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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
Edie
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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5196 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
survivor_kh
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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I needed this. Very true words! They are just hard to remember sometimes.


Surviving is important, thriving is elegant- Maya Angelou

you is kind, you is smart, you is important


Posts: 297 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Indiana
2yrs+recovering
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will be the first to admit that before DDay I was naive, but I believed what I did based on vows taken and 16 years of shared history. The level of stupidity needed to be an AP proves that indeed, they do always affair down.

I am almost at the 3 yr mark post Dday and...

I still love to read this post.

We all know what the motives of our WH were.

But the motives of the OW???

This says it all. My FWH said that last OW (LTA) was really stupid, and that is the only thing he said that made sense. Sometimes I think he may have been happier with someone less his equal. Is that why they affair down???


BS (me)60 FWH 72
Married 35 years
4 children and 3 grandchildren
5 yrs into R.
Now that he has changed and become the man he should have been all along, why should I start over?

Posts: 563 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: New Jersey
Survivor6388
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I keep telling myself this.

But at this point I'm really failing.


Me BS: 23
Him WS: 26
2 kids DD is 3 DS is 2

D-day: 11/27/11 12 EAs and 2 PAs 14 OW
Status: I don't care anymore. I'm trapped and I don't want to be here.


Posts: 371 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Fort Hood TX
BetrayedSAHM
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so, so true. Thanks for sharing - and re-posting.

Two years out from d-day and headed for divorce: sometimes the WS is just as broken as the OP and we, the BSs, are better off ending the marriage.


Me: BW (41); Him: STBXWH (43)
DS(3) & DD(3)
Dday: 1/1/2010
S'd and heading for D.

Posts: 1230 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Ohio
Twigs323
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, my FWH definitely picked 2 fuglies....overweight, unattractive and old. His friends and business associates would laugh their asses off if they saw pics of them. My girlfriend was in total disbelief when I showed her.

They pursued, stroked his ego (and dick). That's what they were to him, a means to an end.

He didn't talk about me to them at all (from what I saw). One of them even said (after discovery) that "I think he loves his wife" and "Oh, his wife is really pretty" Great I can sleep soundly now. (insert sarcasm).

They were needy, clingy, older desperate skanks who lured their prey the only way they know how.....sex.


Posts: 1429 | Registered: Nov 2011
Harlowe
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately, my WH Affaired Up.

She is a little older than I but she is thinner and prettier and has a better rack.

There is really no way I can compete... nor do I want to.


Me ~ BS~43
Husband ~ WS~47
Second Marriage for both ~ almost 9 years
5 kids ~ my 2, his 1 and our 2
DDay ~ 11/5/11 DDay 2 ~ 1/7/12
In R and it is going well

Posts: 118 | Registered: Dec 2011
onedayatatime321
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Harlowe...no he did not affair up.  He chose to be with a woman who had no self respect and was willing to be his whore.

You were faithful and loved him.  You were, and are, the better woman.  Stop believing he "affaired up".


Posts: 95 | Registered: Jun 2011
Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


She is a little older than I but she is thinner and prettier and has a better rack.

If your H is shallow enough to covet a rack, then you will be much happier without him. Don't fall prey to the objectification bug yourself, though.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5196 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Twigs323
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Harlowe,

He affaired down. If she was "all that" why did she have to pursue another woman's husband??? She is pathetic and desperate which makes her ugly inside and out.


Posts: 1429 | Registered: Nov 2011
Edie
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Default  Posted: 3:19 AM, January 13th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5196 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
AttemptStrength
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, January 23rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.


Posts: 1992 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Wisconsin
emilys
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, January 23rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting this, I was able to get up today and be a better mother to my child, clean my house, take a shower, and eat a bowl of cereal. I feel better, maybe just for a little while but it doesn't matter, this moment matters. To Mrs. Martha I think her name is, go screw yourself and don't post on this forum. We need this support for ourselfs and our children. The OW we need to hear and know that she is a coward. GO AWAY

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Minnesota
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, February 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
poshaccent
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Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, February 3rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post always pops up when I need it...thank you for bumping...

Harlowe, what goes up always come down...and a grrrreat rack will eventually be subject to gravity. It is just a matter fo time.

As for my WH OWs...So the tought of the day is, at least I never showed my boobs and a lot more (I spare you the disgusting details) to strange men I just met over the internet...that's one brownie point for me.


Posts: 149 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: UAE
Fixmybrokenheart
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, February 4th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just copied and emailed this post to myself! I will read it EVERYDAY! Thank you! So hits the nail on the head, (or the whore in the heart?!- hehe!!!)


Me BS 33
Him WS 36
Married 10 years
2 kids 10 and 8. Twins coming spring 2012
DDay 24 September 2011 (after 6 months of denial) EA & PA with s girl 14 years younger, a co-worker
Trying to R

Posts: 22 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Canada
2Bhappyagain
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, February 4th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is just the exact thing that I needed to read right now! Thank you! It is so true when you think about it. I know what the OW looks like...I don't know her personally, but from what I've heard about her from my H and the pictures I've seen of her, I know for a fact that she is complete downgrade from me! Thanks again! This is a GREAT post!


" We all have those moments that some call “suddenly’s”. Moments that forever change the path of our lives."

BS- (me) 25
WH- 28
Kids- 5,3,and Twins 4 mo.
DD 1: 3/4/09
DD 2: 9/24/11


Posts: 5 | Registered: Feb 2012
Anchor
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, February 4th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is exactly what I needed to read today. It is also what our MC said to me one time when WS wasn't there.

Posts: 2 | Registered: Feb 2012
OnAnIsland
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, February 5th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for that. I am still to shattered from d-day (Christmas 2011) to truly believe this every day. But the more I learn about her, the more I see her weaknesses and pathology. She has her own husband. Why try to take down two marriages. I think she hoped my husband was her exit affair. Sorry, honey.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


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AnotherNumb
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, February 5th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is really helpfull

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