know that I needed to here what you posted and I know it to be absolutely true. Thanks again...

Posts: 2 | Registered: Mar 2010
Rise And Shine
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brilliant. Thank you.


April 25, 2009

Posts: 3263 | Registered: Feb 2010
njgal480
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've read this before but it always makes me feel better.

I often fall into the trap of feeling less than and giving way too much power to the MOW serial cheater loser.
My husband did drop her the minute I discovered the affair, all of her former married co-worker affair partners did the same thing-dropped her and never looked back, her husband finally divorced her....so, why do I allow myself to continue to feel bad about myself? The MOW is the one that should be feeling bad...
What you have written is the absolute truth.


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


Posts: 3166 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
AttemptStrength
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, March 20th (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found this site five days ago. Wish I'd found it two months ago because this would have been as uplifting then as it is now.

Been having a very bad day and this has helped. :)


BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.


Posts: 1992 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Wisconsin
TryingMyHardest
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, March 21st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, yeah, just in case somebody wants to see this, my WW was also an OW (says she didn't know until his wife called me) and she's really pretty, but at the time she was a drug addict with about half a normal brain who (according to her) lost consciousness during sex. So DBB has a fine point, based on my anecdotal evidence.


Married 2006
2 kids, 4yo
D-Day 1: December 30th 2009
D-Day 2: 2/1/11
D-day 3: 2/13/11
D-Day 4: 3/28/11
WW Drug addict for 2 years, Morphine, Fentanyl, Xanax, clean since June '09
5 OM, about 20 seperate sexual encounters

Posts: 215 | Registered: Jan 2010
Notgoing2forgive
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, March 21st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much! I really needed to hear that today.


Me-33
Him-37
2 Beautiful children-7 & 12
Married 13 years
D-Day Oct. 2. 2009
I am Stronger than I thought!!!!

Posts: 18 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri
smallmouse
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, March 21st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks for this post!

the OW I've met are all illiterate. XWH kept bragging about OW#2 being MENSA. She's dumb as a box of rocks. She lies to every single person in her life, even her own mother. Her character is so lacking it's unreal to totally see her 'world'. OW#3 is such a bottom-feeder it's sick. She plays herself up as soooo headstrong and independent, but her every action denies this.

XWH's own mother put it best, she told me once that he left because he can't stand a woman as good as me, I magnify his flaws.

sm


pancakes!

Posts: 1446 | Registered: May 2008
shattered123
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, March 22nd (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear Death,
Thank you for these words, on today one of the worst days of my life. It is obvious your words have helped so many of us. Today, I am praying for the strength to survive.

Me: 52
WH: 46
Skank: 32
Married 15 years, together 17
Trying for R, trying to survive


Posts: 2590 | Registered: Mar 2010
Edie
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Default  Posted: 3:50 AM, April 12th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping this for newbies.

Is there any way this can make it into the Healing Library?


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
BrokenWoman007
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, April 13th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump, bump - love this post!

It is so true. When I get really down about WH A I have to keep telling myself that I am a wonderful woman - educated, loving, strong, and a wonderful mommy - and that she is nothing that can't keep her hands of of other women's spouses and is spending the next 2 1/2 years in the "big house" - the one with bars where they have to wear those lovely orange jumpsuits - because she has no self control


Me: 33, WH: 34, 1 DD
DDay: Jan. 2010 - confessed ONS
DDay2: Aug 2010 - confessed inappropriate texting
OW1 - 21; felon; Texting 3 other women - claims no physical contact
Hurting - still. . . .

Posts: 285 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Midwest
emeraldisle
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, April 13th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THANK YOU, DBB....thank you.


Me: BW, married 14yrs
D-Day 04/2008; 07/2008; 10/2008; 03/2010 & 08/2010
DIVORCED, and moving forward

Posts: 1016 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Texas
luvhimso
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, April 13th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DBB, that is Empowering. Thank you for saying it so well.


The meaning of life is to make life meaningful.

Posts: 494 | Registered: Jun 2005
Edie
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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, April 25th (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
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