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User Topic: The Life Boat
Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, May 15th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for sharing this. I have shared it with my WS and can only hope he uses it. You are so right about exhausted, blown apart and adrift. I agree with others this would be nice to see in the library, I just happened across it here hoping to find some insight and 'Why' from the other side of the fence, so to speak. Thank you.


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
GeauxTigers
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 15th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the first threads I remember from when I joined SI. Words and techniques just as true today. Well done, Wincings! Hope you and WAL are doing well.


Sigh... how did I end up here?

Posts: 1379 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Nashville
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, June 12th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for a friend.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, July 15th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You will get there, just keep working one stinky fish at a time.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, July 17th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another BS here... this helps me to see that some WSs can be repentant. What hope for their BSs! I wish my WH would come to this kind of understanding.

To all of you who are working through your muck and your mud, keep working! You are amazing and I hope you are able to find reconciliation with your BS!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13188 | Registered: Jul 2011
brokenheartedrn
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, July 17th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for posting this.
Maybe my wh will understand this analogy.

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Bel Air, Md
Burl
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, July 17th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you



me FWH, 43,
wife BS 43
5 beautiful kids, 6-14 y.o.

DDAY Dec 2010
MC since Dec 2010

both going to IC
LTA
Doing everything I can to help my beautiful wife heal from the anguish and pain I have caused.ounting on a miracle


Posts: 65 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Midwest
DeeplyRemorseful
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Content  Posted: 12:06 PM, July 18th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow!!! Absolutely the BEST simply put, inspirational analogy I've ever read. My H/ BS has awesome analogies. This one was absolutely perfect. Think I'll share this with him tonight when we are home together. LOVE IT!!! Thank you.:)


DD 10/09
WS 40/ME
BS 45/HIM
No children
Married gtb 11 years
Been together gtb 20 years
Greatful every moment of every day my husband is here, we're together as a unit giving reconciling our best. Giving my husband the best of
me for as l

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: DeeplyRemorseful
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, September 27th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for friend.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
keepinghope
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, September 27th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is exactly what I needed to read tonight. I was about to go to bed and decided to log on real quick and see if there were any new posts up. Thank you for bumping this up on the thread list.


Me: WW (29)
Him: BH (29)
DDay: August 31, 2011

Posts: 89 | Registered: Sep 2011
MrsSprky99
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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, September 29th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is an awesome analogy WS....thank you so much for giving us BS's hope!!!


BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 53
Married - 14 years
3 Children - 25, 24 from first relationship & 10 y/o with WH
D-Day: June 11, 2011

Posts: 78 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Northern IL
fromthisdayfwd
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 2nd (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Married 8/20/1994
Betrayed
DDay 6/23/2010
A gift is not given if it has been demanded.

Failure to attempt is failure.


Posts: 391 | Registered: Jan 2011
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, October 18th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For friend.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
BaxtersBFF
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, November 12th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for some newbies.


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6016 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
helpemegetoverit
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, November 12th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, how have I never seen this?? Excellent analogy. Brilliant really. I love that it really pushes the fact that it is ALL our fault....too many BS take took much blame for '50% of the marital problems.

This should be required reading for BS and WS. Thanks for bumping, not sure how I have missed it in the past. I don't read every post but do normally read if they are bumps


Me: WW
Him: BH
Intuition is not a gift, but a skill based in self esteem.

Posts: 872 | Registered: Nov 2010
SilverSprings
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, November 12th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done!

Posts: 249 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: South of the Mason Dixon Line...
lostsuol
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Default  Posted: 1:08 AM, November 16th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This need to stay on the 1st page! Thanks WS.

Posts: 808 | Registered: Feb 2007 | From: Canada
ShatteredOpal
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, November 20th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Boat analogies will work beautifully with my situation. WH himself used the image of realizing that he may have torpedoed our marriage. Boats have been central to our relationship.


BW-47, married 24 years, together 27
WH-49, has LTEA w/ExGF, 25 years (minor PA)
Final no contact 4-2010
2nd A- 10-1-11 through 11-3-11
D-day 11-3-11 through 11-6-11
PA- mainly kissing until the last night when they had sex.
R- so far so good

Posts: 218 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, February 15th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Requested Bump for friend hope it helps.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
heartstabber
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, February 22nd (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also like this analogy - it really hits home. We need to heal ourselves in order to help heal our BS.

My H sent me this link and the first time I read it I cried. The muck & mud. Forgiving myself... That is a very difficult task, but it is such an important part in helping my BS heal.

Thanks wincings_sparkle


Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011

Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.


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