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want2bok
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, March 26th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chandler - most states have some sort of calculator or worksheet available online. Just google your state and child support guidelines.

Repeat - She is in YOUR house. Your rules still apply and I would set strict rules with that phone. Maybe put it on silent and allow her to check it at certain times. Also it gets turned into you and FWH at a certain time before bed. Tell OW your rules as you won't have that phone disrupting your home all evening. If she has an emergency, she has your contact info.


BS - me 32
WS - him 32
3 beautiful girls - 11, 9, 7 and angel baby 7/9/10
D-Day 1/07 - 1+ yr PA
OW 35
OC born 12/06
R since 2/07 and going well

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BMC0415
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, March 26th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Repeat, I agree with want2, this is your house. I wish a 9 yr. would tell me that I won't tell them anything about their phone! She never see it again. You really need to put the law down. And I agree with the fact of this picture taking, it is giving the OW access to your family and I for one would not like it or accept it. Your H needs to let her know who is the parent and who is the child. Good luck on this one!


Me: 40+ Him: 40+
Married: 20+ years
D-Day: 3/7/07
Children: 24dd,23ds,21dd
10 yr. LTA 3OC w/OW 10,10,14 8/14/12-gave custody of twins to ex 8/16/12-DIVORCED!

Posts: 2910 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Maryland
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, March 26th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chandler,

The CS calculator is for our state only, but your state might have on online also. Ours can be downloaded into Excel or used online. It won't let you enter in blocks that are calculated, so that's good. We had #days estimated by lawyer, so I entered what he put before. Ours came w/the instructions page also on one of the Excel tabs (that's how I found out about the health ins. not technically being a credit for fWH, but I cannot see why a judge wouldn't think it impacted the whole family's income even if I was the one paying for benefits).

Want2bok: Since OC won't be home this weekend (maybe this afternoon, but OW never texted me to say car or bus rider), it probably won't come up until Monday. I think maybe fWH should go ahead & tell OC about turning off her cell (hope she forgets the charger).

We agree. 9-yr-old doesn't need a cell. She got one b4, because OW was trying to disguise it as being OC's after D-day (or shortly b4)...so she gave it to OC (it was really her secret TracPhone for texting fWH after I blocked her).

DS10 told OC, "I'm 10, and I don't need a phone, why do you?" Actually, if DS13 didn't do activites & stuff w/out us @church, he probably wouldn't have a cell either. I mean, once the got to HS, they'd probably need a cell (especially if doing a lot of extracurriculars), but kids that are always w/an adult who has a phone (landline or cell), don't need a phone. I didn't start excessive phone use as-teen until around 14-15 & then I hogged the phone for hours after homework (which didn't have call waiting back then).

We cannot decide how OW spends OC's $$$, so her buying OC a phone puts OW in the "good" category. Even though it was OCs $$$ she's spending anyway. OC said yesterday "after I use my 1000 texts, momma's going to get me unlimited texting." How great! Since druggie granny is texting OC so much, I suspect OC will get busted @school using cell (not smart like teens who can hide them better). Our county says you can have cells on your person, but none powered on during school hours (you can have @school functions after-hours etc.) They revised the rules once shootings in other states showed that if kids hadn't had cells, they probably wouldn't have been able to arrive so quickly for medical/police assistance. But, they also have emergency "intruder" alerts that they have drills for also (like moving bookshelves in front of all doors etc. when special signal/codeword is received over intercom) & all doors except 1 main door @front is kept unlocked - can be seen from office secretary's desk.

Anyway....I think fWH should let me draft a note to OW saying that OC's phone may be taken as punishment for bad behavior. That OC will text OW prior to it being turned off, if it is taken. And, that OC's phone will be powered off @night and stored in my purse until daylight. I would almost be tempted to tell OW that we will hold OC's phone Fri & Mon while she's @school (since it cannot be powered on during school anyway). DS10 said she spends all bus ride home, texting the other girls on bus, her momma, granny, & cousin.

Maybe, OC texting OW will get annoying & OW will eventually quit texting back.

I just feel like OW's family is spying on us, in this way....seems creepy to me. Invasion of privacy.

