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User Topic: Betrayed Men - Part 5
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, August 26th (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me, I must be a sucker for punishment.....applied for a position with same agency as OM just prior to ww's A.

bullshit meter is in high gear, and just hoping I dont get this promotion.....


holding out hope
UPDATE: Hope's Dead

Posts: 430 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: CO
SourCherryDrops
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Default  Posted: 2:09 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You must be confusing Australia with Austria zombieman. We're a "gimp free zone" Down Under...

You can have him mate, we've got enough in New Zealand as it is.

oh gawd, i thought this was a ANZAC free zone... vegemite or marmite?

im a vegemite kinda guy myself.


On the trust thing, at this point in my life i really cannot imagine trusting someone 100% ever again. Sure maybe 99.9% but there will allways be that small doubt, that knowledge that betrayal can strike at anytime. The thing is i dont ever want that 100% blind trust again, I cannot help but think that if i didnt have it i may have seen the warning signs a lot earlier.

As for trusting people that are not your significant other, i think the idea of trust to a point, that point being their ability to inflict serious harm or hurt is valid. I still naturally assume people are trustworthy untill they prove otherwise, but i do start form a place of trusting them to an extent.


Me BS 37, Her STBX 34, 1*ONS, 1*EA 1*PA/EA, 2*PA
Heading for D after 9 mths of R

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Europe
deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 4:28 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

vegimite on toast for breakfast - that i can trust!


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

vegimite on toast for breakfast - that i can trust!

Damn straight DP.

And SCD, if it wasn't for us ANZACS saving you Poms at Gallipoli in WWI, you may not enjoy the right you have today to drink your beer at "room temperature".

ETA: But national pride and breakfast condiments aside for one moment, H&L - I wouldn't give up on your promotion - If you get it I'd be surprised OM would stick around...

[This message edited by Lotsa at 5:16 AM, August 27th (Friday)]


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deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that i can lick oh so slowly!


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
SourCherryDrops
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Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And SCD, if it wasn't for us ANZACS saving you Poms at Gallipoli in WWI, you may not enjoy the right you have today to drink your beer at "room temperature".

what on earth makes you think im a POM?

ok so i do also carry a UK passport, but that dont make me a pom.

Jeeze if you really wanted to insult me you coulda called me an aussie


Me BS 37, Her STBX 34, 1*ONS, 1*EA 1*PA/EA, 2*PA
Heading for D after 9 mths of R

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Europe
deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kiwi?


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i do also carry a UK passport, but that dont make me a pom.

So they just hand out UK passports to anyone these days? Swear an allegiance to QEII at all?


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shyguy
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Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks lotsa! I needed that breakfast idea!


Love stinks yeah yeah(J. Geils)

Posts: 5866 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: tulsa
SourCherryDrops
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kiwi?
ofcourse, born and raised.

i do also carry a UK passport, but that dont make me a pom.

So they just hand out UK passports to anyone these days? Swear an allegiance to QEII at all?

No i qualify through descent, didnt need to swear anything to anyone.... or not that i remember, it was almost 20 years ago now.


Can i just point out my W is useless with money, Just going over the bank accounts... jeeze.


Me BS 37, Her STBX 34, 1*ONS, 1*EA 1*PA/EA, 2*PA
Heading for D after 9 mths of R

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Europe
jsngold
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, tonight is our 11 year anniversary.

I told her, "Due to our current situation, I can't celebrate this anniversary. Maybe next year, if things are better."

Her response? "Whatever."

She is completely indifferent to me. In her world, I am just the nice guy who sleeps in the guest room, brings home a paycheck, watches the kids, and is available for sex on the rare occasions when she wants it.

I have been doing the 180 for six months now.

I am tired.


BH: 37 (me)
WW: 37 (her) SAB, EA (but not PA, or so she says)
Married: 12.5 years
Kids: 12, 9, and 7
D-Day: 7 Feb 2010
Divorced: 22 July 2012

Posts: 101 | Registered: Feb 2010
SourCherryDrops
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ah jnsgold, sounds like your a border with benifits.

One of the things i miss the most is knowing that there is someone that loves me absolutely for being me. Not because im their son, brother, or dad... but because they chose me.


Me BS 37, Her STBX 34, 1*ONS, 1*EA 1*PA/EA, 2*PA
Heading for D after 9 mths of R

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Europe
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the things i miss the most is knowing that there is someone that loves me absolutely for being me.

boy ain't that the truth-& thinking that somebody had my back.

what a fool I was for dreaming that.


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5359 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're happy little Vegemites
As bright as bright can be.
We all enjoy our Vegemite
For breakfast, lunch, and tea.
Our mummies say we're growing stronger
Every single week,
Because we love our Vegemite
We all adore our Vegemite
It puts a rose in every cheek

Vegemite -- ??? Really??? Made from Brewer's yeast? Uhhhh... nom?


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9144 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the things i miss the most is knowing that there is someone that loves me absolutely for being me. Not because im their son, brother, or dad... but because they chose me.


↑ Understatement of the century.

jsngold -- what do you foresee for your future? Nothing (including D) is worse than limbo-land. I was there for six months myself.


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9144 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
SadStorey
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the things i miss the most is knowing that there is someone that loves me absolutely for being me. Not because im their son, brother, or dad... but because they chose me.

Finally someone put my thought into words. Perfect statement!

Well, today is my dday. 1 year out. I feel ok today, but I am getting a bit worked up now.


Me-BS 28
Her-WS 24
Dated 3 years, then engaged a year.
Married 7/18/09
Dday(my bday also) 8/27/09
Divorced 12/14/09
Began affair prior too and during the marriage.
No kids...just my Doghter

Posts: 26 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Michigan
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel ok today, but I am getting a bit worked up now.

Why?? Do/buy something for you today -- you deserve it.


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9144 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh -- HAPPY BIRTHDAY SadStorey!!!!

I will have a drink in your honor!


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9144 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
Buzz09
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jsngold -- what do you foresee for your future? Nothing (including D) is worse than limbo-land. I was there for six months myself

Don't get me wrong, divorce is still very hard for me. But, I couldn't agree more with the above statement. Every minute that I was around her was a complete mind fuck.


Me BH 40
WW 41

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Lotsa
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, August 27th (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kiwi?

ofcourse, born and raised.

Oh dear... {shaking head}

One of the things i miss the most is knowing that there is someone that loves me absolutely for being me. Not because im their son, brother, or dad... but because they chose me.

We all deserve that SCD... There's someone out there looking for you as we speak brother - when you're ready for it, she'll find you.

jsngold & SadStorey - Sorry to read you're both doing it tough today.


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