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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, March 4th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not happy, sexy vamps- sad, lonely, pathetic, desperate women.


I saw a picture of the OW and was completely shocked. She is unattractive, skanky, and looks like a wannabe porn star (but a really bad immitation). I showed friends of mine her picture and the look on their faces is priceless. "He left you for that???!!!"

I hear she has three little kids - really interesting as STBX never wanted kids (although he has a son from a previous relationship). She has left a relationship to be with STBX and convinced him to do the same ("whether you leave her today or next year, you're still going to hurt her"). STBX has moved in with OW the day after d-day to the "haven" she created for them. STBX has no money, has maxed out his credit cards, is battling depression, has restricted visitation with his son, is hanging on to his job by a thread, and his friends and family want nothing to do with him. Now they will be combining families. Nice role models for your children, you two!!

STBX always said he didn't think he was enough for me - I've come to realize now he was right.

BS (me) : 53 Freshly divorced and so very happy. To infinity and beyond!!

Trying to understand the behaviour of some people is like trying to smell the number 9.

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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, March 11th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS Only

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 12:00 PM, March 11th (Friday)]

His D-day: May 2007
My D-day: Mar 2 2011
Together: 13 years
NC: Mar 3 2011
Trying to reconsille

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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, March 11th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, March 15th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for SadCat22

BS- Me (43)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, March 17th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for horse crazy

"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

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stronger than he
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, March 17th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this.

"The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast." - Oscar Wilde

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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, March 29th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, March 29th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has always been one of my favorite posts and I can attest that it exactly spot on!

Thanks for the bump


Me, BW, old enough
D-Day dates.. tired of 'em Let's just say it happened, I'm over it and have moved on.....very happy

Despite my screen name, I am very much a woman and hell yeah I wish I could change that name to gladshesgone

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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, March 29th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just what I needed to hear.
Thank you so much!

BW 35 (me)
WH 46
One daughter - age 5
Married 10 years

"Its open season on liars and Im hunting"
from Pretty Little Liars

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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, March 30th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for moonshine and lotstoloose

I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, March 30th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bravo. I want to print this out and post it on my office all.

me: BW 41
him: WH 41
married 9 years, together 17
2 great kids, both under 4

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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, April 5th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

God's hand was an avocado branch

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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, April 6th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost

BH (36)
DS (16)
DD (14)

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Betty Betty
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, April 6th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this thread. It is so spot on. Sometimes I lurk on some "other women" websites, and it is amazing how they see themselves. Needless to say, they don't often see themselves as they are described in this thread. But those other websites do provide good entertainment.

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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, April 6th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this! Thanks so much!

BW- Me (35) WH- Him (35)
DD-4 DS-2
D-day #1 3/13/2011
D-day #2 5/2/2011
D-day #3 6/10/2011
Status: REALLY pissed off....

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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, April 6th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This one needs to be kept fresh forever! Thank you! I'll be referring as many BS's as I can.

Nothing ever goes away until is has taught us everything we need to know. - Pema Chodron

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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, April 7th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need help. I feel like he didn't affair down. Now I personally don't think she is attractive. From what I know of her, she is single, 4 or 5 years younger than me, a has a degree, is the same high job level my H is (same big company), into sports he likes and wine like him.

I on the other hand didn't finish school and have been a SAHM until last year when I went back to work part time. My not working apparently a BIG issue in his unhappiness.

The only bad thing I can say is that she was a little clueless and in denial. He never told her he was married and had 3 kids. She told him AFTER I confronted them together, that she saw his ring but then he wasn't wearing it anymore so she thought he was separated, yet she never asked him.
Words of wisdom, 2 x 4's anything will help!
I guess another bad thing is she took him back after finding out about me and kids. He "claims" he not involved with anyone now, but like I can believe him.

[This message edited by dontwantthis at 7:12 AM, April 16th (Saturday)]

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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, April 7th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

dontwantthis - he did affair down. She wants to take him after KNOWING what he is able to do to his wife and family.

The OW in my situation is pretty (except for the huge mole on her face) and petite, but you know what - anyone who wants or tries to take someone's spouse is second best, and your spouse knows that you are a better person than she is. No matter what they look like or what their job is, they are a downgrade.

DDday: March 1, 2011
BW(me): 27
WH: 36
Married June 2009, together 8 years
OW: ongoing EA/PA, started October 2010
Separated March 24, 2011
Divorced Summer 2012
Signed D paperwork end of March, 2012; currently waiting for certificate that D is

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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, April 9th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Bluebells. I know you're right, a good person wouldn't be ok going after someone else's husband. Her character is lacking, mine isn't.

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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, April 18th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whenever I have a down day I read this post and feel better!

You're not having a bad day. You are having a normal BS day. You are fine.

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