I'm not opposed to kids having one of those emergency or home-only phones (Disney used2 cell them) that can only call 911 & home (programmed by adult), but I think OC is a little too young to be constantly texting. If she wanted to call her mom afterschool, she has always had that option (we have a landline)....she has just never WANTED to call OW most the time. Or, OW has never been home or answered cell, when OC called anyway.


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, March 26th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is bad, but I feel compelled to snoop on OC's phone. Should I look @texts etc. to make sure she's not sending pics of our home to OW or texting bad things about us? Well, we've even heard of preteens/teens around here, getting busted for sending nudes of themselves (or underwear shots) to dirty-old-men (well, lower 20s). Should we be monitoring OC's msgs? We don't have texting on DS13's phone, so that's never been an issue for the kids b4.


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, March 26th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, what happens now. OC gets a spanking for hitting DS10 or DS13 or a cat, excessively rude/backtalking or flat-out saying she isn't going to do something she doesn't want to (like take bath, go 2 bed on time, pick up her mess), or she gets grounded....does she call OW and say how mean we are, that we're beating her & OW sends cops to our house????

You know, I thought I was over all the bitterness about As (even after OC came along), but A#3 just royally screwed that up. And all the stupid stuff she did (and her extended family did) after D-day#3 to try & make R unbearable for me so I'd leave fWH. Absolutely unkind in every aspect of dealing w/OW, post-dday#3....except when she's trying to make my skin crawl (like leaning in my car right after dday during DO of OC & trying to be friendly @ballgames). Childish, if you ask me....absolutely childish. She will be 33 next week & when will she grow up? Such an irresponsible person, to be managing OC's monthly checks & raising 2 daughters. I cannot see how she managed a restaurant plus was regional manager of 3 restaurants (just doesn't fit in my image of her child-like behavior).


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, March 28th (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh god... this drama is never ending.

So, according to WBF, OW is now considering getting an abortion, since he has not bent and has remained consistent that the two of them raising the baby as a couple is NOT an option.

Apparently she has a doctor's appointment tomorrow. I don't know much about abortion, but I would think it may ever be too late for that to be a valid option. I am not sure exactly far along she is, but I'd say somewhere between 8 - 10 weeks (if WBF was honest about when he was last with her).


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, March 28th (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where I am, I believe 12 weeks is the latest they will do it without a medical reason.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 1957 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, March 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whalers11,

Hmmm. Sounds like a ploy, but I guess some OW do get abortions. With her behavior, I would think maybe it a ploy to make wBF take notice & act concerned.

Even though I'm against abortion, I kept hoping (not knowing whole story) that OW would abort OC. fWH said he would not let her do that...honestly, it's OW's body & fWH would have had a hard time stopping it (if she weren't married to the father of OC). wBF maybe could get emergency pre-natal DNA & hault it, but I'm sure if OW really didn't want his child...there would be ways to naturally abort (herbs etc).

Yes, some OW are drama queens.


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, March 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC came home Friday on bus. I had to take OC to OW @6 p.m. Even though she's been calling & texting like crazy, she didn't call fWH all weekend or text me @all.

I think today, I'm going to ask fWH if he might consider allowing OW to get OC afterschool on her days. Weekend went well. fWH & I had house alone after 5PM Saturday until around 6PM Sunday. I told him again, thank you for not talking to OW. He said, he knew how much it bothered me, so he chose not to speak to her for that reason.

Mom is really pushing me to get some IC. She said I have too much anger. Yes, it's true. We watched "Amish Grace" last night on LMN. The idea that I should pray & give my anger to GOD is a good one. I know the anger is eating me up inside...not forgiving both fWH & OW and the anger I harbor for them is making me weak & run-down. I just don't know how to get over A#3 & the revelations about OC's "true" conception. I don't think I will ever know the full truth. My mom sometimes makes me feel ashamed to keep being angry...I just cannot seem to change how I feel.

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 6:58 AM, March 29th (Monday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
dreamer1
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, March 29th (Monday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I guess I finally got what I have wanted to say out of my system, but really don't know what I said.

