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Edie posted 12/18/2011 23:48 PM

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survivor_kh posted 12/18/2011 23:52 PM

I needed this. Very true words! They are just hard to remember sometimes.

2yrs+recovering posted 1/5/2012 11:41 AM

I will be the first to admit that before DDay I was naive, but I believed what I did based on vows taken and 16 years of shared history. The level of stupidity needed to be an AP proves that indeed, they do always affair down.

I am almost at the 3 yr mark post Dday and...

I still love to read this post.

We all know what the motives of our WH were.

But the motives of the OW???

This says it all. My FWH said that last OW (LTA) was really stupid, and that is the only thing he said that made sense. Sometimes I think he may have been happier with someone less his equal. Is that why they affair down???

Survivor6388 posted 1/5/2012 11:48 AM

I keep telling myself this.

But at this point I'm really failing.

BetrayedSAHM posted 1/5/2012 11:54 AM

This is so, so true. Thanks for sharing - and re-posting.

Two years out from d-day and headed for divorce: sometimes the WS is just as broken as the OP and we, the BSs, are better off ending the marriage.

Twigs323 posted 1/5/2012 11:58 AM

Yes, my FWH definitely picked 2 fuglies....overweight, unattractive and old. His friends and business associates would laugh their asses off if they saw pics of them. My girlfriend was in total disbelief when I showed her.

They pursued, stroked his ego (and dick). That's what they were to him, a means to an end.

He didn't talk about me to them at all (from what I saw). One of them even said (after discovery) that "I think he loves his wife" and "Oh, his wife is really pretty" Great I can sleep soundly now. (insert sarcasm).

They were needy, clingy, older desperate skanks who lured their prey the only way they know how.....sex.

Harlowe posted 1/5/2012 13:24 PM

Unfortunately, my WH Affaired Up.

She is a little older than I but she is thinner and prettier and has a better rack.

There is really no way I can compete... nor do I want to.

onedayatatime321 posted 1/5/2012 13:54 PM

Harlowe...no he did not affair up. He chose to be with a woman who had no self respect and was willing to be his whore.

You were faithful and loved him. You were, and are, the better woman. Stop believing he "affaired up".

Edie posted 1/5/2012 14:06 PM


She is a little older than I but she is thinner and prettier and has a better rack.

If your H is shallow enough to covet a rack, then you will be much happier without him. Don't fall prey to the objectification bug yourself, though.

Twigs323 posted 1/5/2012 14:26 PM

Harlowe,

He affaired down. If she was "all that" why did she have to pursue another woman's husband??? She is pathetic and desperate which makes her ugly inside and out.

Edie posted 1/13/2012 03:19 AM

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AttemptStrength posted 1/23/2012 00:06 AM

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emilys posted 1/23/2012 11:24 AM

Thank you for posting this, I was able to get up today and be a better mother to my child, clean my house, take a shower, and eat a bowl of cereal. I feel better, maybe just for a little while but it doesn't matter, this moment matters. To Mrs. Martha I think her name is, go screw yourself and don't post on this forum. We need this support for ourselfs and our children. The OW we need to hear and know that she is a coward. GO AWAY

Fighting2Survive posted 2/3/2012 22:48 PM

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poshaccent posted 2/3/2012 23:31 PM

This post always pops up when I need it...thank you for bumping...

Harlowe, what goes up always come down...and a grrrreat rack will eventually be subject to gravity. It is just a matter fo time.

As for my WH OWs...So the tought of the day is, at least I never showed my boobs and a lot more (I spare you the disgusting details) to strange men I just met over the internet...that's one brownie point for me.

Fixmybrokenheart posted 2/4/2012 11:28 AM

I just copied and emailed this post to myself! I will read it EVERYDAY! Thank you! So hits the nail on the head, (or the whore in the heart?!- hehe!!!)

2Bhappyagain posted 2/4/2012 17:05 PM

This is just the exact thing that I needed to read right now! Thank you! It is so true when you think about it. I know what the OW looks like...I don't know her personally, but from what I've heard about her from my H and the pictures I've seen of her, I know for a fact that she is complete downgrade from me! Thanks again! This is a GREAT post!

Anchor posted 2/4/2012 17:53 PM

This is exactly what I needed to read today. It is also what our MC said to me one time when WS wasn't there.

OnAnIsland posted 2/5/2012 06:38 AM

Thanks for that. I am still to shattered from d-day (Christmas 2011) to truly believe this every day. But the more I learn about her, the more I see her weaknesses and pathology. She has her own husband. Why try to take down two marriages. I think she hoped my husband was her exit affair. Sorry, honey.

AnotherNumb posted 2/5/2012 08:02 AM

This is really helpfull

Edie posted 2/6/2012 11:52 AM

Coming back to Harlowe: there is always something that is inferior about the OW. Inferior to the WS that is, and chosen by the WS so that he can feel superior. Often it's simply the OW's lack of any real self-esteem and the placement therefore of the WS on a pedestal.

The WS needs to look down, not up. If he wanted to look up, he'd look at you. If you get my drift.

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