@H&L: start easy and work up from there, If you can only manage a few mins brisk walking its still a win, its a win for you over your inner couch potatoe (and we all got one of those) ... just keep building slowly.
Last weekend i ran a 20k trail race (just short of a half marathon) in 1:35, that puts my pace above my best halfmarathon time from when i was last running (some 6-8 years ago) only 6 months ago i was struggling to finish a 2 mile jog without looking like i was about to expire, I just made sure that i didnt let the inner couch potatoe talk me out of doing a scheduled run.
oh and on a positive note, a couple of ladies from the art studio round the corner from where i live thought i was 10 years younger than i really am.... who said stealing your wives anti-aging creme wouldnt pay off
I'm so FUCKING tired of hearing that.
BUT....after ex#1 and before current wife, believe you me I took advantage of many of those beautiful women and their offers
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I raise my glass, unfortunately non alcoholic also, to you guys. Stay strong, and be true to yourselves.
May the OM develop permanent explosive diarrhea.
May his cock be covered in puss oozing sores.
May his balls shrivel to raisins.
May the OM become morbidly obese.
May his body be covered in a contagious and ugly body rash.
May his W or GF leave him for another man.
May he spend the rest of his life lonely and alone.
May our WW return to reason.
May our WW find remorse.
May our WW develop empathy.
May they truly regret their A.
May our WW finally and truly throw the OM under the bus.
May our WW finally tell us the complete truth.
May our WW finally become the women we thought we married.
May we find freedom to either stay or go.
May we know that we are men of immense value and courage.
May we discover that we are truly valued by our WW.
May we learn that we are finally first in her heart.
Raise you glasses Lads.
..and may i add..
..May the OM die a long, slow, painful death..
..a nasty body rash is just not going to do it for me!!
..nothing short of him in his grave will suffice..
..'hate' is, indeed, a powerful emotion!!
no mercy, no compassion, no empathy ..only hatred..that's just the way it is now..
since thne I have redirected my anger towards her, where it belongs-OMM never promised me shit.
technically, I guess my WW was under him as well
The OM in my case is a firedick (I save the firefighter term for the good guys) who mowed our yard! The only women he goes after are married women... He simply goes in and steals married women... He dumps them shortly after the divorce or in my case after I moved out...
I never really knew the emotion of hate before this but I live it now...
My 1st post, so go easy on me!!
I read through most of the responses in this thread, and can honestly say how good it makes me feel to know that my thoughts & actions are "normal". Well, as normal as they can be considering...
Yes, I too tore my ring off when I confirmed the affair on D-Day 2. She stopped wearing hers a few months after I think to just piss me off, even though I know how much she likes to wear it "cuz it's pretty"! ;-)
I'm currently living "separated" together, and have pulled what I think has been a nearly perfect 180 on her. It's kinda cruel, but then again after what she did to me and the kids, it doesn't even come close.
Long story short, we're "happily reconciling" (well NOT ME), and are about to go on our annual family vacation, which I want to be drama-free for me & the kids. What she doesn't know is that when we get back...she gets served.
Sorry for the long post, but just want y'all to know that I look forward to being a part of this forum, and meeting/hearing from y'all.
Enjoy your evening...drinks on me!
*New to SI, so once I figure out all the acronyms, I'll change my signature! ;-)
I would love ta see the look on her face when she's served...
It was also this trip my WW I think lifted the fog... She was different when we returned so I put off the D to see where this was going; I can file anytime. I’m still in the R, still working on me, and still enjoying life and the kids.....
I wish you luck.
What she doesn't know is that when we get back...she gets served.
He didn't do this to you, she did! Now, if he was a friend, well thats a whole different thread.
Welcome, Betrayed-n-hurt. Sorry you find yourself here, but know that you'll have tons of support and good advice.
Well WW seems almost reborn after this night out, has told me what a selfish inconsiderate bitch she has been, is now in 'best wife I can be mode' it's all really strange. Is making me breakfast in bed, cooking dinners, arranging 'romantic' nights, has her wedding ring back on. Trying to connect with my family again, talking to me a lot about things in her life. Unfortuntatly still won't leave job where POSOM still works - hes leaving 'soon' apparently.
The A is still a taboo subject really, but there are tears and sorrys and you are my person for life etc..
Problem is I've heard a lot of this before and it was all BS as she contacted him again trying to arrange a meetup, so im dubious. I guess a question for anybody here who has had more than 1 D Day and successfully R'd, how do you let go of the doubts, when do you accept their behaviour is sincere and not just more lying and crap? To move on in our life and hopefully get back to being a happy family I need to know Im still not being played for a fool. Her actions are starting to show me this is what she wants and is trying to acheive but I have suffered some pretty full on trauma through this and my bullshit meter is on high alert.
Then there's also the issue of me being absolutely sickened by what she has done to her family and the selfishness she displayed - but I guess time will heal that one. I just need to beleive this is the end of her A and her feelings towards him - the fog is lifted and she is now back on the zombieman train. Meh, sick of the drama in my life, sick of questioning if my W is still a lying psycho. It's all very tiring.
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