2 weeks ago, my dear firend asked FWH and I out to go have some fun, well lad and behold it was where FWH and OW used to frequent often, so of course I thought this would be great to reclaim my mark in his life, may be some of her friends would report back to her, how very happy we are together. Had a great time, but served way to many double shots of booze. Well I did nothing in appropriate at the club, was very cordial and had a blast. But later that evening when we returned to our room, I guess that is when it hit me.... FWH said I hit him, yelled, cried, and said all sort of stuff, in regard to his behavior surrounding the A. Next morning I had those beautiful frog eyes, so I know that I must have really unleashed on him. Guess this was a long time coming. He has handled it like a trooper, which is great. Just wish I knew what I really did say. But you know I feel like a BIG weight has been lifted from me, so I guess this may have been what I needed to do, was let go, with no holding back. Because I do not remember it must have been easier to say what was truly buried in me. FWH thinks that what a person says when their drunk is truly what they feel, can this be so? If so, then his drunken nights with her, was truly how he felt as well....
Maybe that is a question I should ask him...

It took me three days to be normal again, after that night. WOW, did I lay one on.. Long time since I have been in that condition, but it was so nice to feel free to get out, and be comfortable in those surroundings.

I do know because FWH has told me, that I said I will never forgive him, and that I do want a D. So what is that all mean, just don't know.

Some days I do want out, and others I am ikay with the progression we are making. Just such mixed feelings from time to time. Will we ever feel like we will be okay with our decisions?

A few things have popped up that have triggered me lately, and I am so filled with so much doubt. I do believe that NC is there, but these things are gentle reminders of past events that have happened. Will those ever stop? I wish I never had these memories in my head, and I was like I was before all this shit happened to my life, emotions, mind, and heart....


S(he) Be(lie)ve(d)
Me-BS 48
Him-FWH 50
Friends 34 yrs-Married 26 yrs
D-Day 1/20/2007
LTA-To Many False R to count and D-days, Last D-day June 11,2010
4 stepchildren SS 28, SD 29, Twin SS 2yrs.
Twin OC, born 6/23/2008
Trying to see if R is pos

Posts: 558 | Registered: Feb 2007 | From: Arizona
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, March 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We sent a Q&A to OW about spring break, vacations, DS10s field trip.

1) OW will get OC @school so fWH, DS10, DS13, & I can all attend the Dollywood field trip 5/14 & get back late. We can get her Saturday 5/15.

2) OW has no obligation to allow OC to spend any time @our home over spring break. She is already (by agreement) allowed to get OC on OW's b-day. So, OW said "I'll get OC on April 1st, keep her until Tuesday April 6th @6pm, then fWH can have her & bring her back @6pm on April 12th.

So, OW doesn't care to see OC the Sunday night b4 school starts back...even though we'll have her a whole week (she'll have OC only 4 full days).

Fortunately, OW is getting OC afterschool on OW's b-day...I don't want to see OW all dolled-up for her b-day dinner out.

Thursdays are our family night out-2-eat....hope we don't run into them....I'd tuck tail & find another restaurant.

I still forgot to ask OC what the big church field trip was & who she spent weekend with.

OC told fWH "I am texting too much, I think I am going to limit it to 10 texts per day." Funny, a 9-yr-old limiting her own texting!


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, March 30th (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC told fWH yesterday. I text my granny (this is the druggie) a lot because we have a lot in common, we are alike in many ways, we have the same hobbies, & we even look alike.

fWH told her, "you'd better not end up like your granny." OC said "Oh, I know what you're talking about Dad."

Honestly, from what I can tell, OC looks nothing like granny. OC is more like OW. OW supposedly reads a lot (or used to before she got obsessed w/fWH)....OC reads a lot. OC looks very much like OW, even though it kills me to see mini-OW's face daily.

I guess between her marijuana, granny found time to text OC & has put into her head that they're completely alike. OC is much nicer than granny also & I would hope she wouldn't run away w/neighborhood boy (not legal adult yet) she babysat (abandoning BH & 3 children, one of which was BH's stepdaughter). Nope. fWH would hunt OC down, if she ever left 3 babies w/her husband to run-off with a teenager.

BTW: if you guys don't remember, OW's stepdad#2 is only about 3-4 years older than fWH & ~2 years older than OW's BH#2 (and OW calls him dad). In all of this mess, OW's stepdad, has been the only person in that forsaken family to not behave badly toward me. Even though he was the OM that granny ran off with, he seems to have some decency about him & doesn't do drugs or anything (even though he buys them for his wife as-long-as she cooks 4 him & keeps house clean).

