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User Topic: Honey, they always affair down
nordicbabe
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, June 10th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, now people are starting to tell me OW is not attractive at all. Looks like a 12 year old boy (face and body), beady little eyes, kind of a dipshit...pretty much the opposite of me. No wonder WH lurrvveesss her.

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Apr 2012
mesoSTUPID
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, June 10th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TOO SAD ... Thank you for the bump. Otherwise I would have missed this amazing post... I must rememer to bump it in a couple of days so that it stays relevant!


ME (BS): 41 and so stupid!
Him (WH): 43. He's my dragon slayer but my heart wasn't supposed to be slayed!

Posts: 195 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Miami
Irishar
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, June 10th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for giving me food for thought


Be true to yourself

Posts: 63 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Saskatchewan
TICKED OFF
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, June 10th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, thank you for the bump. I go off and on this site all the time so I miss some of the really great threads as this one.

Everything you have said is so true. The way I see it is that BOTH of the cheaters fit the bill as the weakest of the heard. They are both two weak and very selfish people who don't give a damn about anyone other than themselves. The are both partners in crime wreaking havoc against those who are so unsuspecting.

In my eyes, my h was/is no better than the whore neighbor he decided to screw just for their own enjoyment and ego boosting. My h AND her were two very weak and pathetic individuals who needed to feel the false sense of power the a gave each of them.

But as I have always said, for the most part when they are caught they both run back to the BS with their tail between their legs begging for forgiveness.


Posts: 2466 | Registered: Sep 2005
grapevinefires
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, June 10th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you! I needed to read this today.


Me - 30
H - 29
Daughter - 2.5
EA 4/12-6/12

Posts: 9 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: kentucky
howdidthishapen
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, June 12th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THANK YOU soooooo much for this post!! It made me smile and helps me hit the truth :) My WH's OW wanted him so badly to leave me for her she told me herself but he never did he could of at any time but didnt, just because she was skinny young and "the funnist person he has ever been around" (his words from a text the funnist person part) she was UGLY on the inside who wants a skank lowlife slut no one she was a good time not a long time THANKS I LOVE THIS POST!!


ME 34
WH 33
Together 12.5 years married 9.5 years
5 beautiful children
His D-Day 2000 & 2004 Husbands
My D-Day 10 May 2012
I had two one night stands in 2000
He had A with a slutty 19 yr old last for 4 years

Posts: 59 | Registered: May 2012 | From: queensland
Katatonic
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, June 13th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this!!! It was just what I needed to start this new day...I am lost and so abandoned but I am not going to let this get me down!!! Copying this to my journal too...LOVE IT!!!

Posts: 1 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: PA
burnedcanuckEMS
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, June 13th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I needed this too! The OW in my case is no goddess thats for sure. She looks like a dope smoking trash whore. She has piercings on her face and I can see one FB picture a tongue piercing. Things he always said he was repulsed by. Now I'm sure he is enjoying those things!! I can't wait until his little fantasy bubble bursts and he realizes he really blew it. He always said he was afraid of me straying and of losing everything we have worked so hard for. Turns out he was the one who strayed and even though I am in the early phases of this situation I am sure this is going to end in divorce. This relationship has been caustic and dysfunctional too long. And now I have a chance to get out.


Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!

"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"


Posts: 265 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Alberta
sidelined
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, June 13th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This helped me so much today. Thank you.


BS: Me (49)
WH 57
DD: 5/10/12
Broke NC: 6/6 (I discovered this 6/13)
Was sleeping with my "best friend" in the house while I was there!

Posts: 32 | Registered: Jun 2012
Edie
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, June 19th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
itsraining
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Default  Posted: 1:40 AM, June 22nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, I really needed this. Thank you!

Posts: 21 | Registered: Jun 2012
bronzermike
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, June 22nd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told my "cheating" wife about the "affair down" premise and she hadn't a clue. Her affair guy may be younger than me but he also makes far less, works a menial job, has a huge scar on his neck, walks funny, has spent three years in prison, and his wife (whom I have contacted and talked to extensively) says they may inhabit the same house but they live in opposite ends of it. She's just waiting for the $$$ to get out. Fir him, mym wife is quite the catch, blond, comely, over his station in status. His wife admits he's a smooth talked. When the talk gets sour (as it will), she will find out how quiet things get.


Twice married,
thrice cuckolded
First marriage: 10 years
Second, 19 and counting
Six kids. Two by first (30 and 26) four by second (21, 15, 12, and 5)

Posts: 76 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Florida
Edie
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, June 30th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
time to heal
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, June 30th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

14 months post d-day, and this is still my favorite post ever. Thank you so much!


BW (me)
Married - 15 years. Together 17
6 month EA with "HS crush" - hooked up on FB
DDay: 4/26/2011, S: 9/2012, Filed D: 2/2013
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” - Maya Angelou

Posts: 140 | Registered: Jun 2011
Edie
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
Lovedonthide
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, July 10th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for bumping this!


Me - BW
Him - WH
D Day 4/4/12 - confessed to ONS with acquaintance from high school

Posts: 6 | Registered: Jun 2012
dawnmarie
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been a few years now for me, but WOW, this is what I needed to read today. So glad I found this and I think it can be very helpful to so many of the newbies!!

I too agree that not all OP fit this description so let's get that out of the way. As for my FWH's whore, she did. She was not some young wounded bird with a sob story. She was a newly D skank 28 year old who got got dumped by her own WH. When I first suspected something was going on, I questioned friends who worked with her. They were clear that she would never be the OW. She would go on and on about what her WH did and how she could never do that to another woman. They were all VERY surprised when it all came out. I believe she knew exactly what she was doing. She saw someone that could take care of her and her kids and she went for it. He was a POS who bought into her ego stroking. I still don't like him some of the time, but R is going very good so we go on until....

[This message edited by dawnmarie at 10:10 AM, July 11th (Wednesday)]


"Always go with your gut...the mind will only tell you what you want to hear."
author......me!!
BS:41
WH: 44
DDay: 8/02/09 (just someone from work)
DDay: 10/27/09 Complete confession
WH has done everything right for R (that I know of).

Posts: 130 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: IA
SisterGoldenHair
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, July 11th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THANK YOU!!!


ILYBINILWY/Asked me for a divorce 11/1/11
DDay #1 1/23/12
DDay #2 and 3 5/19 and 5/20/12
2 girls (10 and 12)
R going well

Posts: 43 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: sistergoldenhair
tinysteps
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, July 13th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DBB,
I can't thank you enough for this post. There is nothing that I have read on any infidelity site including this one that made me feel the way this one did. You said so beautifully what I needed to hear.
My WH did affair down. When I found out who it was I was astonished. A mousy, plain, dimwitted woman if there ever was one. What an idiot. Both of them.
We are now working on R and trying our best. He is doing some very heavy lifting. Your post is one I have read over and over and I will continue to do so.
Your post might or might not apply to all on this site. But I say take what you need and leave the rest.
Peace,
TS


BS-Me (48)
WH-Him (54)
M-12yrs Together 15 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster

How will see the great things ahead of us if we keep looking back at the bad things behind us?


Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: My heart is at the beach
deepbreaths
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, July 13th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AMAZING! Thank you!!


BS: 35
WS: 33
children: 2 yrs, one on the way
married 13 years

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