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The Life Boat
Thank you GT.
GT is close to WT. An explanation is always welcome.
Excellent analogy. Thank you for writing and sharing this. Excellent.
bump. because this is awesome!
BW here. I would give anything if my WH would use this analogy to get us to R, and during R. But 13 weeks after DDay #2, I don't think he will. I want to send it to him, but it would just be begging and chasing. And he is too angry, too defensive to see that it would apply to the work he has to do. He would turn it around and accuse me of failing to do it.
BS here. Thank you for writing this. I am going to try and get my WH to read it. Keep bumping for others.
Bump for new members.
What's crazy is that the little lifeboat is more loaded with stuff than the big ship that got destroyed. I'm thankful for the analogy because it fits excactly what I am feeling since I came clean and sunk that ship.
What's crazy is that the little lifeboat is more loaded with stuff than the big ship that got destroyed.
Well, you could look at it as the ship was to big, it created a massive distance because there was to much room for a WS to hide in. When you are in the life boat, it pares it down to the basics. All you have is your spouse, you and your own crap that you have to clean up. All you have to think about is your spouses survival and your own survival. You and all of your crap were on the ship... you just had it all hidden in different compartments and never took the time to throw it overboard.
Coming clean didn't sink the ship, the Affair did. Coming clean gives you a chance to survive in the life boat.
Thank you wincings. That makes perfect sense. I may not of noticed how much was on the big ship, but I damn sure knew where everything was hidden and even better where I could hide.
I'm glad it's gone the big ship and all it's hiding places. Even if we make it back to shore so she can walk the opposite way I am thankful all those cubby holes are gone.
Printed it off. Excellent post, a very accurate analogy.
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bumpity bump bump for another classic post. Hard earned wisdom should always be shared.
Wow wincings it is amazing how something so simple can seem so difficult until it is put in the proper perspective. That was pretty damn cool.
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Wow, thanks again HUFI, another great bump. And wincings....OMG!! I am so glad there are eloquent writers, thinkers and posters in the world like you ... such an inspiration. Thank you.
So sad that I am tangled up in all this seaweed. My one hope now is just to get my BH safely to the shore so he can get out of the boat with his dignity and faith that not everyone will treat him so badly as I have. And maybe on that shore, I can finally rinse off in a nice cool rain shower of the new better me.
bumping because I just came across it and am hoping my WH will start reading on SI.
Bump. Just coming across this for the first time - VERY well written wincings! Thank you so much for sharing with us.
I am still working my way thru the Muck - it is hard work but well worth it! Who knows when I will be able to get to the Mud....but then again who cares how long it takes as long as you are doing real work!