I hate that OC is even around granny...she deserves a better grandma than that.

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 11:35 AM, March 30th (Tuesday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, March 31st (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Weirded-out yesterday.

Came home. See OC afterschool. She's wearing a long blue-jean skirt. Thought it was from our house. I said something like "oh, did you have an accident or something, I see that you have on the skirt we got at JCP for your b-day." She said "nope, this is the skirt that Momma got me @JCP this weekend." OC said that her momma went & bought her the same skirt/legging set that I got her for b-day, same size, same store. She had told OW that we shopped there & also saw OW's old friend/coworker who'd known OC by name & asked about OW+toddler sis.

Should I be freaked about the fact that OW is going after me, buying OC the same exact stuff? The leggings are unique (multicolor paint-like neon sploches) & the skirt is jean w/simulated tears.

So, now OC cannot wear the one from our home, if she's already worn the one from OW's home that week & we're going to have to put her name in label of ones from our home to keep them straight.

She bought OC more clothes yet again also (on top of the $500 she spent @mall before). OW is going hog-wild w/OC's $$$, but I'm glad she is finally spending something on OC.


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, March 31st (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

crickets lately (chirp, chirp, chirp)

How's the grandbaby? Finally get the DNA sent in?


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
altered
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, March 31st (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, it is official, OW and BIL got engaged Sunday. OW stayed instead of going back Mon, got a bunch of her stuff to move into BIL's home and put her C in local school. I was very upset Sun night, felt betrayed, tortured, just really depressed. The ONLY thing I can think of is that OC will benefit from me and FWH being more involved in his life. I am trying to just live my life, ignore OW, and be happy in myself no matter what is going on outside of me.

We had OC for about 45 min last night, while BIL and OW were unloading stuff. COM was sick, whining, OC was crying, FWH's back was hurting, all I could do was laugh at the complete absurdity of it all. I also got a glimpse of what it would be like to have 2 C.

I did tell BIL best wishes and good luck (I really meant the good luck part, OW will make his life hell if he isn't careful) but I said " I am not trying to be hateful, but I do not want to socialize with OW except for visitation and family stuff, and that it would be better for everyones' relationships if I stayed away from her". BIL said yeah, then scuttled off to tell OW all about it probably. But I don't care, that is my boundary and I am laying it out there. I told MIL and FIL exactly what I said too. If they choose to respect it or not is out of my control, but I can choose to walk away from them if they don't.


Married since 5/99
BS-36
WH-39
1 COM
D-Day 6/27/09
In R OC born 12/15
D-Day #2 8/19/13

I want to be the kind of woman I want my daughter to be-Jewel

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SunshineWanderer
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Question  Posted: 7:22 PM, March 31st (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi everyone! I posted like a month or so ago about my WH potentially having a baby with another woman. According to him she's due in the early part of may (first two weeks)- apparently "they keep on switching her due date"- my question is it possible to take an amniotic sample for paternity this late in the game? I ask because apparently that's what they did (WH & married OW) and it seemed a little suspect to me. I haven't seen any papers or anything like that.

In other news I'm not quite sure if I want to reconcile anymore as WH now wants me to get a paternity test for our children (guess he feels that if he cheated I could too? ). I've said no problem but he then backtracks. I've been looking for a job & looking into custody arrangements- I feel like if he wants to still be with her then let it go; I'm just afraid of how it'll affect the kids.

Thanks in advance for any advice! Sorry I haven't been posting more- the two kids keep me super busy.


WH- 28
BW- 25
D-day: 12/31/2010
WH & OW play house: 05/2010-11/2010
*Yes! The OC is NOT WH* What to do now?

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repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, April 1st (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Altered,

That is just so weird, that OW will "maybe" marry BIL. I wouldn't trust her though...if she'd cheat with mOM, she'll cheat as a mOW.

So, will OC be your stepson or nephew-by-marriage (kinda), or both?

SunshineW,

Sounds like he's fence-sitting still. Search for at home paternity testing on web. I found one that you could buy amnio kits for & get OB/GYN to collect the fluid for shipping off. It may have more info about when it's safe.

Go ahead & make WH pay for DNA for COM. Ask him if he wants those attached to the temporary CS order in the legal S forms, or up-front b4 D? Just joking. But, if he really thinks COM aren't his...tell him to pay for the testing. After A#1, we conceived DS10 during HB phase of false R. ILs didn't know about A#1, but they knew we were having M issues. I have always believed that they think DS10 isn't their grandchild (by the way they behaved toward him & DS13/OC9 in comparison). Someday, I'll just go get the DNA & rub their noses in it. Maybe when I convince my maybe uncle (potential daddy) to do a DNA, I'll just get the boys done @same time.

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 7:26 AM, April 1st (Thursday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, April 1st (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, forgot to mention.

Today is OW's 33rd b-day.

She's an April Fool's baby & her name means

1. one who's pure; chaste.

2. Virginity; virtuous character; celibacy.

Synonyms: abstemiousness, abstinence, chasteness, cleanness, continence, decency, demureness, devotion, honor, immaculacy, innocence, integrity, modesty, monogamy, morality, naiveté, restraint, singleness, sinlessness, spotlessness, temperance, uprightness, virginity, virtue

The name must've been the ultimate April Fool's joke, huh?

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 7:45 AM, April 1st (Thursday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

Posts: 1721 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Attemping R #3
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, April 1st (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what fWH is thinking. When I got home last night, he had taken OC's phone & was snapping photos of pics of OUR family & putting them into OC's phone. He put pic of him & OC (when she was <1) snuggled up while he was holding her browsing web as OC's background. Then, he put photos of me w/COM (right after births) and our prom photos from 1990 and our non-formal wedding photos (1993) into her photo album on the cell. I felt weird, but let him do it. Only thing that was uncomfortable, was him browsing her phone & finding photo of OW (he made comment about her new hairdo w/white-blonde streaks all through it - in dark brown hair) - is it breaking NC, if he sees photo of her? Anyway...wonder if OC showed her mom the photos? He actually asked if I had photo of him & OC, which I had in an old photo album online (so he snapped photo of it on PC screen). I kinda told him that I don't like OW seeing photos of our family, is that wrong?

Oh, did I mention that last week, OW sent photos of OC they had taken, plus photo of OC & toddler sis (who got her hair chopped off & looks like a tiny boy in a dress). She gave us 2x photos of OC, why did she think we'd want a photo of her other kid? That nagging feeling keeps me wondering, is toddler sis an OC & fWH doesn't remember another A (due to head injury & accident)? I guess, unless the other shoe drops, I'll never know for sure.

You know, I keep this weird/strange idea in my head, since I didn't know my father. Mom says that my alleged father was rumored to have a child out-of-wedlock b4 me (deadbeat if U ask me). OW's BH#2 is fatherless. He has similar hair color (red) to mine & his daughter w/OW is blonde/blue-eyed like DS10. How bizzare of a coincidence would it be, if BH#2 was my half-brother? I know...just a weird idea...but, what if it were true? My brother went to kindergarten w/a half-brother he didn't know about (conceived shortly b4 his father met & started dating/married my mom). Nobody even knew about the brother until well into adulthood.

How many OC & COM attend school together and never know their sibling(s)?

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 8:33 AM, April 1st (Thursday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, April 1st (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it is bizarre. I guess I will be both step-mom and aunt, BIL will be uncle-stepdaddy, FWH will be uncle-daddy. At least OW is fixed and there will be no more brother/sister-cousins running around (although our luck, tubes will grow back and she will get P).

How many of you have OW's try to talk with your H's about non-OC related stuff? OW remarked to FWH one day that she is getting very acrobatic in bed with BIL (in tiny trailer). She also gripes to him about her job, drunk father, friend/former babysitter. FWH changes the subject back to OC, but never comes out and says, "this is not appropriate to talk about with me". What do I do? Call her on it, let it go and make sure FWH is being appropriate with her? Bring it to BIL's attention? If I were engaged to a woman and she was talking about sex with another man (especially one she slept with) I would hit the roof! I trust OW not one bit. She was only S when PA happened, M when EA started. She will cheat again. If she cheats with FWH, she can have him. I will take COM and escape the madhouse.


Married since 5/99
BS-36
WH-39
1 COM
D-Day 6/27/09
In R OC born 12/15
D-Day #2 8/19/13

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